Wedding Forum - Leaving daughter...

I'm hoping my ex is going to have our three daughters when me and h2b go on ours since he is their dad! If not,we are having a couple of days away and h2bs parents are going to have them for us(which I thought was really nice of them since they're not biologically their grandchildren) ... I have been on a couple of 1wk hols when my eldest was young before I had the other two and tbh she thought it was great,I thought she'd miss me and she was excited to see me when I got bk but she had lots of fun while I was away...I wouldn't worry she'll be in great hands and ur parents will love it!x

im leaving mine with my mum who will be taking her away and my best friend and her aunty will both pitch in for the remainder of the time we are away.

I can't wait. It's a rare treat to have time just for us for anything other than a couple of days once in a blue moon.

It is easier for us though, as mine is now 8, but yours will have a ball getting spoilt of nanna and granddad, so don't worry. my mum took mine away last april and she loved it, im sure she'd rather go away with my mum than me, as she gets away with more lol.

I keep on thinking over this conundrum wether to leave my dd with my mum and go away or to rske her with us like my sil did with her boys but they stayed in a villa lent to them but some family member but if we take dd i would want to stay in a resort with kids club so we can still have some alone time!

I want to take my 2 away with us but my partner is adamant it's to be just us as apparently I need a time out! so as a bargain we are taking them on a mini holiday before hand and we're only going away for 3/4 nights, I don't think i'd handle anything longer lol xx

our eldest has very difficult food allergies, so far since being diagnosed he has not stayed overnight with anyone, but am thinking of asking h2b's parents to have him for a weekend during the summer holidays, and then our youngest on a different weekend. slowly building up to a week over the next 2years. Unfortunetly myself & h2b dont really trust his parents with our sons food allergies as despite informing them constantly they still ask "can he have buttered toast, or crumpets, or white tea etc" (hes milk protein intolerant so cant even have lacto free foods as they have extra milk protein in them to get rid of the lactose, he also cant have "dairy free" foods as they are not always dairy free!), having just spoken with h2b whilst typing this, he agrees that this maybe our only option if we want a honeymoon. last time our eldest went to h2bs parents for a few days without us, it was before he was diagnosed and we had a mate visit for the days he was away, to keep me busy and my mind off of him not being there. it worked really well and we both had an amazing time without eachother! as the days went on, it got easier, however i did have to leave his bedroom door closed permanently, as seeing it empty hurt....

My daughter is 17 so I haven't got that worry, but I am worried about leaving my dog in her capable (or incapable) hands.

I'm sure your daughter will be fine and love every minute of being with her nanny and pappy. I know back in the day my daughter would have loved it... Just enjoy your honeymoon and don't worry..

'' Im gonna go against the grain here- I don't really think it's fair to leave them at home... Why have them before y'all got married if then your not let them celebrate and go on holiday with u... Even if they're from previous relationships they're still part of the celebrations and family.
I'm old fashioned in that respect.
Sorry...
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I think it depends on how you look at it. Sure we choose to have them...well, whenever we have them, but that doesn't mean they have to be joined to our hips all the time. Mine is older and I never went away when she was younger anyway as I was skint, but even then a long weekend away is sometimes the luxury of catching up on some well needed rest before jumping back into the real world again, I don't think its a bad thing not always wanting to take the kids away with you, as long as you know they will be entertained/happy

It's likely the one time a lot of people will get this chance just as husband and wife just them, and I think it is perfectly reasonable to want to do that - likewise, if you want to make it a familymoon, that too is fair enough. I know my daughter won't be stuck at home bored in the rain when we go, she's off on her jollies with her grandma, then spending time with her favourite aunties when she is back. She'll think all her Christmases have come at once ha.

And as selfish as I know this sounds/is, I don't want my honeymoon to turn into keeping the kids entertained, I want to enjoy the rare free time with my new husband before we get back to life as normal at home. There will be plenty of holidays and fun things we can do throughout the year(s) as a family, but this one, is just for us.

I do think it depends on how you feel about it though, we're both really laid back and we're not going to be fretting about being away from them, as it's not like it's long or forever, I get that some people don't get that, but I know she'll be off having a whale of a time.

I definitely get not as many are as lucky as I am with the support network I have and people willing/wanting to take her away, hell the kid gets more bloody holidays than I do! I wouldn't say no if her dad wanted to take her away because I couldn't bear to be away from her, as I don't think it is fair that SHE gets to miss out.