My H2B and I have quite a few close relatives who have unfortunately passed on. We are going to have a table at the reception with their photos on as we want them at our day in some way. Some people have done this in the past with just a couple of roses on the table, but I was hoping for any ideas that you could think of that makes it a bit more special?
I was considering putting a floral arrangement on the table, but I think that might look a little funerial, and we want it to be more upbeat. I've seen a thread for ideas to incorporate them, but we know we want this table, and I'm just curious what ideas you could think of for the table.
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i couldnt have this.... id rather just hold them in my heart
Understand that Lala. It's not for everyone. Just something that we would like and the family seems to think it will be a nice touch. I just want it to be celebratory rather than dampening the mood.
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CommentAuthor~Beauty&TheBeast2Be~
I couldn't either.
I lost my little brother a few years ago.
He's always in my heart, and when we have family events, a little pray is always dedicated to him and any other passed family member.
I personally couldn't have an empty table with flowers and pictures. I'd rather dance the night away, happily knowing they are watching down or with me smiling dancing the night away.
I think you are a very brave lady.
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CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
Lovely idea!
Could you have a memories board? like an " I remember when ....." of comical moments? That way it wouldn't be so sad?
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I've lost both my mum n dad n have tried to think of ways to incorporate them into the day. We are planning to have candles lit in the church during our service. We were also thinking of putting a photo of them, and a photo of us on the table with the post box n guest book but not sure yet. Like u say its a way of including them without appearing funereal x
CommentAuthorBev
I like Mrs T 2 Be's idea. X
CommentAuthorAna40
I dont think i would like to have any empty seat or table, but i do think a table to the side would be ok. X
CommentAuthorCheekyTerri
It would be off to the side of the room. I love the comical moments idea, Mrs T 2 Be! That's lovely.
'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.'
- Eleanor Roosevelt
Excited for 9th August 2014. :)
CommentAuthorAna40
I think that could be a nice way to remember people. i think it would only be upsetting/negative if it was put across in that way. X
CommentAuthorGemmaP11
You could create a collage of lots of fun pictures, and if your photographer is going to get a picture to you during the day before the evening reception, you could add that in the centre of it? A few of my friends got married last year and the photographer printed them a pic there and then on the day while we were all eating.
Are there any items you have that were special to the people you have lost? if so you could always have them on the table too, like a teddy or flower they liked as just a few examples? x
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Very brave for doing this :) and I love mrs Ts idea xx
CommentAuthorSarahC903
We're doing the same, I lost my dad and my h2b lost his mum and dad, all too young! I don't think it is at all like a funeral, I've been to other weddings where people have done the same. We are having a small flower arrangement with their pictures, but we also have a personalised absence candle which has their names on, a little poem about them watching down on us when we say our vows, and the date of the wedding.
Everyone deals with these things differently, if this feels like the way you want to remember them on your day, you should do it x
CommentAuthorMundith
its a very nice idea, maybe name few tables after the loved ones or what their 'nicknames' were to make it super personal. xx
