Wedding Forum - Is everyone else struggling too???...

Is it just me or is everyone else worrying about how to afford their big day??
Our wedding is according to my ticker 3 months away but more like 4 if you ask me and we still have about 3-4000 left to pay, we never had any savings (pay as you go as I like to call it) or anything for it just some help from parents as its all been planned quite quickly had a little set back before xmas as h2b was made redundant and only just started a new job last week! I am starting to worry we won't get it all paid off in time as well as being able to pay our rent and bills etc our parents are helping towards the £800 cost of suits a long with the 2 best men paying for their suits, my mum still has a £1000 to pay off venue but feel bad keep nagging her even though I know she will get round to it eventually plus £300 to pay off my dress and £300 I have to pay myself theres also the photographer to pay £400 and more and more other little bits we have gone through our to do list with a fine tooth comb and there isn't anything we can cancel or cut back on as most of it already has deposits paid so we would lose money which we cant afford to do I'm close to selling a kidney if I'm honest we're getting that desperate now just can't see any light at the end of the tunnel

Your not the only one, we was supposed to get married on the 20th March this year. We had to move it back a year as we just couldn't get all the money together. Lucky for us our venue were very understanding and let us move it without cost and kept the original price. My parents were going to put £2000 in to it last month but decided my sister needed the money more so have left us short again. We are on such a tight budget to pay it now I am losing alot of weight so is my H2B.

Hopefully you will be able to juggle it and your day will be fantastic x x x

we havent sorted out a date yet... and im dreading how were going to pay for stuff.. although i am looking at selling my car to pay for the wedding and just using H2B instead lol

we have ages to go, but im already freaking on how to pay for it.

worried doesn't cover it! We're ok now because we've worked out almost to the pound how much we need to save, but a few months ago I was having a real panic over how we'd afford it. In fact, the only reason we're managing as we are is because Adam is using the £1000 his nan left him when she died (we thought she'd have like that, she was so excited about us getting married and she's not going to be there to see it) and my mum gave us £1000 towards paying off the honeymoon! I've been paying a certain amount into the wedding fund every month, Adam has been saving elsewhere and is transferring his as and when he needs to, but I've worked out that there's still going to be about £100 discrepency in what we've saved and what we owe - looks like I'll be footing that bill on the credit card or something to pay off next month!! xx

thing is, its not worth that much stress, is there any way you can cut back on what you're having? There were things that I really wanted, such as a sweet buffet and a croque em bouche for the evening, but I eventually realised that it was all unnecessary expense that really we could ill afford xx

We were in the same boat but now we have cancelled the photographer (losing £50 deposit) and are saving £150.00 by having a family member as DJ and I had gone for a cheaper dress. We should be able to manage it now without any stress but I know how you feel it is an uphill struggle!!!

Everything is booked and has deposits paid which we can't afford to lose :( just hoping things start to come together I'm desperately trying to find a job myself so we have some extra money but its hard as I have a 3 year old who obviously needs looking after too x

I hope so too not long left now x

Not really what I want to hear 4 months before the day Becky lol we're a bit late to be saying we should have done it this way lol

hope it gets better for you at least you have 10 months longer than me lol x

sian, if you are having doubts about your dress, there is always the option of cancelling it. obviously you'd lose the 400 you've already paid, but you wouldn't have that 600 left to pay. i know that would be a last option, but it's an option sweetie

soz sian shud of told u that 14 months ago lol

No worries Becky lol I am taking a little step back from it all at the moment until we see how much h2b gets paid from his new job then we can work it out from there if I win the euromillions I'll send you all a little cheque in the post

I've been really good with money and budgeting up till this month! I checked my current account the other night and i'm £500 overdrawn for the first time in 3 years. I'm not amused! good thing is there is still enough money in the joint account to pay the outstanding balances for photography chair covers and flowers.
All because i've had LOADS of dental work this month mounting to £350.

I'm kinda feeling the same, Jas (h2b) get telling me not to worry, it'd be fine! everything will be paid. As much as i appreciated his optimism he didnt actually know how much still needing paying lol, i cried cause he didnt want to go through the budget sheet at a particular moment (i was having a bit of an emo day lol) then he knew i was upset, i was also having some jitters which didnt help, not bad jitters just natural ones. he's putting in as much over time as he can doing nights and i hate him not being there so much :( he's got 11 nights on the trott of 12 hours shifts. He's a grafter my boy bless him. All i can do now is trust him when he tells me it'll all be ok, and i do trust him. I just think now if we've got it wonderful if when havent then poop but worrying isnt going to change the outcome all we can do is take deep breathes. If it means you dont pay your utiliyu bills for a month so what its only a month, its not the best think to do but its an option.
Good luck ladies, just remember the most important part is the marriage not the wedding x