Ok so I'm really stressing now, I have a horrible feeling in my stomach and feel really tearful. A friend I've had for years who used todo my hair, then stopped as she was a nightmare to get hold of etc, she has a 18month year old and had a baby in April. She said she Walsh wanted to do my wedding hair, so I waited for her to have her baby then asked her,unexplained if it was going to be too much for her it really isn't a problem, just be upfront with me. She insisted she would do it. So after a few texts i got a trial, it was £25 then she said the rest would be free, so I booked for the following week, in the mean time she said would I mind paying £10 each time and I said ok. So the following trial was a nightmare her baby kept crying and I didn't feel relaxed. Then the3rd trial she cancelled on me, it took a few days to get hold of her, and she didn't apologise, I explained to her I was worried and concerned and she reassured me on the next trial she wouldn't let me down, my mum came along and I thought it was all going good, she mentioned about me having extensions on the day to make it bigger, I wasn't too sure cos of the cost, but then she said she had some of her old ones, I would just need to colour them, so I booked for Monday just gone, and got the colour the other day, posted it through her door. Monday morning at 7 am she texted saying her dad reminded her of a bank appointment and she would have to cancel,and hat the colour didn't take on the hair and I should buy some new ones. I text back straight away saying when are you free next, and can I talk the hair and colour it myself, I didn't hear back until this morning, I've left 3 voicemail and lots of texts, she doesn't see,t o thinkits rude or out of order. So she texted me this morning saying she had left her phone at her more in laws which I don't believe as her husband works on her parents farm every day , so he would of brought it home for her, and that she can see I've tried ringing her, yet again no apology or when she is free next. So I called her when I finished work, no reply, surprise surprise, and she text me to say she is busy and will call later..... Well she hasn't, I tried to call her at 7.15, no answer. I'm feeling so angry now. My mum thinks its odd and doesn't know what to say, my sister is annoyed but said give her til thr weekend, one of my bridesmaids said shes lying and politely tell her your using someone else,and my fiancé says to give her a chance she's busy with her baby etc, but how many chances do I give her. Men don't understand , also I've got loads of other appointments to be going too.
CommentAuthorCanyouspellthat?
If I were you I'd probably go elsewhere. It sounds as though she's struggling. She probably really wants to be there for you and help you out but she's probably realised now that she's taken on too much. Babies (most) are incredibly demanding and all consuming, that alongside a toddler .....well.....as a mum of 1, I don't know how people do it! It'll possibly be more of a relief to her if you handle it gently.
CommentAuthorbrilly
What happens if she does it on your wedding day?? I understand shes your friend hun but I would have a look and start considering a back up, you dont want to lose her as a friend and your hubby may be right she may be having a time of it with 2 kids under 2 xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
id just go elsewhere, I wouldn't chase her anymore, and when she finally gets in touch after a few weeks (if she even does, as it seems to be you doing all the chasing!) id just say ive booked somewhere/one else
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CommentAuthorHelainaH
She might be stressed with a new baby, but it doesn't sound like she's able to juggle so many things at once (or becoming a new mum is taking more of her time then she realises). Start looking for other stylist now. You will still need to have trials with the new stylist, so the sooner you have one lined up the better.
Once you've found another hairstylist, then talk to your friend face to face explaining that you are aware she has other commitments and that she is busy, and to make things easier on both of you, you have found someone else to do your hair. She'll probably try to reassure you that she can do it, but in my opinion you shouldn't be making yourself stressed so close to your big day. Plus I'm sure you have other things to be sorting out xx
I'd politely tell her you thought you'd go with someone else to take the pressure off her. she doesn't need to know its cos shes been lousy.
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CommentAuthorangel830609
i'd find someone else hun, be honest but nice about it, just explain that you feel she's spreading herself too thin and you don't want to add to her worries, it does sound like she want's to be their for you but like some of the other's have said she's finding it harder than she thought it would be, good luck hun xx
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CommentAuthorLlosa
Use someone else, she sounds like a let down tbh, what if she did that on your big day!
CommentAuthorNatalieD205
Busy or not she isnt making much of an effort...... I know that everyone has busy times but its getting close to your wedding and you cant wait for her to let you down the day before. I'd look for someone else.... otherwise if she let you down close to or even on the day of your wedding..... your friendship would never recover. Good luck finding someone..... let us know how you get on :) xx
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CommentAuthorsarah
Agree with the other ladies, it's time to find someone else
CommentAuthordan22
She cant be that close of a friend if shes charging you. Is she invited to te wedding? Im a hairdresser and i done my partners friends wifes hair for her wedding without charging her as a wedding present to them and i had never even met her until a week before when i done a trial. What is she like as a friend does she usually let you down if yes then id book someone else to do it x
