Got the invites today. Would love to send them off with a little note to say what we would like as gifts. As we don't need anything I thought it would be a fab idea to get travel vouchers so we couldhave a honeymoon of some kind later on as not having one straight away. Anyhoo, I say to H2B tonight, what shall we ask for? His reply was oh I don't know, we are not getting married until October!!!! Ermmmmn well yeah it would be nice to let people know when the invites go out to save them asking what we want. Then when I go ahead and do something I get moaned at for not including him. Just cannot win sometimes. Anyone else finding this or is it just me?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorclbronze
Yep. Have had a year of this, I either get 'yes dear, whatever you like' or 'why do I not know anything about this?' (usually it's something he's shown no interest in and not listened enought to realise I have spoken to him about it). To be honest, I accept that he's never going to have the same sort of interest that I have in a wedding and I know that he doesn't see the point of chair covers/ favours/ buttonholes etc but at the same time I know he's getting a bit nervous about how it's all going to run and what he's supposed to be doing on the day. Men are just totally different from us, trying to do everything to please them is an art-form! On the plus side, I can tell him that I have discussed things with him and make him feel guilty for not listening even when I haven't as he pays so little attention he doesn't know the difference! You may find he starts to become a bit more interested closer to the time, my other half is just starting to show a (tiny bit of) interest with less than 2 months to go. Good luck with it all! x
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Marrying him on 01.06.12
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
firstly that sounds like a fab idea very similar to what i am doing. and secondly i think as clbronze has said i think its nearer the time they show interest. my h2b has shown interest but doesnt understand why im planning so early but then he doesnt think about the small things haha xx
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
My H2B is the same, I try to include him with decisions about stuff and he says...'I'll leave it to you, you choose'. and when there is something I think he wont be at all bothered about and do it myself such as the favors, or the colour of the ribbons for the cars, or the style of cake topper..... he asks ' why didnt you say something about this, I would have atleast liked to have had a chance to choose.......' You will NEVER win.......EVER!
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CommentAuthorAntonia9
my h2b is showing interest but he still just lets me get on with things, every now and again he'll ask for an update and get me to write it down!!! ive produced a wedding spreadsheet so i just open that come for him to cast his eyes over, but then i get the usual MAN thing - whats that for, why do we need that.... etc etc and so it goes on lol
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May 4th 2013 - The day i get to marry my best friend
im doing that to about geting money for the honeymoon, but my H2B has already agreed with me, no need to have that disscussion anymore, but on other occassions which ive tried to include him like some of my ideas and i'll ask do you like the sound of that.. yeah, no... showed him a cake months ago he said he loved it, great stuff thats the cake i want in my head, he sees it again about 2weeks ago, oh is that the cake were going to have, i've not seen that before and im not sure if i like it...hmmm ...lol xx
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CommentAuthorPB
It all sounds very familiar! clbronze,i do that too.i just roll my eyes and say. 'We have discussed this so either you weren't listening or you have forgotten' he will then ask what he answered/decided/chose etc and i tell him hee hee! He is interested just on another level.If i were you i would just sort him a selection of 'gift poems' and then ask him to pick which one he wants(make sure you only show him your favourites) If he doesn't want one he will tell you then,if he does he will pick,job done! Keep it simple men like to think of one thing at a time with clearly defined yes and no answers,they're not as clever as us girls lol! xxx
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
So glad I am not the only one in this situation. What are they like eh?
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
we put little poems in our invites asking for money towards the honeymoon :o) And adam is exactly the same as all the other ladies h2b's - not in the slightest bit interested in the details! He helped to make the big decisions on venue, menu, colour scheme, music, readings and vows, but thats it! He's chosen his own suit and ring, and that's it now, he couldn't care less about the rest of the details! Or I thought he couldnt, until I made the table plan and he said 'we hadn't finalised where everyone was sitting' - erm excuse me, WE?! He'd made a suggestion earlier on, I'd decided it was a good idea and gone with it, then I got in trouble for actually what he wanted to do in the first place!! men!! :o)
CommentAuthorJoci "The Currypot"
Omg I wished my H2b wasn't so involved, everyday it's, "ok love what's on today's agenda?" he has me doing and making stuff all the time. He's so in to this it's unreal. He has helped to make the centerpieces, Invites, the wording, Order of service, he's even sprayed all my flowers glittery for me to make my bouquets. He scoured the charity shops weeks ago for brooches and tbh came back with some gorgeous ones to add into my bouquet. We are now sorting out the hymns and first dance song together. I am glad he's interested but sometimes I wanna scream and say , "Bog off and leave me alone for just one day" lol If any of you ladies want to borrow him, he's very creative haha
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On 1st Sept 2012 I will become Mrs Curry
CommentAuthorJanie
yeah my fiancee is the same, she says i dont mind or whatever, then a few weeks later moans about what decisions I make!
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CommentAuthorClareS
Firstly a fab idea about holiday vouchers, we're thinking of the same thing, but we're not putting anything in our invites. To be fair to my h2b he's been very interested in this wedding and we've made all our decisions together. We couldn't find a poem that sounded right to us, so we're settled on telling our parents so if anyone asks them, they can just tell them we're saving for our honeymoon.
Joci he sounds like my h2b - at the moment we've just had the stamps delivered to print on the drinks vouchers, he's like a kid with a new toy wanting to get them all done lol
CommentAuthorMrsEminson2B
my H2B is the same he hands the money over for me to put into the savings account every month and will notice appointments on calender (as he works every weekend he gets out of going) if he remembers after work he'll ask what was the meeting etc like for example florist etc but he isnt really bothered he just says oh right so your happy then if I answer yes he says good good another things done but if I try to discuss it with him or ask his views he will say not sure babe ask your sister or mum they will know lol. Men have it easy if you ask me they think it plans itself lol xx
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Marrying him at 27 years old
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CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
Yeah, I think it's a man thing!!! My h2b was always saying there was plenty of time!! We had an argument on Friday as he said he was just leaving it up to me, but he originally said he wanted an input as his first wife did everything behind his back!!! We were supposed to pick our menu by now so that's what started it all off! Menu is now picked and will be emailed on Monday!! He is also willing to sit and speak about the rest of it now as well!! Men eh??? Xx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I said to him earlier, 'so have you thought about wedding gifts yet' to which he replied no, and when I said well there is nothing we actually need, so he replied, well let's go for some travel vouchers towards a holiday then!!!!!!!!!!
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorclbronze
We're doing similar thing Glitterfairy but have asked for money for different trips/meals/experiences on honeymoon on our wedding website that all cost different amounts so people can pick one and although they're giving us money, they're buying a 'gift' (although so far have ended up using some of that towards wedding!). The only input I seem to be able to get is moaning about all the 'unnecessary' things I want to spend money on! 'Why do we need chair covers?,' 'What are favours?', 'Why do we need a harpist?', 'I don't need new shoes, I have shoes' etc etc... But as I'm paying for most if it I figure I can spend money on what I like!! (and as we've said, I can always go back to the 'I did tell you about that, you were't listening' tactic!) x
