Hi, I suffer from several forms of anxiety and just been put on antidepressants to try and help with that, I know I've got 9 weeks till the wedding but I'm getting so worried about money, getting all the decs, favours, bm dresses, and making it all look good with what little time I have left! And to top that all off I've started having nightmares about the wedding. It was weird -he doesn't leave me or anything but everything I'm worrying about went wrong. I wake up at 10:30 in the morning (the wedding is at 12) and none of my BMs are at my house (except my sis cause she lives here) the photographer hasn't arrived and neither of my brothers are at the house. So I'm stuck ringing around trying to chase up people whilst my sis and mum are being pampered. Some how I manage to get to the wedding and that part goes fine -weird. Then for some reason we go to my dad's house till about 5pm, with none of the guests and then my photographer has disappeared, so I ring him asking where he is as we are meant to be having the photos done at a local park, but he's gone off to pick his kid up from school and spend some time with him so won't be back till 8pm and I get really upset because it'll be pitch black by that point and we won't be able to take nice photographs. I try to text everyone but they're photos on my phone at all blurry and there are no names so I don't know who I'm texting. We then head back to the reception but my second veil disintegrates and my dress disappears! It was horrible and now I'm worrying about sleeping :/ Is anyone else having nightmares/anxiety issues? I'm getting really depressed again and my M.E. flared up so I had to quit college so I'm feeling like a failure and I really want to pull off the wedding to my standards :/ Please help!
CommentAuthorSam
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Not sure if this will help but I've bumped two recent posts on this subject. The nightmares are totally normal and not particularly a manifestation of abnormal anxiety.
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Wedding nightmares are totally normal. As are most nightmares, it's just your brain processing your fears about something.
If you are getting stressed you first of all need to tell someone - half way their as you've told us, you've got to get it out of your system and off your chest. Then I find if I make a plan of action that helps me to feel like what ever i'm doing is more manageable. You need to try and stop focussing on why it might go wrong and think about what things you are going to do between now and the wedding that will mean it all goes well. Make some lists, set some short term goals, what are you going to tick of the list this week, what things will you focus on next week - that sort of thing. Don't tackle it all at once. And ask for help. Give your other half some jobs, make sure they know you need some help. Get your friends and family involved. Just don't try and do it on your own if you feel like it's getting on top of you.
It will be fine i'm sure but you just need to find a way to take back control and feel fine about it. That starts with talking about it and then usually deciding how to be proactive and tackling it. You are not a failure, you've just gotten overwhelmed. It's normal. Trust me!! I'm just lots of other brides on here will agree.
