So... after talking to H2b this weekend we have decided to put wedding off till 2014
Simple fact, we're going through the process of buying a house. Some of you may have seen my new home post. Anyway, i'm devastated but at the same time, you can't have everything. Only thing is, with me being 31 now, i'm going to be 32 when i marry and then 33 when i have a baby (hopefully). Just feeling a bit low and maybe i've left things to late :( xx
CommentAuthorSijen
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Sorry to hear this hun, but things happen for a reason and you're being sensible in postponing until you can afford the day you want...My husband and I have been together 10 years, I waited 6 years for a proposal, then 4 more until my wedding day...this was the best decision as we really did have the day we wanted without getting into debt and regretting spending that amount on the one day...plus we've spent the time getting our house the way we want it.
I'm 32 now (33 in January), hubby was 41 this month and we've just decided on trying for a baby but are not putting pressure on ourselves as I believe it will happen when it's meant to be.
Think about all the fun things you get to do in your new house and enjoy spending time as just the two of you!
10 years together...
Finally Mr & Mrs
27.07.12
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
Thank Sijen, that's so lovely you're right. I'm a great believer of things happening for a reason but i think sometimes you can't help but feeling down about it xxx
CommentAuthorgeorgie
Panic not i know loads of people who had children in their 30's me being one. I think youre doing it all right i didn't and regret it. Plus it gives you longer to plan and make it all extra special. We're having to cut it all right back to a gretna green wedding as we have 2 children and saving for a house. Enjoy the house x
CommentAuthorSijen
I know and you're bound to, especially when you've been looking forward to your big day and now it's a bit further away, but think about how quickly the last 20 months have gone...what where you and your H2B doing at Christmas 2010? Doesn't seem that long ago!
My Dad told me at the weekend that he couldn't imagine me being a Mum with stung a little. I never used to want children but the moment i met OH i knew that i wanted to marry him and have his children. Just hope my body wants it too :) xx
CommentAuthorElliekitty
Sorry to hear you had to push your date back! And your not too old don't worry! x
---Winter 2013 Bride ---
CommentAuthorMrs Ross
your not too old thats what i used to worry about and i am also 31 and when i get married i will be 32 and well im not sure when baby will come along ;)
CommentAuthorKarenB9
sorry that you had to push your date back but at least you will have more time to save and injoy your home together for a little while and your not going to be to old to have a baby by waiting another couple of years.
CommentAuthormarie08
oh hunni never mind you know you will get married and you can get lots of advice,tips and help from all on here.Getting a house first gives you the stability you need and your still fit and healthy to have children at the age you are.I wanted another in my thirties but me and h2b cant have any but ive learnt to cope with that now.Im in a position where id move 2mrw as hate the house we have bought (well area) but cannot do anything till after married due to costing so im waiting.We all get there dont be sad :-) xx
CommentAuthorShazk
Like the otehrs i understand why u are feeling this way but i cant see anything wrong with having children in ur 30's at all and know rahter a lot of people who didnt want children till that age so they had done most of the things they wanted to and had got them self in a state where they could have children and enjoy it.
Whats the point of having a nice house, the big wedding day and children if your unhappy and cant do anything as you got ur self in big debt to get there?!
it will happen like you believe everything ahppens for a reason and so yes putting the wedding back is :( but you will have a better day when i arrives as you will be greatfull for every little thing because of the wait and you will be all settled into the new home and comfortable xxx
BIG hugs xx it is horrid and do understand we looking at getting our 1st home and hense why 2014 for our wedding and to be honest way things are going it possibly going to be 2015 if things dont start going our way but i would rather be happy and settled that worrying about allt he money etc xx
Away with the flutterbys xxx
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I know exactly how you feel, I will be 33 when I marry so (fingers crossed) 34 by the time I have a baby. I get this panicky feeling that I'm going to have problems and sometimes my chest feels tight thinking about it. The worst thing is I work in maternity so I know that thousands of women have babies over 30 and have no problems whatsoever so I don't know where this panic comes from. I think it has something to do with the fact that ALL my friends have babies. My poor sister is 41 and still without child but she's decided to try now. She's having a real rough time of it and my fear is that I get pregnant before her because it will break her heart.
I can't wait until 29/06/2013
The day I marry the man of my dreams!
CommentAuthorVelcro
Il be 31 when we get married, oh wait, no I won't I'll be 32! Oh the woes! I'm really hung up about it, but I keep having to tell myself I can't de-age, and if I want the wedding I want, then it's going to HAVE to be in 2014. You'll be so much happier when the date finally rolls round that you already have the mortgage sorted and you can just ease straight into married life :) We were gunna do ours next year, but after some umming and ahh'ing knew it'd feel too rushed and we have to do somne home improvments and I want everyhing sorted before we get married. It'll be worth it in the end hun :) x
Wibbly wobbly, timey wimey
*Kelbel* is my wedding twinny!
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Hun , you have definately not left things too late. look at the positives, more stability with a house and a perfect place for bringing up a family. x
CommentAuthormym72
You're definitely not leaving too late. We got married last year, when I was 39 and husband was 33. I was 40 at the beginning of this year - and although I already have an 18 yr old son with my ex, we're now planning to have a family together (fingers crossed), so I'll be 41+ if I have a baby.
CommentAuthorInDreamland
Awww Hayley you're not leaving it too late - well I hope not anyway because that means I am too, I'm 32 now, will be 33 when we get married so may not have a baby until I'm 34 unless I get pregnant straight away but I'll be almost 34 then anyway by time I give birth! xxx
Married the love of my life on Saturday 11th May 2013 xxx
Had our dream perfect honeymoon in Hawaii!
CommentAuthorHobbitBeth
You're not leaving it too late hun, its never too late. As long as you're comfortable :)
x
CommentAuthorHayley Elizabeth
Thank you so much girls for all your kind words, it feels so reassuring that there's others out there in the same boat as me. You're right too. At least i can get my little nest ready for when the babies do come :)
It worries me as i know there can be complications but like some of you have advised, there's no point in worrying about it now as it's not going to achieve anything. Thank you all so much, BIG HUGS xxxx
CommentAuthorPB
Don't worry as all the other ladies have said you have plenty of time these days 33 isn't old at all to start trying for babies xxx
CommentAuthor
You've not left it too late you're doing it all the right way! I got pregnant at 22, now we're getting married at 27 and then probably going to struggle for the rest of our lives to afford a deposit for a mortgage! totally the wrong way round Good luck with it all xxxx
met the man of my dreams 22/09/2006,
Had our amazing twin boys 16/05/2008
Finally becoming Mrs Davies on 31/08/2012 will make me the
happiest lady alive :-)
CommentAuthorAmyP7
You haven't left it to late, mid thirties is the norm for people to be having babies and you will be financially stable with a house x x
