I think the poems are all to 'similar' or cringeworthy! We are doing it traditionally and haven't bought our house yet, so do need the pots and pans, but don't want to be stuck with a load of vouchers for places we might not see things we like! It's just easier if we had the money to choose when and where to buy things from. Is this cheeky?
Got together 10/11/08...Engaged 25/11/11...
I become Mrs G on 25th May 2013...
...the other exciting parts will follow!
CommentAuthorSam
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It is really common to ask for money nowadays in the invitation but I'm just not comfortable with that either. I'll probably set up an Amaz0n wishlist and list items and vouchers that I would like to receive. The best thing about their wishlist is that you can add anything even if it is not on their site. I'll probably rely on word of mouth or an a wedding website to tell people about wanting items off the wishlist or money.
CommentAuthorAmyP7
We have been living together for well over two years now and don't need anything, we do however want to get a new bathroom fitted so i am going to ask for money for that. I am going to add a note in the invite saying we don't want yours girt, just for people to attend. But if they do want to give us anything we would like money so we can do up our bathroom and put it towards the honeymoon. I don't think it's cheeky, everyone does it now x x a
CommentAuthorTeganandRob
We're struggling with this as well. I'm not keen on the poems. We don't need any house stuff like pots and pans but ideally we would like to move next year so would like to ask for money towards the house move and new furniture. All of our current furniture was second hand out of the paper the most expensive being our sofa at £25! I would love to have some nice new furniture in our new house. Plus we're going to be trying for a baby soon after the wedding and money for that would obviously be brilliant. How to ask though.... I'll let yu know if I think of anything!
CommentAuthorJadeE26
My friend that is getting married in May is just putting a donation box next to the guestbook and I think the idea is people put what they wish for the couple in the future as well as money instead of buying presents .. I could have explained that totally wrong but is the jist of what I got she was saying to me lol xxx
I'm not keen on the poems either, I think they are a bit twee for our tastes. We have let a few key people know that we want money or vouchers, so they will hopefully spread the word! My mum said it is the height of rudeness to even make any mention of a gift in an invite, I think that might be an older generation thing though. I wouldn't be offended personally.
I think among younger couples money or vouchers is pretty standard nowadays.
Xx
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The First Day Of My Happily Ever After
CommentAuthorLegoWife
I've put on our gift list page on our wedding website
"The biggest gift we could receive is to have all our guests celebrate our special day with us!
However, if you'd like to give a little extra any money or gift vouchers from well known department stores (we suggest Argos) would be the perfect gift for us to put away and keep for when we want to extend our home or family!"
You could take out the voucher bit and it would work, it's polite and grateful without being a cringe worthy poem I think.
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
We just put in our invites "As we have lived together for some time, we don't need anything and your presence at our wedding is more than enough. If you would like to give us a gift, please get us vouchers for Ikea or First Choice or even cash as we'll be sure to use them!"
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary <3
CommentAuthorlizzylou
Good question! Good answers folks. I 've been really struggling with what to do about this. Think i'll do something similar to NinaP. I think just coming out and asking is less offensive than a poem!
Lizzy. x
CommentAuthorCamillaB
my friend wanted money for her wedding, and literally put on the invites that a cash donation would be highly appreciated and then said what it was going towards, most people like to know where the money is going... you dont want to think its going to pay off bill or wasted on meals on etc..
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
places like debenhams, etc do gift lists online where people can see what u want and tick it off
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CommentAuthorMrsG2b
NinaP I work for First Choice if you want a good deal ;)
Got together 10/11/08...Engaged 25/11/11...
I become Mrs G on 25th May 2013...
...the other exciting parts will follow!
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
Thanks MrsG- will remember that!
I really did marry my Mr Wright and we had a nice day for a
Wright wedding!
Mexico for our first anniversary <3
