I have been trying to lose a few inches to bust and waist to fit into my dress since August when we took measurements when I last measured myself it seems fine just 2" more than what she gave me, but being a corseted bodice it should fit spot on and the length when I last tried on seemed right for me. Today the lady in store messaged me asking if we could move my appointment for 1st fitting from 11am till 2pm as "she now has a new seamstress who can only come at that time, and if i cant change time I should not worry as I could ho to her studio for a seamstress appointment another time for alterations" I did not intend to alter the dress as even if I am a couple of inches larger its a lace bak and I am used to wearing corsets 4" tighter than what I measure. I do feel now pressured into having it altered if she recommends it. How can I get away without doing alterations?
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
its your dress surely its your choice. try talking to your seamstress and tell her your quite happy with how it is already x
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
I dont even know the seamstress I feel pressured by the shop owner requesting a seamstress to be present assuming it wont fit properly as if she gets a commission for each dress being altered
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
maybe its just to check it looks right and fits perfectly. it might be abit of peace of mind for you too x
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
If you try it and feel comfortable in it then don't feel bad telling her you don't want it altered, and don't let them pressure you in to it. They will want you to alter it as it means more money for them, but if it feels right to you then that is all that matters xxx
Got together 14.02.2008
Got engaged 31.12.2010
Will become a Mrs on 30.08.2014 xxxxxx
thats what I thought also I plan to still watch my weight and lose more pounds till I am happy with my weight so could still lose weight till wedding. when I look at photos on my album you can tell she didnt tie it tight enough am afraid she might do the same to pretend its too small, can I ask her to pull it tighter if it dont feel right to me?
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
if your paying you can ask whatever you like! this is your dress even if u have to stamp your feet and demand you do it to your liking xx
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Of course you can! Treat it as though you were going to the hairdressers or something. If they leave a bit of hair too long then you ask them to trim it and they do it, so if it isn't tied tight enough, she should change it, its no different xx
Got together 14.02.2008
Got engaged 31.12.2010
Will become a Mrs on 30.08.2014 xxxxxx
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
One of my colleague got an idea in case they are really pushy is pretending to have someone in family (like MIL) who insisted to do alterations as she is dressmaker (pretend in my case)
Soon to be Mrs Gary Doublé
Everything is now booked
Getting really stressed and excited now
CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
thats a good idea :) xx
CommentAuthorJill
Dont let anyone tell you what you should do - politely say you've already got a family friend who does alterations so wont need them done by her - they must have lots of people who go elsewhere x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorSubbyMinx
I notice you say you're used to being laced into corsets, and the sales girl may not understand that, but I'd just like to remind you that where as corsets are designed to pull you in, and make your waist 4" or more smaller, bridal dresses aren't. Your dress may not have the structural integrity required to hold you that tight for long enough.
Either way, even remembering that, don't ever feel pressured into spending more than necessary. Like any one-off service, you need to be 110% happy. It may be that the seamstress spots something else that you hadn't even considered, but if you think they're suggesting things for the sake of it, then feel free to say no. I'd still meet with the seamstress there, you never know, but be confident about yourself too.
CommentAuthorTrudi
Itsa a shame that you have been made to feel that way, I work as a Bridal Consultant and am a B2B as well, we have an inhouse seamstress but we wouldn't dream of pressuring any Bride 2 Be into doing something she didn't want to do. Don't be afraid to speak up, if you don't feel any alterations are needed then say so, its your dress and your big day, if you feel fantastic in it as it is then that should be more than acceptable and rightly so
CommentAuthormadhen
Don't worry about it too much, and definitely stick up for yourself. You are under no obligation to have alterations unless you want them, and you are under no obligation to use her seamstress if you do want them! But I agree with some of the others that it may just be for peace of mind, and an opinion from a seamstress may be useful - but you don't have to agree with her, it's just an opinion!! Hope it goes well and you're happy :) :)
