until 6 years ago my h2b's parents were still married, and then he had an affair! he is now married to the woman he had an affair with and my h2b's mum still hasnt gotten over it. obviously we have to have the new wife at our wedding but i am so worried there will be a scene! we have spoken to his dad and the new wife and they have promised there will be no trouble on their side, however his mum is a different matter! everytime she asks about the wedding she always says 'will SHE be there' we've told her a million that she will and she just sniffs at it. i understand that she is hurt but why cant she see that this not about her? am i being unfair to think that for one day they should be able to keep their differences to themselves?
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I got cheated on 10 years ago and she was a right smarmy little moo who actually had the brass neck to introduce herself to me when me and him were supposedly happy together. I can't say that I'd be happy about seeing her unless the hex I put on her has come true and she is covered in warts. As long as the "other" woman isn't at the top table it should be alright though.
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CommentAuthorLisaM80
no wouldnt dream of putting her on the top table! i just hoped that for our special day they might be able to at least call a ceasefire for our sakes. i understand how upset she still is, they were married for 23 years so i know its not something that will probably ever go away for her. wow i cantr believe she had the cheek to come up to you! i hope you at least slapped her?! x x
CommentAuthorInDreamland
That is so sad, I always feel so sory for anyone who has been cheated on as it really really hurts and when the "other woman" then parades herself in front of you it's like having salt rubbed in ripped open wounds a million times over. Good job she's not going to be on the top table hun. xx
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CommentAuthorShirleygirly
I think on the day your mil2b will be fine, there will be so many other people to distract her and she'll be too happy for the two of you. This is the last thing you need to be worried about.
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I agree with Shirley on the day she will be distracted enough. If the cheating had occured in the past year or so then I would say use that as an excuse that its still too raw to invite the woman, but after 6yrs this other woman is well established in FIL and h2b's lives. As harsh as it sounds (which honestly i cant think of any better way of putting it as i know that being cheated on especially after 23yrs can't be easy to come to terms with) but i think your MIL has to kind of "suck it up" for the sake of her son. Because it's your h2b's day and she needs to respect that. Hopefully she will come to a more relaxed state about the situation closer to the day x
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CommentAuthormelvis
this is like my situation... wel all thought h2b's parents were very happily married... including mil... and then christmas eve 2008 it came out fil2b ws having an affair... left mil2b and moved in wth the other woman...
theyve been together since then (officially...) and mil2b is still so depressed and hurt by it all... its so sad :( sooo our wedding is abroad, fil2b is coming to the actual wedding but his partner is not. and they are staying at the other side of the island so no risk of mil walking into fil and his partner... xx
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CommentAuthorFernP61
its not nice he did that to her but its your day and your h2b mum has to understand her hubby has moved on and is not going back to her, and comcentrate on you two its cruel but its life its happened to alot of people they dont have to talk although being civil with eachother would be a start its not really fair on you xx
CommentAuthorJoanna
That's really sad for your h2b's mum and she must feel very hurt, but what everyone needs to remember is that it's your day. My mum and dad don't like each other but they're both going to be there on my wedding day and they're going to get along for my sake. It's only for one day. xxx
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CommentAuthorMrs Cartwright
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My dad cheated on my mum and they are still partners now about 8 years later. However my dads partner will not be coming to our wedding. We did invite her but she has chosen not to go I guess for the case that she may upset my mum. My mum has moved on with a new husband but still not very nice about her but I would've hoped for that day she would have just ignored her and focussed on other things. So I hope you MIL2B can do the same no matter it's hard however long it's been I imagine it can still hurt but as you say she's been a part of their lives for 6 years and deserves to be there for him
CommentAuthorHa_x3
Of course your not being unfair hun, its your day!
I went through a similar problem.. When we booked our wedding my dad said he wouldn't attend if my mums partner was going & I wasn't prepaired to choose so in the end we went abroad just the two of us.. But my mum & step dad turnt up to surprise us, it was amazing but had negative affect when we returned home my dad went mental :(
Hope you manage to get through it hun its your day afterall xxx
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