My hen night is planned for August and is booked and paid for. One of the hens was my brothers girlfriend of three years.
Anyway, they split up about a month ago...my brother is now living back at our dads house. I don't know if this is relevant really, but she finished him and left him with loads of unpaid bills, taken everything in the flat they shared and told him she hadn't loved him for the past year. Tbh, I'm not sure how much of this is true or exaggerated. To be frank, i dont know her that well, however my brother is heartbroken. My brother mentioned in passing that she wanted the money back that she'd paid (£45)...we have booked a cottage so it will mean my other hens and I will pay more.
She is still friends with me on Facebook and also my moh who organised the hen night and collected payment off everybody. She hasn't messages either of us about it...part of me wonders if my brother is hoping we will give the money to him, and she won't ever actually see it...my moh who organised the hen do did say to everyone once they've paid, that's it, paid and she is inclined not to give her anything back. I'm more inclined to see if she asks for it back first, but then I feel a bit mean. I don't think she needs the money as she has just been given 25k of a trust fund but it's the principle.
What would you ladies do? I don't know if I'm just to close to the situation to think objectively about it xx
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CommentAuthorInDreamland
Personally hun, I wouldn't give it to her, it's not fair on everyone else, it was her decision to break the relationship and not come to your Hen. Her loss!
Oh, what a nasty piece of work she is! xxx
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CommentAuthorAna40
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I would ask her if she still wants to come on the hen do and let her know if she is/isnt welcome. She may think you dont want to hear from her or she may simply not be thinking straight at the moment. X
I wouldnt return the money though as she was informed earlier that this wasnt possible. She probably just said that in anger to annoy your brother. X
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
It's a toughie this one, does it say in the small print of the cottage contract that it's no money refund because if it says up to 6 weeks before or whatever she could have legal grounds to have her money bk....if she wants it bk could u not arrange for her to collect it rather than it going thru ur brother, I don't think it's fair to keep the money because I don't think she's gonna want to go unless as I said it's written in ur contract that once paid its non refundable ... Just going on moh say so that 'that's it' is not the way she's going to view it, and I don't think bringing the 25k trust fund into it has anything to do with it, I'd still wanna try and get my money bk... If u don't want her there then I think u should give it bk out of courtesy or she could end up turning up to get her money's worth and could be awkward if she wanted to x
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CommentAuthorJenniferY90
One of my friends has just cancelled on me for my hen weekend which is in 3 weeks time. She has asked for her money back adn I said there is no chance, I have paid for everything and not being left out of pocket or making everyone else pay extra because she has changed her mind. I definitely wouldn't give the money to your brother, if she wants it then she will ask you for you it. My hotel was free to cancel up to the date we were staying so my friend expected her money back but I pointed out that the hotel was completely full and so I would still have to pay for the twin room regardless of whether she was there or not. If I paid for something and was told on paying that it was non refundable then I wouldn't expect any money back.
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CommentAuthorMrsH-2B
It's not your fault they broke up so you shouldn't be out of pocket because of it.. She wouldn't get her money back from a company if her and your brother had planned a trip and then broken up, so she shouldn't from you either.. xxx
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CommentAuthorVintageChic
Especially so considering the unpaid bills and taking everything from the flat. If anything if it were me I'd give my brother the £45 on the condition that HE keeps it to put towards bills and doesn't give it to her. What an appauling way to treat someone after a break up!
