H2b's parents have started trying to "advise" us that we should invite aunties/uncles and cousins that no one sees etc... h2b has said no so at least he is not getting pushed over!
We are having a small wedding ( about 45 day and 80 night) as having to bring the wedding forward as my mum has terminal Lung Cancer and I want her there so much as any bride wants there mum to be there.
We are getting married in a registry office and then onto a function room for a sit down meal and then just carry it on to the night etc. I really get on with h2b's parents but this is starting to annoy me !!
They said they would help us out financially but we think that is so the extras can be invited etc.
Sorry for the rant guys
Cheryl
CommentAuthormillz090
Maybe you need to sit them down and explain your feelings and what you and your h2b want.... maybe they dont understand?!
My dad is paying half of our wedding which i am grateful for my range up today to check my great aunt and uncle were getting an invite.... i explained no which he was miffed about but once i explained our reasons (paying per head, room space, wanted a small wedding) he understood. Some people dont understand how much weddings cost so maybe if you outline it too them then they will understand. Good luck xxx
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CommentAuthorCrawf
Bless u Hun! So sorry to hear about your mum and the problems with your in laws. It's tough but you need to explain that the wedding is about YOU and you need to do what you want. Big smiles and deep breaths xxx
CommentAuthorbride2be2012
thanks girls.
Oh they know the reasons why etc... I even compromised and said about inviting them in the evening so they could still celebrate with us but they were having none of it!
I am lucky my own mum is letting us get on with it.
CommentAuthorTori
This is something that I can sympathise with as I am in the same boat with H2B dad's family. Unfortunately, I cannot find any solutions at present. At least you have H2B on your side over this. Hopefully they will see sense.
If it were me I would ask H2B to perhaps go and speak to them quietly on his own. Since they are his family, sometimes it comes easier from a direct relative. Perhaps he could explain how much work you are both putting into this and you would both appreciate support on the tough decisions you have to make, rather than criticisms.
CommentAuthorNickJ
I hear you, im not much of a family person myself, so for me the big day would be just my wife "to be", me and my closest friends. But The inlaws "to be" squabble that if the "mother inlaws" mum is coming why isnt the "father inlaws" mum coming etc, so annoying!
CommentAuthorEllenS40
So sorry to hear about your mother! My dad sadly passed away 6wks ago to due to lung cancer and im getting married may next yr, so wish i brought it forward! I am having issues with my mother in law, wanting us to invite auntie and uncles and cousins who may i say I have only met once in the 12yrs me and my partner have been together....my partner isnt close to them and his mum didnt bring my partner up he was brought up in care. I totally understand how you feel. As i feel the build up to the big day isnt a happy one and dreading the day being spoilt when the day should be respected as urs and ur partners day!! Im going to go and speak to my mother in law when i know she is sober and inform her on how the whole process is making me feel especially when I am trying to come to terms with loosing my dad! I am going to make sure my partner is with me so he can witness what is being said as part of me wants to see my partner agree with what I am saying is about our day and not about anyone else and how everyone should respect our wishes!
I hope you get this sorted and you are able to enjoy the build up to the day and most importantly enjoy your day with people you want with you xxx
