Me and hubby are contemplating what to do with our life. At the moment we have a flat, a car and jobs neither of us are particularly bothered about - it pays the bills. We got a decent amount of money from the wedding. We initially assumed that we would be using this money for a deposit for a nice wee house, etc. We've talked about travelling a lot. We both want to see the world. We live in a dreary wee ghost town in Scotland where it just keeps going downhill. Most of the shops in the town have gone bust and its becomming a more and more dodgy area to stay. We still wont be able to afford an amazing house on our salary but we would get something small in a not bad area. So last night husband says, he seriously want to travel. I said I do too! I spent 6 years as a wanderer. I loved it, I didnt get very far as it was where the singing work was. Now I am going to plan this. I want us to start a new life together. I think our best bet would be to sell everything and just go where the wind takes us. But I am not sure whether we'd be better renting out the house, sorning the car and going away for 3 months (as hubby would get a sabatical from work).
Does anyone have travel advice? Long term plans to travel or emmigrate?
I know you all have the wedding on your mind at the moment but has anyone made exciting plans for after the wedding?
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CommentAuthor*Kat B*
me and hubby thought about emigrating to florida but still not sure, there's the uproot cost, finding a place to live / jobs etc..
As for travelling, it depends on what type of adventure you want, pack up and leave and be away for 2 years or just a back packing trip for a couple of months. Check out the british embassy website for details on particular countries, speak to independent travel agents (not the main high street stores) and gauge costs. After my wedding I set up my own business still early doors as only been up for a few weeks but that's all I'm thinking about for the short term - who knows might have kids to worry about long term haha xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i would love to travel but i think i want a house and children more i will travel when my kids grow up or i'll travel with them!
I think its a fab idea if you both want to travel just do it! if you don't you'll spend all your life regretting it
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I was thinking about going back to college, it would so much easier if we sold the house though. At the moment, I would get very little help with stupdent fees due to our combined wage being £1000 over the threshold :-/ very annoying as we are pretty skint after we pay the bills. So if we were to go travelling, we could come back and start fresh. I am definately up for it, I like the idea of taking 2-3 years away. Get as much experience as possible before we settle somewhere. Who knows if we could end up finding somewhere to settle. Husband plays guitar and I sing, so the guitar would have to come with us :-)
I dont know many independent travel companies though, I think our wee town just has a thomsons and a thomas cook. Might be best going to glasgow and seeing whats about. Its a shame that we dont get the student discount lol.
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CommentAuthorHobbitBeth
Once me and H2B are married, i will be moving here there and everywhere due to him being in the Armed Forces. I think we're be off to Cyrpus firstly, but we'll be moving everywhere around Britain. I'm quite excited about it, but i know it'll get very boring after about the 4th move! Once he's out, we'll settle down and weigh up our lives and go from there
Sweetie go and do it before you get bogged down with life to much. Go do it while your young once you have kids it will be a long time before you can or will want to travel again. Then you will never look back and think wish we had done that. Think about a house and a morgage once you get back,
And don't leave it till say next year if its what you both want set the wheels in motion now. Advice from a 42 year old with 4 teenagers and a morgage
CommentAuthorHeather
Hobbitbeth, you will love it our bil. Is in the army and they travel around every few years, its a bit harder now they have kids as she and the kids stay put. And there is a good bond with army wives as you are all feeling the same and have been through the same stuff.
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Heather, thats great to hear you say that (well see you say that lol). Husband looked me in eye last night and said how much he wants to do this. Then this morning when I started sending him messages about actually doing it, he has calmed down saying "he isnt sure". Its cos he is scared and it is scary but if you dont do anything scary ever than your life will be pretty dull. So I am leaving the ball in his court. He needs a kick up the bottom. Im quite annoyed he is back tracking now. I am one of those people that when I get an idea in my head, I do it. I have to start planning it. He just hums and haas about things. I may just need to slap him and say we are doing it because you want to and so do I!!
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CommentAuthorVelcro
I'm thinking just sitting down and not having to think about anything might be nice haha, we have the bathroom, kitchen and patio doors to sort out, then the wedding, then we want a new house. Then we plan on sitting down and never moving or planning anything ever again. Apart from the odd holiday somewhere warm ofc. :)
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
To be completely honest, I'm quite happy to do either. Ive already travelled and I loved it, I can adapt quite quickly but I love having our own wee home as well. I would be happy to settle down or to travel. It annoys me that hubby cant make a decision and stick to it. He has been going on about travelling forever but when it comes down to it, he has no idea where to start. I hate talking about things you can do, I just want to get on with it :-/
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CommentAuthorVelcro
I wish we had the opportunity to travel, we have two young kids between us, and the mortage. And my cat (lol)
I guess, if we suddenly came into money, then I'd jump at it, there're just be alot of planning with the kids... if you don't have any yet, then you need to jump at the chance to be spontaneous while you can, you don't want to settle down and think woo this is nice, but I wish I'd done it next year instead. As you have already done it before, you could choose were to start, let him take a back seat and throw in some ideas once you've actually started, just to get the ball rolling.
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Just spoke to husband. He has woken up in a total grump. Worried about housing market - if we go away an spend all our money, how can we get a house when we get back etc, etc. I am trying to talk him round because I know deep down, he desperately wants to do this. He is just so scared of coming back to nothing. I know its not easy to start again after travelling but it can be done. Lost on what to say to him now. He came up with the idea and goes on about it all the time but when I actually say about doing it, he says what about this, what about that. Arggghhhhh!
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CommentAuthorVelcro
Sit on it for a while, see if he comes round on his own, just drop a few random hints here and there haha, I tend to put an idea in Toms head, he'll say no but every so often I'll mention something related, and let it manifest itself for a bit, then suddenly, he'll decide he wants to do something, doing a complete uturn becuase ive planted the seed and very discreetly pecked his head about it, and made him thinks its his idea and that he wants to do it haha
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CommentAuthorVelcro
THough failing my discreet brainwashing, if he's really adamant, I'll just get my boobs out. He'll agreet to out then....!
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CommentAuthormillz090
DO IT NOW !! My best friend travelled around thailand for 3 months and loved it, came home, worked and saved up and was kind of expected to buy a house as what we are all doing at the moment and then thought actually i dont want to buy a house yet but want to see the world before so spent her savings on a single flight to New Zealand. She has been there since January and loves every single minute of it. She lined up a job before she went and booked accommodation for a month so she could sort herself out and then worked for a bit then moved on and travelled around, finding work in each place either cleaning at hotels or bar work and just living the life and moving on... she absoutly loves it and meet so many people. It is fun not being tied down and can move on if she doesnt like the area or anything. Also by working in different places she isnt using her savings too much and meeting proper local people as working alongside them. She only has a years visa and had to keep enough money back for a flight home so will see in December what she is going to do, may come home or may go on somewhere else.
She was so nervous beforehand as spent her house savings on a trip but actually had the best year of her life so far and seen some amazing places and would be very hard to do if you had children so my advice would be do it while you are young, without kids and fallen into jobs you love/enjoy. You have the rest of your lifes to settle down, buy houses and have kids and i think you will regret it if you dont as seed is already in your heads now !! xxx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I know, its so true! I need to sit him down and say all this. I know its what he wants to do but he is so unsure because he also wants us to have a family and a nice house. But Im 28 and he is 30. We could still travel for 2 years and come back in time for kids and a house. Like I said before, its really for him as I know he will love it but at the same time. I am happy just be with him, I dont him to settle into a job he just does to pay bills, having never had any really amazing experiences. B00bs might help, he is a fan of them. Maybe if I flash them at him and say, let go travelling at the same time, he'll subconsciously agree haha.
I so want to do it though, I want to show him the world! Ive not been that far but I wouldnt change my experiences for anything. He is just so scared of coming home and starting again. I think if he doesnt do it, he'll regret it forever.
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Maybe its the length of time thats scaring him? Could you not organise a "taster" of travelling for maybe a month or so, see how it goes then once its over decide once n for all what to do. Like just use holidays at work, take a "break" from a mortgage payment that kinda thing - so ur not coming back to nothing but u both get a taste of what it will be like! x
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
See I suggested that we do 3 months. His work would give him a sebatical - my work wouldnt but I only work part time and I hate this job anyway. A month would be awesome as well though. He seems to be having a really bad day cos he mentioned it to his mum......well she has stayed in the same wee town all her life and always been VERY sensible. So she obviously thinks we are crazy for not wanting to settle down in a house and stay in the same reliable jobs. I understand that but this is our life and we have to live it how we want to or we will never be truly happy. I dont know. He wouldnt go on about wanting to travel so much if he didnt really want to do it. Its his annoying nosey bl00dy mother giving him hassle. She cant keep her nose out of anything.....grrrr
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
I can see his worries, what if you get back from these travels with no money and getting new jobs isn't as easy as you expect it to be? Especially if you sell the house spend all the money and then you've got no job and no home and that's probably not worth the stress.
However, the three month thing could be a really good choice he'd still have a job to come back to then at least. And it'd be like having a 3 month long honeymoon. That would be awesome.
But on the other hand I don't get the appeal in needing to own a big house when you could be using the money to really live and enjoy life instead of settling right away.
That said, you could always sell your current place put enough away for a deposit and a few months rent for somewhere when you get back and then starting again won't be so daunting cause you'll have planned ahead for it. No shame in renting when you've spent the last year or so of your life travelling the world, who cares if you don't own a house after an experience like that?
I'm sure you can plan a sensible way to do it so that your not left in the lurch when you wanna come home! Just need to talk him round :D
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Totally, I said to him earlier, everything in this world in material. As long as we either budgeted for when we come back or did 3 months with a strict budget. Why worry about getting a slightly nicer house than we have, we both talk about it all the time and watch Human Planet, Planet Earth etc with total awe. I am easy going and wouldnt be overly upset if we didnt go but I know he wants to go and it annoys me that his overbearing mother is always in his ear! She was telling us not to buy a bed from ikea and to buy it from here, ehhh we are paying for it! She is becomming more annoying....
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CommentAuthorNicsquared
I went travelling for 6 months in 2009 just as the recession wad hitting- h2b only came with me for a short period the rest of the time I was with a friend. I can honestly say it was the best decision of my life. There are so many experiences you learn from and it's humbling to see how other people manage with so little. . The only regrets I had were not going for longer and h2b not being there the whole time. I used the money I would have put towards the house deposit whilst all our friends were starting to settle down. Everyone thought I was crazy but I have always enjoyed travelling to unusual places so would have really regretted not doing it. Only prob is that I want to do it again :)
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Darling do it .... i wish i had wehn i was younger
Hubby has decided he wants to settle down....then we did mortgage calculations....Its impossible for us to get anything much better than we already have on our wages :-(
We had a proper chat last night and he said that he didnt think travelling would make him truly happy and he wanted us to get on the mortgage ladder properly...We cant afford anything much better than what we already have. I dunno. Life is hard, plus he didnt get the managers job :-/
Life is hard sometimes. Hardly anything works out for us. Arrrgghhh :-(
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CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
wow!! i'd love to be able to just pick up and travel!! if you can do it, DO IT!! :)
our long term plan has always been to move to australia, but don't know if that'll happen now as i'm having to put nursing degree until kids are in school :( could still move, but it would mean i couldn't really get a decent job over there.
we're dying to move somewhere far away. i'm trying to convince him to move to dubai. he's not really for it though :(
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CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
aw just read your last post :(
you could buy somewhere and just rent it out?? means your still on propertly ladder and the cost of mortgage is covered, maybe even a little extra a month to fund some of your travels??
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I think hubby was considering that before. Thing is when it comes to mortgages and all that stuff, he knows a lot more than I do. But at that, I dont think he knows that much. He has had his current mortgage for 8/9 years now. We really need to go and ask the bank for advice.
arrrghhh. Money matters make my brain realllly hurt. He has booked us a meeting at the bank so we'll see what they say. However if they offer us a really rubbish mortgage, we might be better off going travelling and starting from scratch when we get back...
Nothing is ever simple is it lol
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CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
i think the general rule of thumb is that private rent is normally 25-50% more than your monthly mortgage payment. so i wouldn't worry about mortgage not being covered.
i'm not the best for advice as i tend to just jump in and take a chance on things lol h2b is the one who brings my head out of the clouds lol
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Yup, sounds like me too. I need to leave Hubby to sort most of this stuff out, at the end of the day (even though we're married) its his flat, he lived there for 5 years before I moved in and pays most of the bills. So I've decided for now to let him have a think.
I am still hoping we can go travelling though :-/
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CommentAuthorb2bnicola
Can u not get a better house in an area just outside where you want? x
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
To be honest for the mortgage we calculated we wouldnt be able to afford the house we already have! Ive no idea how that works but the mortgage calculater said we could have a very small amount and I dont understand why. I thought it was 3 times your salary. Its double on the calculater we used. Is that normal?
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I think it varies Hun, depending on your circumstances.
Go in and see what they say.
Also, if you are thinking about renting don't forget to factor in tax, letting fees, monthly management fees, insurance and repair and maintenance bills (if you are out of the country, you may need to use an agency to collect the money and deal with the reps and maintenance side of things, these generally cost around ten percent of your monthly rent, plus vat.
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Yeah, definately need to speak to the bank. Im clueless, this will be the first time I've dallied in mortgages. Hubby sorts house stuff/bins and I sort car stuff and tidying :-)
Ive developed a horrible headache with all the stuff flying round my head. Plus rehearsing tonight with my band :-/ acht well only 50 minutes till work ends! Thankfully.
I am going to see what the bank says and then we can make an informed decision. If we are gunna get sod all for our money, we might as well use it to go see the world I think....
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CommentAuthormrscookiecrew
we're moving to burnham-on-sea in somerset which is where im from originally and renting for a bit as even though h2b lives with me he's never been away from our town longer then 2 weeks before so he's a bit dubious about the move even though it was his idea lol. h2b is a postman so can easily get a transfer and i work in a nursing home B*PA. so can also use that to get a transfer and then do my nursing training, teaching assistant training or dental nurse training (want to do any of the three, im greedy lol). theres a lot more oportunities there for me then where i live. and have a baby lol x
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CommentAuthorHalebob85
We will be moving to Japan after we get married. I will be teaching english as a foreign language. Not sure what h2b will do. As you know from travelling, it is one of the best experiences you can have and I found it made me a better person cause I have experienced different countries and cultures and made friends from around the world. I'm lucky that h2b loves travelling as well.
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