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Planning & Helpful Tips: How have you involved members of your wedding party?

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- CommentAuthorMrs B
Hi all

Seen a lot of threads lately about special touches to give to bm's etc and I was just wondering how you have got them involved in your special day or what duties have you give. Them to do? Xx
- CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
  
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My bridesmaids are all quite young at the moment so not alot lol
My daughter has helped me pick most things tho (shes 12 now and will be 16 when we get married) espcially the bridesmaids outfits

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- CommentAuthorMrs B
aww Hails thats sweet! I just wondered if there were some sort of unspoken rules that im not aware of? Theres another thread on here about having meetings with bm's to work out where everything is, but i havent really involved any of mine in case they dont do it how i want it (which wouldnt be their fault - im not great at explaining things) and then i would have to do it myself anyway but end up hurting their feelings! That may sound a bit diva ish, i dont mean it in that way im just a bit particular! x
- CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
  
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Why dont you have a girls night with them and ask them how involved or not involved they want to be?
That way they get to pick what they want to do so should actually do it but you can still be with them when they do, so you get it how you want!
Theres no set rules these days I dont think, so they can be as involved in things as YOU want them to be!
If you dont want them to do anything then dont!
My first wedding I had 6 bridesmaids and to be honest they didnt do much not because they didnt want to but because I didnt find it fair to get them to do stuff for me when they all had college work and other stuff going on in their lifes!

If you ask and they say well I havent got much spare time but i can do some small things at least then you know what you dont need to worry about and then you can find something you dont mind giving them to do if that makes sense lol

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- CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
My best friends is getting married next year and I am her MOH. Apart from trying on the bridesmaid dresses, she hasnt asked us to do anything! She wants to sort everything herself and even wants to organise her own hen do. I don't mind though, it is one less job for me and means that everything will be how she wants it to be :) So I think it is completely down to the bride and how she feels about it! If you are doing a lot of DIY it may be easier to get them to help, but it may not end up being how you want it. It is just personal choice I think hun xxx

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- CommentAuthorInDreamland
Hi hun, lol, that's the thread I started about meetings with the BM's, best man and ushers. For me it's nice to involve those in the main bridal party and as my sister and best friend don't know H2B's groomsmen at all and they'll be working together on the day to help I thought it may be nice for them to meet and wondered what everyone else was doing. My sister and best mate are very keen and very happy to be involved in anything I want them to be and they are very helpful and supportive.

Linzi-jo and Hails are right though that you can have them as involved as you want them to be as long as they are also keen.

xxx

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- CommentAuthorclbronze
I haven't involved mine nearly eno4gh- by the time I'd figured out what I wanted them to do and asked them to do it, was just as easy to do everything myself... Dad is making my cake (well I guess my Mum is now his arm is in plaster!), Mum made the invites and bridesmaid is making sweet trees. OH has been useless. I've done the rest. And I've enjoyed it! x

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- CommentAuthorMrs B
Ooh excellent idea! One of them can make my sweet tree!! And maybe another can paint my wishing well lol and help me to put the favours together nearer the time!

Thanks for all your replies, have made me feel better :-) x
- CommentAuthorroberta90
I am quite a loner and don't really think i will include mine much :/ is that bad of me? what are they supposed to do? :/
xx