I think everyone just needs to calm down and chill out!!
We booked our wedding 3-4 weeks ago now and thinking everyone would be happy we have finally set a date after almost 2 years but no!!!
As we were adamant we were going to get married this year there weren't that many dates left and we are getting married on a friday which just happens to be my half-sisters birthday (she's 43 this year) and oh my god she wasn't happy with me at all, first of all she said she was going on holiday then because its her birthday, so I just said it was a shame she won't be there on the day, then she said she presumed she wasn't being invited all because when we met up last year H2B said we won't be inviting any random people and people shouldn't presume they are invited until they receive an invite (now H2B was talking about my mothers random friends she thought we should be inviting!! Not my only sister!!) so I explained all that to her and all she could say was OH!!
Since then we have set up a bookface event for RSVPs and general information where she keeps posting " Don't forget its my birthday" over and over again!! aarrrggghhh!! Grow Up!! So she's not happy at all we're getting married on her precious birthday, then my best friend organised my hen night for the month before which falls on the weekend of my BIL and Nephew's birthday weekend I told her when it was and said it wasn't be that organised it and said well I can't have more people upset on their birthdays because of my wedding!
So thats my lovely sister!! Then we have my SIL..... well what can I say???????
She's a massive pain! She moaned at her sisters wedding last year because she's been with her partner a few months longer than we've all been with ours so moaned that it should have been her getting married, and guess what she's doing it again and moaning to me about it!
Then there's the moaning on how expensive our wedding is going to be for her because it isn't in the area she lives, bearing in mind her grandparents are paying for her hotel room for her!! and apparantly I don't understand how much money she's going to have to spend with buying new dresses for herself and her child!!
Then she found out I was going to be wearing a sari instead of a wedding dress, and my bridesmaids will be wearing salwar kameez' so now she thinks her daughter (who is english and all her family are english and will be wearing western clothes) should wear one. (backstory since we got engaged and when her sister got engaged she went on and on about her child being a flowergirl) We have said no flowergirls and I've said I don't want her wearing something like that as thats what my bridesmaids are wearing but she insists!!
Sorry lovelies just needed to vent
xxxx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
tell her to do one
or send me her number and i will happily point out that she has a birthday every year and how special is it that you have chosen her birthday of all day on which to have your wedding .
as to clothes whey not state that you have a dress code
we were trying to keep it a secret that I will be wearing traditional asian dress only H2B's mum knew but now so does SIL :(
Thank you Lala I would understand if she was 5 yrs old but she's in her 40's and has had 15 more birthdays than me anyway so she should have had enough by now lol
CommentAuthornadia13
And it's not even a big birthday like a 40th/50th!! Some people need 2 grow up me thinks x
CommentAuthorEllenH27
I agree with Lala and Nadia.. she needs to grow up and realise the world doesn't revolve around her. and as for the other one tell her straight up that you dont want her to wear something which is like what the wedding party is wearing! I come from a big family too so I know how you feel, I've taken to not even talking about my wedding around certain family members. Chin-up hun x
I agree with the other ladies - did you sister make a great big massive fuss over her 42nd birthday? I doubt it - so why should 43 be so special all of a sudden!!
And as for your SIL2B/neice - if she's moaning about getting new dresses for herself and her daughter, then wouldn't she rather buy her a dress she can wear again and get her moneys worth out of it, rather than something specifically for your wedding, which she may not get the opportunity to wear again if its not her typical style?
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CommentAuthorsita_meena
:) the thing is my MIL2B has bought 3 dresses for our niece that she can wear to the wedding but SIL2B threw a hissy fit that it was her job to buy them (even though she is in a ton of debt so can't afford it!!)
My Sister has never ever made a big deal about her birthday as its just her getting older, but all of a sudden its all about her birthday
CommentAuthorStaceyP91
Im also getting married on someone's birthday and its my aunties, she was fine about it as she thinks my sister being here is a lot more important!!! We postponed the wedding due to sis being pregnant and living in Australia I refused to get married without her here.
I would state there is a dress code etc on the invite, make it clear again that her daughter isn't flower girl as you don't want one.
The day is bout you and your new hubby!!!
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CommentAuthorSazzell23
you should definitely delete her birthday comments off your facebook event page!!
CommentAuthorsita_meena
Yep have said that to her hopefully it will get through!! Can't put it on invites as they have already all gone out anyway!
and oh I have deleted the comments but they just keep coming
CommentAuthorSazzell23
Or you could comment back to her post saying 'yes isnt it lovely that my wedding is on your birthday, luckily you have a birthday every year so i'm sure you dont mind xxx'
CommentAuthorsita_meena
ooh good one sazzell23!
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I love sazzell's comment, I think u should put that too.... It's not even a special birthday,it's a mid decade one! Really? Think she's trying to cause a bit of attention seeking here!
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CommentAuthorVelcro
tbh, i can see why shes upset, even if she has handled it badly. I wouldnt dream of getting married on my brothers birthday regardless of how many dates were or werent available, if it was anyone else, then it wouldn't be so much of an issue, but I couldn't do it to a sibling or a close friend as I like to celebrate my bdays with them
It may not be a special one, but that doesn't mean she wont want to celebrate when it is with you... i know you can say, oh but we will do! I just think she may feel abit overshadowed by it, clearly she's very put out by it... and yes, she has acted very immaturely, but if I DID do that, I'd probably be really appologetic and say Im really sorry but its X day. I'm not sure how you handled it, so i appologise if you were apologetic, but it almost comes across to me as, oh hey, were getting married on your bday, deal with it and shes flew off on one....
Sorry, that's just my opinion :/
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CommentAuthornadia13
if one my siblings book 2 get married on my birthday I wouldn't b upset by it, I celebrate it also the day b4 or after x kind of have 2 celebration a mini one wiv my partner on the day & do something big another day!!
CommentAuthorsita_meena
When we went to book the venue our choices were that friday or to get married on a sunday so we went for that one, we didn't think she would have a problem as she is never bothered by her birthday normally.
I did apologise to her for it being her birthday and thoroughly explained the reason why we were doing it on that day,and she knew that it had to be in the school holidays as H2B is a teacher and we aren't getting married in the town where we live, no amount of explaining or apologising is enough for her and to be honest I do feel that she is being childish. She even told me we couldn't get married on a sunday because it would be no fun for her.
I never said to her we're getting married on that day so get over it!! I was concerned about how she would feel about it but never ever thought she would act like this!
CommentAuthorVelcro
Sorry, i didnt mean to imply you did, its just how it came across from your OP. Its not something Id personally be comfortable with doing myself, but that's nothing to do with it really, so i can see why she WOULD be upset. Maybe it'd because my brother is only young though.... and she IS a big girl afterall.. Hope I didnt upset you, that wasnt the intention!
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CommentAuthorMrs Richardson 2B x
I can see both points, but your sister should see it as an honor that you are getting married on her birthday especially if it's not something she usually bothers about. I don't think I would be upset if one of my siblings were to do that to me as your birthday does come round every year, your wedding day will only be once. Just maybe on the day, don't forget her, spend some proper quality time with her and make sure that although everyone is there for YOU they dont forget it's her day to and I'm sure she'll be fine. Now for the SIL tell her she will be wearing western cloths wether she wants to or not and if she don't like it, she's more the welcome to STAY HOME!!xx
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