we are getting married in 2014 and have already decided that we are not having any kids at the wedding....is there anywhere i can find inserts or something similar to put in the invites which politely explains that there are no kids invited x
CommentAuthorButton-Bell
ive been looking for the same thing already had a MASSIVE argument with someone i work with as she thinks im being unreasonable SHES NOT EVEN INVITED!!!! gurr
im also having the reception on a Tall Ship so there isnt access for prams and the stairs are real steep
CommentAuthorLulu1388
I'm sure if you g00gle it there will be plenty of poem/wording inserts available... there seems to be everything out there! There is never an easy way to get this across to guests but im sure they'll understand... Its more how you word it than anything 'adult reception to follow', only inviting Mr and Mrs in wording, having pre filled in RSVPs with 2 etc.... rather than NO KIDS, or ONLY adults... you know what i mean? xx
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CommentAuthorButton-Bell
^^^like this^^^^
CommentAuthorMrsC
Lula is right its more about the way its worded than saying No kids. There will always be someone who takes offence to this and you may find more people decline due to not wanting to leave their kids behind.
We were really lucky as the only child at our day time was our nephew who's 1 - everyone else bought their children to the nighttime
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CommentAuthorJoanna
There's a few threads about this if you search? You might find some useful answers on there as there's a few people who have done this. But be prepared for some people to not come if their children are not invited xxx
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CommentAuthorLynsey2002
We originally didnt want kids (only the 2 that are bridesmaids were invited as they were wedding party) but now my OH sister is pregnant and due in Feb and his usher OH is also expecting in June, literally a week before our wedding so now we have had to be flexible, Im not happy about it but cant expect them to leave their very young babies at home or with a babysitter.
xx
Lynsey xx
CommentAuthorOWB
I'm sure there are poems available, but you could say "We regret that due to venue/number restrictions we are unable to invite children".
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CommentAuthorAmyK
if people are upset, perhaps you could put it to them that they're having a day to enjoy themselves, not worry about the kids, let their hair down for a while. plus, saving them the expense of finding a pretty dress for little girl and nice shirt for little boy which they'll grow out of in an instant...
CommentAuthorEleanorR
What OWB said, blaming the venue means people are less likely to be offended (we've used it for no plus ones). It also allows you to make an exception for babes in arms if any guests get pregnant before the wedding!
CommentAuthorNEDebz
I found this on another website:
We have reserved ____ seats in your honor. (We filled in the # of seats)
M _____________________ accept decline
M _____________________ accept decline
Please refrain from adding or substituting guests as space is limited.
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CommentAuthorMrsK2b
We are having a note on the bottom of the invite saying that this is an adult only wedding and children are welcome for the evening reception.
I wish I could say due to the venue but were having it at a Zoo lol
You could put somethink like this
...we want to make you aware as early as possible that, due to numbers, and the maximum capacity of the room, we will not be able to invite children who are not part of the bridal party to the daytime part of the wedding. We both thank you for your understanding.
All children are more than welcome to attend in the evening
Or
To ensure you enjoy our special day, Leave the little ones home to play, So you can have fun dancing the night away!
Cant wait until I become Mrs K
CommentAuthorTori
Ooh I like that one been struggling with this myself
CommentAuthorVictoriaE35
Not being funny if you don't want kids don't have them. I am a mother of 3 and even thou our children are coming to the wedding I have paid my child minder to take them away from the venue at 8pm and look after them overnight. I want to enjoy myself too.
People will understand and if they don't then they are not true friends x x x
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Great to read this post, we've been really struggling with this. Fortunately we've been able to speak with a few people who we thought would be reasonable about it and they were all "Oh, I totally understand, plus it's nice to have an evening out alone". However, there are one or two we've avoided as we are guessing they will be offended! It's not that we don't want children but the numbers are tight and if I have someones three kids it means i have to choose three good friends to un-invite! It's so annoying that some people are touchy about it! Thankfully we're found most have been fine so far but just got to tackle those last couple of couples!! Eek. x
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorClareS
I was invited to my friends wedding last year. Invite arrived just for me and h2b. I double checked with friend re kids as there was no mention on the invite of no kids etc, but likewise my lad wasn't named. She said it was no kids. I fully understood the issue and arranged for childcare. It's your wedding so your rules. If people don't like it then they don't have to come. They should respect your choices. I didn't see a problem with it, I just wanted clarification so I like the idea of putting something on the invitiation re this as that would have saved me asking the question x
CommentAuthorTori
We have already had people telling us that they are only bringing their kids fir the day and arranging care for the night so they can let there hair down. That's nice but we haven't said we are inviting the kids (or them yet for that matter) and I also think weddings are boring for kids. Love the wording as it sets things out without the awkward questions
CommentAuthormillz090
I thin you will get mixed reviews.... Just be prepared for some people not too e able to come as their normal babysitters may be coming to the wedding too. That said we have some friends with 5 kids and they are excited to have a weekend away without the kids and booked hotel which is nice too xxx
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
We will definately be adding something to the invite. We did consider inviting kids, but most of are guests have kids and it would have just gotten ridiculous - our day list is fifty people, they have twenty seven kids between them, so at was a no go.
Fortunately, most of them are over the age of ten so not young children, and will be perfectly ok at babysitters. The general response from guests has been quite positive, they are looking forward to a day without the kids. We may have some of the older children (14 up) there on the evening, but not decided yet xx
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CommentAuthorTinkerbell
We've had this issue. We decided to put a note on the invites saying 'Due to the size of our venue, we regret that we cannot accommodate young children...and we thought you'd like a night off!'
Not sent them out yet so I'll have to see if there's a backlash
CommentAuthorbarbie86
We're having a largely child-free wedding: there will be just two children there, OHs 10 year old cousin, and my 12 year old cousin. We are making NO exceptions: that includes one of his best friend's child, who will be 3 at the time. We will understand if people can't come, but won't relax our stance for anyone.
In our case, we're simply letting people know in person, as there is currently only one day guest (the friend) who has children; and on the RSVPs we will list those invited. We will also put something re it being adult's only on our website. Hopefully this will be enough.
If we knew more people with children, we would probably not rely on that being enough, and would say something like 'due to space constraints we are unable to accommodate children, and we hope you understand'. Whatever you do, don't apologise (you have nothing to apologise for), and don't cite finances as a reason, as you may get 'helpful' parents offering to pay for their child.
HTH!
CommentAuthorvodkachick
thanks for the responses guys, i am gonna do some searching for some verses etc but i will also mention it to the people with children well before the invites are sent out so they are prepared and can organise babysitters ...(my daughters friend has already started lookin for one now and we dont get married till 2014 lol).
My grandson is going to be part of the bridal party (he will b 6 just a few days before the wedding) but after the meal he will be going to his daddys so me and H2B have agreed that if my own grandson wont be there at nite then no one elses kids are going to be there either x
CommentAuthorkatielea100
ove lulas idea!!
CommentAuthorsarahjo89
i posted a discussion about this on here a few months ago, as we are also not inviting children. and after month of trying to drum it into peoples heads, some are just not taking the hint! Have a look at my post and see some of the suggestions on there :-) xx
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CommentAuthorTori
People don't take the hint unfortunately. I think being clear and stating on the invite is the best idea x
