Wedding Forum - RANT: Bridesmaids want to plan hen night :(...

I have a mixed bunch of bridesmaids to start I am alternative into metal, rock & goth music and well I use to Absolutely love going clubbing and every thing but now prefer to either go to the pub with friends or go round for a chat at one of their houses (love a bbq or outdoor party/gathering)
bridesmaid 1. is into similar to me but is a little huge bit crazy
bridesmaid 2. is into similar music to me but still loves to go clubbing
bridesmaid 3. is extremely pink, girly and slightly chavy
bridesmaid 4. is into similar music to me but more rock and well is a 6ft9 man who feels completely out of his league and a bit scared of the other bridesmaids, lol

BM1 thinks we should go out clubbing round blackpool (about 17 miles away), BM2 agrees with her but has some weird well OTT ideas for dressing me up and BM3 is happy with it all and thinks that though BM2 has some good ideas its best not to go pink. BM4 says its up to them. Then BM3 decided I was no longer aloud to be involved in the discussion, at which point I told them I would happily burn anything they tried to dress me in and I would not be seen dead in a club which they all thought was hilarious.

Well supposedly they have started there own discussion about this and well I am not particularly impressed as I don't think they understand how serious and amazingly stubborn I am.

My idea of a fun night would of been if I had the money (which I don't) something like glamping, but otherwise possibly a pub crawl (I would even wear some of their fluff as long as it was NOT pink and not OTT), though I would probably of preferred a meal then possibly a pub or two.

I really want to put my foot down with them but really do not want to upset them, I think I created a monster as only BM2 & BM4 knew each other before.

I think Glamping could still be an option. Think about the amount you would spend on a night out in blackpool, travel expenses, accommodation for the night, club entry costs then the sheer amount that drinks cost. You could get some cheap booze from the supermarket bbq stuff and spend the rest on glamping. Stand your ground with them and show them you're serious about what you're not comfortable doing on your hen night. Its YOUR night after all. x

It is really nice that they want to put the effort in, so it's good that you're trying not to upset them because I think bridemaides (and bridesmens!) get a little stroppy when their fun job is taken away from them. Could you try having a quite dicussion with one of them, one that is sensitive and sensible. Explain how you feel and then they can work on the other 3, kind of be your representative on the board :)

I've told my BMs absolutely no pink fluff and no c0cks. My other friends are trying to over ride that, so I've had a little chat with the BMs and said that I really am serious, I don't want those things. BMS want you to love your hen do, so they wont want to upset you. As long as yo uhave a sensible, serious conversation so they know you are not kidding, I'm really sure they'll take your feelings on board and plan you an awesome night :) xx

I agree with the list idea :). I'm not into clubbing etc either so I understand why you don't want to go. Just tell them you're willing to comprise with some of the outfit and where you go as long as they do to :) hope you have a fab night whatever you do x

Deffo tell them! I'm very lucky that my moh is planning my hen do and she is very similar to me with the same tastes unlike my other bridesmaids

I think you should just go with it, im sure your friends know you! I too would describe myself in a similar way that you have yourself and my hen do also involved a bloke lol. My mates are nothing like me but they get me and didn't force me in yo anything, though we did end up prancing around Amsterdam in Madonna tshirts, wearing bright orange wigs and then finished the day at a Pink concert and you know what I loved every minute of it and had an amazing time!!

Haha! When I asked BFF to be BM she squealed "ooooh, hen night!" To which I replied "whoah, easy! Don't get carried away yet, I'm planning that but there are loads of other things I'll need your help with, as I want a sort of mums & daughters day with spa treatments & maybe a meal".
You've just gotta be straight with them - you're only getting married once, so you should have your hen the way you want it

I am going to be one of the bridesmaids on my sister's wedding ceremony. We have bought five bridesmaid dresses from *************** five colors:pink,purple, green, red and blue. I think it is interesting. If we have seven people,we can make the rainbow.

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