I've just started doing a rough seating plan, as in my mind, the earlier I have to do it, the longer I can spend on it, which equals less stress. (That's my theory anyway) & obviously I know it will change a bit nearer the time once people have RSVP'd.
Anyhoo, what I wanted to know is - is the whole point of a seating plan that you mix guests together who don't know each other that well? As a chance to get to know each other, or do you just stick people that know each other on the same tables? If that makes any sense? xx
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We had a top table of me, my hubby, our best man and my grandad i.e. everyone who was doing a speech. We then had a table for my family, a table for his family, a table for my friends, and 2 tables for mutual friends.
It's whatever you want it to be. We kinda of did it due to numbers so some tables were 10, one was 6
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CommentAuthorJenniferY90
I have seated people with people they know, I have 4 tables of family, then the rest are my friends and his friends. They mostly all know each other anyway but my lot are English and his lot all speak Welsh and at times they can be very rude and speak Welsh when there are Englilsh people involved in the original conversation so the English people feel pushed out, so it just seemed easier if we put them all with people they know.
CommentAuthorNevlar
im mixing everyone as much as we can! think its much more fun x
we are doing family tables, the teenagers who will be more mixed, adults with children, adults only.
CommentAuthorsarah
I think it's supposed to be the hosts creating a positive experience for their guests (if that make sense). I'd take this as putting together tables to create great conversation and to avoid conflict. I think some people use them as a chance to play match maker for guests. Others might try to use them to keep waring family factions apart. I think it all depends on your personal situation and the make up of your guests.
CommentAuthorAmyP7
We have put everyone on a table with at least one or two people they know but also mixed it up with people we think they will get on with x x
CommentAuthor*Jemma*
I'm also mixing the tables so that both families can mingle and chat, eg my gran and grandad sat next to his and aunty and uncles sat next to his.
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CommentAuthorJillianL47
We're keeping people on tables where they now everyone. We tried to make our friends mix during the engagement BBQ and it didn't go well!
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Thanks ladies, will more than likely mix people up, but as you've all said, have a couple of people that know each other on each table, wouldn't want any awkward silences lol xx
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Got engaged 16/07/2012
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Can't wait to be Mrs Sharp x
CommentAuthorStaceyP91
I am not looking forward to doing my seating plan final yet. I too have done a rough one to work things out but its h2bs family which are the troublesome as his mum & dad are seperated both with new partners etc. all great fun im sure i willl work it out.
Families i have kept together, but with friends we have just mixed it up obvisouly sitting those that know each other together.
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Same as ours Stacey, both our parents are split with new partners, so that's going to be fun!! Just our parents will be on our top table though, the partners can sit somewhere else lol xx
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Got engaged 16/07/2012
I marry my best friend 08/06/2014
Can't wait to be Mrs Sharp x
CommentAuthorTori
A bit of both for me but I think it's personal choice x
CommentAuthorVelcro
MIL said she's gunna help with this one as I haven;t got the first clue. She's also suggested mixing it up so its not 'our side' and 'your side' which sounds good
My mum said Id have to have my brothers girlfriend on the top table with us
I was like, er no, she seems a lovely girl but im not having someone I dont know on the top table because she doesnt know anyone. its not like im going to sit her next to my dad or anything lol
God knows where Il actually sit my dad though, saying that, i dont want him showing me up
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CommentAuthorJackieFC
I have the top table, then his family one table, my family on 5 tables, and friends from my side and friends from his side, we are not mixing because I know how awkward it's been when I've been on a table with a load of people I don't know x
CommentAuthorKirstyJ22
We've done ours so it's people that know each other together but there are a few tables that's a bit mixed but there's still people they know on that table (if that makes sense). It depends what your guests are like. Personally, I would hate to be sat with people I didn't know and if there was only one person on that table I know, I'd probably spend the whole time talking to them but if your guests are chatter boxes then it could work to mix them x x
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
ive been fiddling with ours and its a nightmare! im keeping people to who they know... my cuz got married a couple of yrs ago and they had no seating plan at all and it was chaos! and tbh people i think will be more confortable with peeps they know and the atmos wont be as formal xxx
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CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
Mmmm, that's true. I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable but that said - my family are complete nutters (I was planning on putting them on the 'Mad Hatter' table!!) but if I did separate them, I know there's no way they'd let anyone sit there quietly lol. Although that could be quite scary for someone who doesn't know them! Most of my guests will know each other anyway, it's just a few that won't. I think I'll just put everyone together, it's easier & less stress lol xx
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CommentAuthorocean
I've done a few penciled jobs of seating plans, it's hard work i must admit, and the more guests the harder it gets.
Firstly i considered if there was anyone who shouldn't be sat any where near certain people (family feuds etc) and ensured that i catered for that but also ensured that they wouldn't be sat alone in some corner.
Then i made sure that everyone was sat with at least one other person they know well.
Then i mixed half of his aunt & uncles with mine.
Then mixed up all the cousins.
Then all our family friends are sat in big families
Then our personal every day friends are sat in a few groups x
