how do you tactfully tell them its your wedding not theirs?
CommentAuthorShazk
Sorry hun but I think It depends if they will take suttle comments and politeness if not will just have to be blunt and tell them xx
Are they just being controlling? x
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorVintageChic
Yep there's no such thing as a subtle way to tell overbearing family to back off. You have to just tell them outright that although you appreciate suggestions you only get one shot at this (well some people get more but you get my point) and you want to make sure your day reflects your personalities as a couple. Ask them to by all means make suggestions but make sure they know not all their tastes are the same as yours so you might not want to take on their suggestions.
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
Just take a deep breath then shout it out quick and hope that h2b backs you up, or put the film monster in law on :)
CommentAuthorMrsC
Oh dear hun, anything in particular you want to share? I think you just have to be honest and say it before things go too far
Depending on how controlling they are being depends on how you need to tell them to back off lol... if its major control issues with ur mother in law..then you just have to say it straight, if you think she doesnt mean to come across the way she is..then just nod ur head,grit ur teeth, and say thanks ill think about it lol..and then do what u want lol xxx
CommentAuthorMrs P*R*C*2013
I would have a little word before telling them to get their noses out! Maybe they do not realise how overbearing they're being. After you've done this to no avail, feel free to let rip! Xx
CommentAuthorMrsK2b
I think it all depends on what the problem is and how good your relationship is.
You could always say that you will speak to your h2b and then get him to tell them it's your wedding.
My mum got a bit OTT with the wedding and I just said mum I'm not marrying you and now she says your wedding.
