Wedding Forum - Mum doing my head in!...

I may just need to let off some steam, but yesterday i got really mad...

Basically, me and my oh are getting married in Kefalonia next year and we have found it to be really good cost saving wise! But it looks absolutely beautiful aswell!!
Anyway, I went to a wedding fayre n my mum came the other week and in front of one of the stands she started to complain about how my fiance hadnt 'thought through' the ring choice of my engagement ring!! Basically, he didnt think of the 'ramiofications' of choosing a platinum ring, as we would now have to pick a platinum wedding ring- clearly not cost saving. And he also comprimised on the size of the diamond, just to get platinum!!!!!!! I love my engagement ring, and was shocked and upset that she was saying this. The man behind the couter was shocked too and was trying to back my corner while looking at my mum in amazement!

Also, I work full time during the week, so have planned wedding dress shopping for a Saturday. But that is me being 'selfish' and her and my sister (maid of honour) work saturdays, so cant book them all off to come to every.single.shop.- which i havent asked them to, and dont expect them too but ive been told 'it should be a good experience for all, not just for me'. also im being unreasonable not planning shopping for a sunday...you know, when all the shops are closed!!!

it came to breaking point yesterday when i got targetted for 'keep changing my mind'. Apparently im not allowed to do that in the early stages of planning- i need to make decisions and stick with them, so as not to confuse anyone??? we found a place yesterday that we would love to have our England Party (which my mum found for us) and went to see it as a couple, but got it in the neck for 'not wanting her to come'??? what can i do??? everything i seem to say or do is wrong and im being selfish??? i dont want to be the bridezilla but i feel like just not talking to them about it anymore and just making all the decisions myself with absolutely no input.

Im just sick of being made to feel like im in the wrong and i need to make everybody else happy, before myself and h2b.

:(

My mom is exactly the same, i put a post on here for advice.. now i keep my ideas to myself and not say anything, its easier that way and i dont feel guilty about what ive choosen because she doesnt like it x

I know, i think, what is the point of running ideas past her if shes going to complain about me being indecisive??? im not going to decide straight away, because in reality things happen to change your mind!! Unfortunatley my parents are paying the bulk of it, but after yesterday me and H2B said that we need to make sure we can afford it as well so that when we make decisions, we can pay for them and then tell them afterwards!!!
I dont want to be secretive, because i know it will come back n bite me when i get sat down and asked 'why havent you involved us? why havent you asked what we think?' blah blah blah.

I wouldnt bother to tell her anything.... she cant critisise or moan about things she doesn't know about. As for the ring i would ignore her comments and if she brings them up again then i would merely point out the ring is on your finger and you love it so actually known of her business and her opinions are hurtful.

For the dress shopping, i personally think i would take a week day off, its alot to expect other people to book time off for you especially if using their holiday up. I also think if you want them too come then pilote you fit in around their diary. The wedding shops would be quieter too as Saturday is a manic day xxx

Its hard involving everyone and you have to draw the line somewhere.

I booked 4 dress shops for one day and we did them all together in one day, i added lunch in the middle so a nice day out and got it done with my mum and 1 bridesmaid. Wedding dress shopping is exciting to you and it will be for them the first few times but after that it will become a chore to them so my advise is have 1/2 days of lots of dress trying on. Also i think you can drag out finding a dress. As for fittings i am going for them both with my one bridesmaid, my mum doesn't need to come too but advise you do take a bridesmaid so she knows how to lace you into your dress on the day. xxx