So our date is/was/maybe the 10th of december next year but we realized because it's a tuesday family members would struggle to get days off etc and because our venue will be gretna it is also a good 4 hour drive and feel we are asking a lot by getting them to take holidays plus travel for our day plus they would either need to stay the night (more money) or they would need to drive back, with children another four hours so 8 hours driving for them, plus they lose a holiday i just feel like its far too much! The thing is our date is because its our anniversary but our next anniversary to fall on a weekend is 2016 which is too far away. We then considered doing it at an anniversary and a half but no weekends on that date either. Then we considered the engagement date but that wont fall on a weekend either...same with our birthdays and any other date that it special to us :/ My OH is replacing our engagement ring and "reproposing" because when ours got resized it was too think at the back and broken :/ So OH said it was always suppose to be a temporary one until he could afford "one i deserve" (i loved that one though, price doesn't matter) Wondering what made you all pick your dates? x
CommentAuthorBobsi
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Im sure most people wont mind taking 2 days off.most companies have 28 days holiday which they translate into 5 weeks and 3 days so they would be fine taking a mini holiday. if you give them enough notice they can sort it out.most places of work these days are open 7 days a week so they could work it so their days off are on your wedding day. we are looking at getting married on a thursday as it is much cheaper than getting married on a friday/saturday. xx
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
We chose the 8th because thats the date we got together, the month had no relevance to us though, just the date itself.
Hmmm i dont know what to suggest hun, because i know what you mean, its what we wanted too. I hope you figure out something xx
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CommentAuthorAnastasia
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I am sure if you gave everyone plenty of notice they would try their hardest to be there! Why not ask your family what they would think before you make a decision :-)
The 18th of Jan is our anniversary but we did not pick this for that reason. We chose January due to both having our own business's & it's the quietest month. We then knew it was perfect because that is Kenya's summer. The flights are every friday & we chose to fly the 11th because the 4th would have been far too soon after Xmas/New Year. So once we had booked & they asked us our preferred wedding date it suddenly clicked that we were away for our anniversary so let's do it on that day but we were easy x
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CommentAuthormillz090
Its a tough one as i would take 2 days off work for a close friends/family wedding but i know alot of people wouldnt or couldnt especially if self employed as lose money. Also December is hard as i often run out of holiday by then as end of the holiday year for me.
We picked our date as was our anniversary but more because it happened to be a Saturday and fitted however if it wasn't then we would have picked a weekend near as then have 2 special dates in the year? xx
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Honey I had the same considerations - to get a weekend wedding on our anniversary or half-anniversary we'd have had to do it last year lol! It's lovely to try and do it on a date that's already important to you, so if that's your reasoning and you give people enough notice I'm sure they will be able to arrange something :)
We actually ended up booking ours based on my job, because I can't take time off at month ends, and I can't take substantial periods of time off in March, June, September or December, which narrowed our choice down considerably. It won't be an existing anniversary, but it'll be an important new one :) Best of luck deciding x
CommentAuthorNicsquared
I think it's a tricky one, I used to work for a well known supermarket and we only got 22 days holiday, 2 days is a fair percentage of that plus we also weren't allowed time off in December so I would have really struggled to go. Plus parents who have children at school probably won't be able to come as most schools won't let you take children out of school unless it's for a very good reason. As much as some people want to be there they won't be able to so it would be worth having a look at your list and thinking about people who are unlikely to make it and whether they are important enough to change the date for
We just wanted a weekend in September, our date has little significance but should be easy to remember. Our anniversary did fall on a sat last year but we wouldn't have been able to afford it then
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
We picked the 29th of June 2013 because we wanted to get married in the last weekend in June 2013. There is nothing significant about the date but once we get married it will forever be in our memories as the day we got married. I wasn't bothered about having a special date for it as it's special on it's own.
My cousin got married on a week day last year and I had to book 2 days off work in order to attend because it was a long drive and I wanted to have a drink. I wasn't too happy as due to h2b being away all the time, I like to save my annual leave to spend time with him when he's home. It meant that I couldn't take all of his christmas leave with him and we had to abandon plans to go skiing.
I know the weekday weddings are much cheaper but I don't think I'd do it again unless it was a close family member. I suppose on the plus side we saved a couple of grand by not going skiing.
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CommentAuthorKiki1993
Thanks everyone, Every 10th in 2013 seems to fall on a weekday and it makes it a lot worse that it is december, even me and OH are going to find it tricky to get 2 weeks off work because everyone wants off during that time period really or are sick a lot :/ I think my side of the family would struggle with it especially at that time of year, my brother has 4 kids and so close to christmas it would be a big struggle! My sister would definitely find a way to be there especially if i gave her notice, OH family would be difficult because his dad and BIL is self emplloyed, most of his sisters have families and work a lot and they use their holidays mainly for their kids birthdays/holidays/their anniversaries and i don't want to make anyone struggle to get their .. i never thought a date would be this hard, we know everything we want colour scheme, venue, food, decoration, who we want to do hair n make up, cars, photography etc but we can't book anything because we can't figure out the most important bit; the date! It's so frustrating especially because I have now saved the deposit to book the venue and pretty much everything because its the exec package at gretna but i can't do it until we figure this out :( Sorry need a moan and why did we have to meet on that day on that month! if he had plucked up the courage to ask me out 3 days earlier then we wouldn't have this problem haha! We were flirting and liked each other for 3 weeks before he managed to find the courage to ask me out haha! Feels like we considered every option and we can't come to an agreement! Glad to hear we aren't the only ones who have struggled to find a date! Makes it worse because people keep asking "come on you have been engaged 2 years now, shouldnt use be married by now" and we are like "WE are TRYING but its kinda difficult, first we knew the date but no money and now we have the money but no date" and they don't understand why we want a specific date! We will need to let our employers know at least a year in advance maybe more if its december and we are taking so much time off! I feel like the only way to get the date we want is accepting most of our family wont be able to make it so have a small ceremony and just hope most of them can make it but I would be so upset if someone in our close family couldn't make it and there was a way around it that i just didn't see before? If that makes sense? Thanks for all the advice and the understanding x
CommentAuthorMrsP2be
I hope you get something sorted soon.
We are getting married on a Friday next April in Kent. My sister lives in Oz, my brother in Denmark and most of my friends and family are in Yorkshire. They are all taking time off work to come and celebrate with us. If you give them advance notice then i am sure they wouldnt miss it for the world.
December is a tricky time of year though.....good luck!
CommentAuthorKiki1993
Aw its lovely that they are travleling, yeah i just wish everything didn't happen in december in our families, we have christmas and 2 of his sisters birthdays, new years and because most of us work in the care profession (my sister is care home, im private nursery,OH sister is nurse, OH mum is nursery etc) so we dont actually get all them days off as holidays :/ gonna get calenders for 2013 / 2014 online and see if there is a possible date that would work better for everyone .. reason we are wanting it to be intimate is less hassle and OH wants it to be small so i think this date might cause everyone hassle, thanks luckily I have the day off and we have managed to figure out the dates that are impossible so now we just need to figure out any possible ones :) x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I see where you are coming from but does it really need to be a special date? They already have a meaning to them as it is so why not create a new one and give meaning to that? Also, you have stated that your family members have children, and with a weekday wedding they may not be able to take them out of school (if they are at the age that they attend school) as school's are so strict about parents taking them out of it nowadays. We came to our date because my h2b wanted to get married when we were the same age, which is only for the last 2 weeks in August, we wanted a Saturday as have a lot of family who will have to travel down for it, and didn't want to make them take 2 days off for it, one of the Saturday's is bank holiday weekend so we went for the other one, so we are now getting married on the 30th August 2014. It has no actual meaning for us but after the wedding day, it will always be our anniversary and a special day for both of us. I hope you can sort it out soon xxx
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lol i got confused reading this because me and h2b literally just picked a date out of thin air.... i dont think it has to be a special date, as its going to be special just by itselfs! just do it the weekend before or after your anniversary if you want it close to then xxx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
we didnt pick our date for any other reason than it was the second weekend in september which means that children have gone back to school and the honeymoon was cheaper (OH's parents were paying for it and wanted us to get more for the budget they were giving us)
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CommentAuthorKiki1993
Yeah they are in primary school and one is in high school which is another reason our ideal date wont happen, i just dont want to compromise the date but think we might need to if we want family there! I'm sure we could figure it out and hey then we will have 2 anniversaries! the one we started being bf/gf and our wedding one so thats a bonus! A bit greedy of me but hey! haha x Wish OH parents were paying for ours haha!
CommentAuthorElle23
How about having the date you met? You mentioned you flirted for 3 weeks If you have the date you met, It would mean you got married exactly x amount of years after your eyes first met!!! Romantic! x
We are lucky that we always wanted a Friday wedding and our 10th anniversary falls on a Friday next year plus its the bank hol weekend so it turns into a mini break for family & friends!
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorMrs S
We got married on the date we'd been together 10 years (first date 4th april) we also got married in gretna :) luckily it was the easter hols cos it was a wednesday lol there was only 13 of us in total, were in gretna are you getting married? X
CommentAuthortillyturtle
we did chose our date as a special event the 24th jan - the date we met, the date he proposed, so why not be the date we get married. were having it abroad in austria and 19 people have took time off and i can only thank them - but i suppose it will become a new date that is special so dont get to hung up about it.
CommentAuthorkrissy905
we didn't pick a speical date we went with 27th july as one its the first weekend after the kids break up for school holidays (not including the one after there last day) and 2 july is a quite month for birthday and celabartions in our family and we really didn't want to pick a date that fell on or to close to anyones birthday. my daughter pretty much missed her birthday last year as my sister was getting married the next day and my neice got married the day before the same daughters birthday this year.my first wedding was in june so counts that month and h2bs work doesnt like him to have any time off in august, so july worked out to be our best option.
CommentAuthormym72
We got married in Gretna as well. Whereabouts did you get married Mrs S?
We picked 6th August because it fell in the summer school holidays, because I'm a teaching assistant and needed the holidays. We also wanted summer so that we could have a honeymoon afterwards. Husband works for the NHS so had to apply to the matron to get 4 weeks off as it was summer. Being the beginning of August meant we had a couple of weeks to finish everything after I broke up, and a couple of weeks after the honeymoon to chill before going back to work.
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At the Mill Forge x
CommentAuthornatalie2614
we got together 5th April 2005 so we decided to get married originally 5th April 2014 which was a saturday. We brought it forward as H2B is applying for the Marines and he would risk being in before the wedding and not getting leave.
So we brought it forward to Friday 5th April 2013, and will have been together 8 years the day we marry. So far nobody has batted an eyelid when we told them its a Friday, so they can still join us. Those who are coming from London/Portsmouth said they will get an early train on the Friday morning and go back Sat afternoon, as we dont get married til 4pm Friday.
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CommentAuthormadison_uk
Our date doesn't really have any real significance to use we choose it to be November cos prices are cheaper, kids are on holiday and it fell on the weekend so we would also get free fireworks too being so close to the 5th lol. Also we wanted a date that from that day on would be important and not share it with our birthdays, or the date we got engaged. It has also worked out well with people getting time off work, and finding somewhere to stay as Novembers usually a quiet month for holiday makers down here. So i don't think it matters what the date is because it will be special in its own way.
