Wedding Forum - Is it wrong that i have organised my own...

hi everyone,

just looking to hear peoples opinions on who they think should organise hen night

i have organised the main part of my hen weekend... where we are going, and activities for day/night etc

and i have decided on where i want to go for my hen night at home..

is that such a bad thing :)

my bridesmaids are cracking up at me..
i have told them i am not going to do any more, rest is up to them :)

i am a bit of a control freak and hate surprises...

have you organised your own hen night or have you left it all the ur bridesmaids?????????????????

i don't think i'm going to have a hen night but if i did i would prob organise it myself because a) most of my close friends are spread out across a few friendship groups so it would be difficult for MOH to know & invite the people that i'd want there. and b) because i am a massive diva and even though they have the best intentions MOH/BM would get something wrong and it'd just trip me out. I don't think it particularly matters tbh hun, everybody is different and do whatever makes you happiest. some brides hate having to organise the hen do themselves but others (like you and i!) hate to relinquish control haha xxx

yeah my bridesmaids are the same.. its 4 different groups of friends..

there are all busy mums/students etc.
for the time being this is my hobbie so i enjoy organising everything

i have gave control to one on my bmaids to organise the money side of things... but am kinda wishing i hadnt lol
in everyday life she leaves things to last minute.. and i really hope she doesny leave this to last minute


i would stress right out

:(

I've did my own hen do too! We are all so different, so i just planned and let them know what i was doing and if they wanted to come xx

My hen do is being planned by the bridesmaid I just need to turn up apparently I think I would rather plan in myself a girly night i movies beautifying or g to the spa and spend the night their or weekend as my lot do not drink so I think it will be a indoorsy hen do with a suprise I know what they are like =D ♥ X

Ive done my hen weekend myself just my friends have bought stuff which is a surprise so i have only got 19 more sleeps to go and i cant wait!!!!

I'm ok with it I'm sure no matter what they come up with I will Love as we have been friends coming u a decade and they should know me inside and out so they know what I will Love I have 100% confidence in my ladies so Just gotta turn up and enjoy myself =D ♥ X

Like the others I organised my own hen do - wanted to make sure it was what I wanted so OCD kicked in and it was planned with military precision! lol x

I am organising the quad biking and spa part of the day, letting my MOH sort out meal.

To be honest I didn't want one so putting everything in a day, staying at parents house for night (cos its bigger). I don't like surprises either and plus I hate the tacky bride to be tiara and veils and badges and wily whistles etc etc. I hate all of that, so I am hoping I won't have any of it.

xx

i didnt want to organise it but becuase my bridesmaids were stalling sorting anything i did it myself! xx

My Chief Bridesmaid is organising mine.

All I have said is that I want a say in where we go (it has been decided between us Tenerife) and the fancy dress theme.

Have told her that I dont want a stripper/nakedness. Would feel so silly!

My BM's organised the whole Hen weekend. All I gave them was the guest list and agreed the venues. The rest they wouldn't let me know a thing about .................I didn't even pay a penny all weekend apart from the additional treatments I had during the spa day part. Have to say, I was worried about it but they did an amazing job and it couldn't have been better! I'm a control freak too so found it really hard not being involved but it all worked out perfectly.

Traditionally the BM's are supposed to organise it all.
xx

I organised my own hen. My MOH gave up before even trying.

Would of loved a 'traditional' organised one but hey ho. Noone seemed interested till after i went through so much stress and waste of time over it!!

Apparantly now though shes doing something for the weekend before the wedding... no idea why or how! she let me get so worked up over my original one - which was fun but hey ho! x

I mostly organised my own, decided (along with the others) on accomodation and activity and evening meal venue, but they took charge of the booking and extra bits and pieces. Meant I had no major surprises but they had organised games etc

I've asked my MoH to give me ideas for the hen night, rather then organise it herself, because she couldn't organise a p**** up at a brewery. I would like it if she was more organised so she could plan it herself (providing that she tells me what she is planning) because it would be one less thing for me to plan. I may ask my oldest bridesmaid to help once she's done at University because she knows the area better then my MoH.

I have organised my own hen do as I wanted to plan something I would totally be happy with. I wish now though I hadn't bothered.....see the plan was to have a spa day with my bridesmaids and close friends and family members, had to have minimum of 8 guests to get exclusive use of the facilities for the day. All was fine until last weekend when 3 people dropped out with less than a month to go including my cousin and auntie....I was livid of course, I really don't need the stress at the moment as I've not been well.

What with that the venue also contacted me to say that two other people hadn't paid...turned out the venue had mucked up and lost their forms....all is ok now and sorted but again that gave me reason to stress out, grrrrr.....

I did manage to salvage the situation slightly by using their mistake as bargaining tool, they have offered by of way of compensation exclusive use of the facilities in the morning, then after lunch other quests will be allowed in too...better than nothing I guess plus the 5 of us will still have fun plus a giggle at dinner afterwards.

I just wish after all that palavar that I'd simply arranged dinner in town somewhere with my bridesmaids and friends, would have been so much easier! LOL

Oh it is, I've been there before twice on a work day out and really enjoyed it. It won't ruin it in the afternoon with other people there as it's nice and big plenty of room to move around and chill, plus it has a little pool, gym and sauna.

If you want something done right, do it yourself! If you know what you want then you should sort it yourself, that way you won't get any nasty surprises xx

ive organised my own due to the fact that i know my bridesmaids and moh are really busy with uni etc.. plus i got to choose where i wanted to go and what i wanted to do.
i even made hen bags for them all full of goodys and theyve all got t-shirts printed :D too exctied as its only 11 days away now! x