What do i do/say ! I've wrote my provisional guest list out and sent out STD's, i have budget for 77 day time guests, so all 77 spaces have been filled, mostly by parents, brothers& sisters, immediate family and a few close friends. I was happy with that. I've asked my friends and nieces/nephews not to bring their children as i just dont have the budget to pay for them, so basically my 77 was all the important people in my life. My dad rung me last night and asked if i had filled the guest list to which i said yes, and i could fill it easily again with other friends and peoples children. this was followed by a "oooh, whoops". :( He's only gone and invited his 2 sisters and their partners who i have NEVER met or even spoken to. So i tried not to panic (thats another £164 i havent planned for) and i told him seen as he's invited them without asking me then he could pay for them!!! He said not a problem he'd be happy to pay for them. Followed by another call 2 hours later asking if he paid for them could *who ever it was* come. I have no connection to these people what so ever so i said point blank no. Now my Mum is getting on at me sayin " well your dads sisters are invited and you havent even met them ... but your cousin stephen isn't invited, dont you think thats a bit wrong" AAAAAAAAAAAargh. I see her point, i am trying so hard to make room for my best friend and MOH's 2 children to come, and i have 4 guests now coming who i have never set eyes on before. Sorry for the waffle. Needed a vent
Lauren & Andrew
26 . 07 . 2014
CommentAuthorMrsMoran
Sorry you've been put in this position hun, it's not a nice position to be in. xxx
I'm not being funny in any way, but if it was me, even if he invited them, I would say to him that he can uninvite them because normally you wouldn't mind, but it's about keeping to the budget and you have already had to cut people out that you are related to that you see and speak to that you'd rather be there than 4 strangers. So if it was me, I'd say to him, if you was to add 4 more people on, you'd add on those closer to you. xxx
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Tell him he has to uninvite them and can invite them to the evening because you have had to tell ppl u actually know and are close to that they can't come and don't believe it's fair to allow four ppl u don't no to come. At end of day it's ur wedding not his x
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'd have said uninvited them too, cos it ends up going on and on x
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CommentAuthorsarah
I think it's time to start a B list. If people drop from the day they can take their place.
Definitely agree with Sarah, if people can't come for whatever reason and drop out then they can take their place, but for your A list you want people who you know and are close to, otherwise you'll regret having those that you don't know there over family that you've had to leave out of the day xxx
CommentAuthorBlue
Thanks ladies, you've all just told me what i already knew but needed to hear! My dad is a funny old thing, mum calls him "bombastic" (they're divorced) he kind of rules the family in a godfather way, so univiting them to the day do is going to be a challenge, but once i've explained i think he'll be alright with having them in evening instead (but he's still paying!) He's away with the fairground till after the great yorkshire show so ill have a talk with him about it when he gets back. Fingers crossed it goes well. P.s These people are probably back-up Z List. Thank you xxx
Lauren & Andrew
26 . 07 . 2014
CommentAuthorGillianE
I hope you get it sorted, dad or not i think it is cheeky of him to do this.
