Wedding Forum - OMG can it get any worse???!!!!...

Hi everyone need your lovely help and advice.

1st though mods im not sure if this is in the right category so forgive me if it isn't.

Well some of you may remember this story from a while back that started with pageboys/flowergirls and we weren't going to have ANY family and just my friends daughter as if we had so and so then we have to have x y and z.

Well anyway my brother then mentioned it and I saidi would love to but we simply couldn't afford it so he said he would pay for the kids as he would of had to get them an outfit for the day anyway. so fast forward a few days and we buy a lovely dress for my niece at only 40 pounds and my brother agrees but sis in law seems relectunant but he pays it. Fast forward to now my niece goes for a fitting yesterday and I ask how she got on (I couldn't be there as had to work) sil text to say a few things need done so I text back to say are you still paying for alterations get a message back from sil saying she never knew anything about what my brother said and if that's the case she is not getting my nieces dress and is taking the other one I text immediately as the other dress is for another little girl and she simply cannot have it (both dresses are the same but one is smaller and the younger girl is getting the smaller dress) I assume as these dresses have both been paid for the dress shop will not just give it to her. when I finished work last night at 10pm I realised I had a missed call on my phone from my brother he must have called when I went bk to work I text him last night but they are away on holiday today for 2 weeks and not back til the 6th of august.

I am so so stressed out right now I cant even go to parents for advice as they are not in the slightest bit interested in the wedding-that's another story in itself!!! I just know she is not gonna do anything as what my bro agreed shes a troublemaker some of you may remember some posts about that! the other thing is h2b said I should give her another chance to let her help with the wedding and build bridges so reluctantly I agreed and she is making the tablet for the favours now im worried that's shes gonna cause trouble for that too I really am so stressed out I could be doing without all this. does anyone have any advice or anything im going out my mind

The stress its causing is unreal cause we just don't know if we are gonna be out of pocket if they go back on their word so im really worried about that and shes causing issues about something else which I have crying about other friends have told me I should tell her to do one its all so stressful its only 4 weeks I don't need this

I would speak to the shop and go around with a pack of biccies to brother and SiL house to have a chat and sort it all out ...CALMLY. Just ask if you can iron things out and understand where you all are with things!

she sounds real mature... get rid of facebook! It's just a stupid stupid horrible place... i left in october and have not regretted it... its a place where cowards make statements without just being uofront. (i.e the blocking)... really feel for you hun.

Just dont have her playing the violin at all then, if she wants to help she should be doing just that not kicking off because of her wants. Id leave it until they come back off holiday and just ring the dress shop and make them aware that only you can collect the dresses xx

I'd talk to the dress shop and let them know the situation; they should understand and keep it for you. Not sure what else to suggest for the rest :S

I would speak with the dress shop but once your brother returns I would also discuss it with him hun he offered to buy the dress so there for should pay for the alterations, as for sil if she persists with canon in d just remind her its your day not hers you have said no and thats that if she still persists I would just tell her no to bother playing infact I would do that anyway incase she purposely plays canon in d on the day x