great i thought we had got all the meddling out of the way! today was sat wrapping xmas prezzies with mil2b and she starts on about how we have to invite rys cousins mrs just cos they have kids together! ry cant stand either of his cousins girlfriends and to be honest one of them barely acknowledges me! Why should we pay £52 each for them and then £36 each(x3) for the kids!! she says it will cause rifts in the family as the cousins didnt go to their other cousins wedding cos their partners were only invited to day do but why should we pay for some one that he doesnt really want there in the first place?? she says that their mum (her sister) will get huffy and maybe not go if we dont invite these people and although i admit if someone invited ry to the day and me to the evening i would be a bit upset but at the same time again why should we pay wen we dont even get a card or anything?? still i spose it will be worth the lack of hassle if we invite them x still it talking ry into it! x
grrr rant over!! just wanted to vent here or i would say something to her! i already have my dad saying about inviting his uncle!! x
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CommentAuthorpink*wink
its difficult isnt it? is it a big wedding? if it is, it might look bad on you not to invite the partner too, theres nothing saying u have to invite the 3 kids mind u. our best mans gf isnt invited (we r having only 30 guests during the day) but simply becos they r so on and off its crazy and we have only met her once coz of that reason. at the moment, they r off but who knows! she wil b invited to the evening do if they r on at that time! i can honestly say tho, that if my h2b was invited as a day guest and i wasnt, i wld b seriously miffed :( think its sumthin u need to sit down and talk to evryone bout, its about deciding and going with what is right for you but also, u dnt want any bad feeling either! wedding planning is sooo hard!xx
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I would tell her that you will either be inviting just the cousins to the day, or their whole families and them just to the evening. It's not fair for you to pay out that kind of money on people you dont even like! xxx
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CommentAuthorbeanies girl
Its such a shame when people are full of opinions. They dont realise how stressful it is for you.
Just take a deep breath hin and feel free to air your rants on here!! We are good listeners and offer no judgements
chin up babe xxx
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
you see i dont really mind either way although ry didnt want their kids to the day as they will carry on and be loud etc but we cant say no kids as my 2 cousins are my bms and thnn there my other cousin and my best friends 2 kids but to be fair they are coming a long way so we cant even say no kids! and it not really a big do although there are lots of family anyway! it just these two! although my MOHs partner isnt coming as hopefully he will be babysitting and her kids wont be there during day either! (hopefuilly she will understand that) it all annoying!
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wld u rather cut them out al2gether? that might solve ur prob?xx
CommentAuthorpink*wink
the cousin i mean!!!
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
not really no. there are 3 kids to this sister (rys aunty) one is my bridesmaid the other 2 have ignorant girlfriends one of them isdnt to bad actually but the other really gets on my nerves she is so rude and it horrible! but obviously cant invite one and not other and cant say no kids again cos iv got kids coming with mine! and ry has a new nephew it complicated! but as well if we cut the cousins out then his aunty will go on one with him and his mum said it will cause a rift! grrr!!1
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CommentAuthorpink*wink
jeez! i dont know what u can do.rock and hard place for u hun :( wot dus ur h2b think? xx
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
not really had chance to chat to him today but as far i know from other times i have talked to him he doesnt want them there! but that was before this chat with him mum so i dont know :( still i spose it will work itself out in the end! just mad! grrr! it this other girl she doesnt like us and ry not keen on the one with 2 kids cos she jealous of us getting married and each time we have done something like get engaged they did it we set our date they did it! grrr then again it might be his cousin not her! xs
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CommentAuthorpink*wink
theres a lot of water under the bridge from now untill invite time... sit on it and c wot evryones sayin then! and dnt get too stressed, ur day remember :D xx
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
cheers everyone xxx
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
It's up to you, but if you don't invite them as much as you don't want them there it could be really bad and people may fall out. Sadly this happens. Half the people at my wedding I won't know as h2b has such a big family and we didn't really want them there to be honest but I knew if we didn't invite them mil2b would probably fall out with us. Sadly when it comes to weddings people think they can stick their noses in x x
CommentAuthorTori
This one is a common complaint at the minute. Don't have any answers but can sympathise x
CommentAuthorShelleyM46
the guest list go's on n on dunt it , id make em pay for them self lol only kidding x
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
i spoke to ryan last night and he is still set on not inviting them! he says he is the one who is sorting out his guest list not his mum, not me no one so there you go! i think he will maybe come around but to be honest once he has made up his mind he has made it and the more you try change that the more he digs heels in so hmmm x this could be interesting haha xx
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CommentAuthorShazk
Oh Krazyguests list are a nightmare and even more when things like this happens.
Att the end of the day you cant please everyone and there will always be poeple who think they should have been invited all day or invited no matter what ets.
My h2b is like urs once he made mid up thats it, hopefully if you leave him to it he may come round or maybe not but like he says it is he (and urs) choice of who is invited not his mums xx
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
exactly mrs bram to be! i do agree that if ry was invited n i wasnt i would be a bit upsert but to be honest we went to another of his cousins weddings 2 years ago and i was only invited to the evening! and it didnt bother me as they barely know me! and it kind of the same here i barely know these women! (or the cousins to be honest) oh well it will all work out in the end and it will be rys choice x
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CommentAuthorpink*wink
and exhale! at least he has taken it out ur hands! im sure it will all be fine, as said, u cant please everyone.... when it comes to weddings, someone will always b miffed about sumthin or another!xx
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
We have a similar problem with h2bs cousins. It's not that we dislike their girlfriends it's just that we are only having fifty max at the day do. Eventually we decided not to invite them to the day do at all. Could you maybe play the venue/numbers constraint? I must admit that if H2b wasn't invited to a wedding and it was somebody who knew that we had kids/had been together for a few years I would feel a bit put out, especially as if it was a member of his family and I don't think h2b would go.
We have made a rule that if we can't have both partners at the day we will only be having them to the evening....but only if they are married or in a long term relationship.
Two hundred quid is a lot of money to spend on someone you don't particularly want there though...
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I'm not inviting most uncles n aunts and only 3 cousins to mine out of 30.... Only the ones I see and I'm putting my foot down on this one! I'd rather have more friends there than family I hardly see and don't even get Xmas cards etc off... Not worth the extra pay out!!xx
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
I thought about that having both to just the evening do but i dont think that will be acceptable either grr it really frustrating that all of a sudden we are getting people going you have to invite these or it will cause a major rift etc!! grr!! And then last night i had my nan saying that we constantly going out spending money we can save for the wedding!! I have only been out twice in the last few months and one of them was with a few friends that i hadnt seen for at least 6 months!! and even then we had a bogof voucher! it stupid!! i understand that we need to save but she seems to think that all we should do is sit at home twiddling our thumbs!! FAMILIES!!!!!
i cannot wait to marry my best friend
i love you ry!!!
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Mrs Ryan Sheader (to be) lol :D
CommentAuthorAmyK
Ha ha!! What is it about weddings that makes us actually realise what a crazy bunch of folk we're related to - or going to be related to!! :-D
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
well said!!! xxx
i cannot wait to marry my best friend
i love you ry!!!
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