I have had my wedding booked for nearly a year now, my sister in law only got engaged this morning and has booked her wedding for the 1st spt 2012, she told me to stop being so stupid as my wedding wasnt till next year, im really happy that they are getting married but are they doing it this year just to rub it in my face. In my own opinion having a wedding should be something you do when you love trust and can afford to do it. She loves him but doesnt trust him since he cheated on her i beleive she is only with him becasue they have a daughter together, and neither of them have any money or a job.,....... is this just me over reacting or do i sound nasty.....x
CommentAuthorHa_x3
She sounds like shes in cookoo land
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CommentAuthorMrs van der Lee
hmmmm, if she doesnt have the funds etc than she'll soon learn that she will have to change it anyway. you dont sound nasty, you sound hurt. don't let it get to you xxx
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10-08-2013
CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
shes a very selfish person, my fiance is fuming! his mother never bought us an engagement presents (doesnt bother me better off without) but his sister is getting her dress bought! favourtism or what?
CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
i am hurt, i cried all the way home from work. im not just hurt im heartbroken, i didnt think she could be so low or nasty. just takes our relationship to a different level..... low!
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CommentAuthorJane
sounds like the wedding will be cheap n nasty and thrown together rather than elegent and well planned hun so a wouldn't think to much about it x
yay soon 2 be Lady Jane Bradbury
CommentAuthorMrs van der Lee
ergh, sod them!! your wedding will be better on the principle that you both love each other and that you worked hard for it!!!
if shes not marrying for the right reasons than she'll be divorced before you say 'i do' - i'd put money on it xxxx
Sam & Adele
Mr and Mrs van der Lee
10-08-2013
CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
thanx guys your advice is cheering me up, we do work hard bloody hard im a nurse and fiance is a psychiatric nurse, so not esy jobs dont just sit on my bottom and expect money to come running, makes me laugh they do, my wedding is going to be well planned and a classy affair and not a chav meeting,! i asked werei could get the best burberry dress from lol? ooops?
CommentAuthorMrs van der Lee
Hahahaah!! I'm a student midwife and H2B is in the RAF so you can imagine how slowly our budget it coming together!!! xxx
Sam & Adele
Mr and Mrs van der Lee
10-08-2013
CommentAuthorkitkatM
you dont sound like you are overreacting.
maybe shes insecure, and a little jealous of the partnership you and your h2b have and shes trying to prove to herself shes happy really.
i understand you being hurt, both by her actions and your mother in laws, but at least when all is said and done you have a man who loves you and you should concentrate on making your wedding as special as you can and take her plans with a pinch of salt, especially as things are already rocky from the sound of it.
CommentAuthorCupCake
Let them get on with it hun, once they start planning and realise how much time and money has to go into it they will have a shock, and you can just sit with a smug look on your face because a year later you will have your beautiful wedding and everyone will have forgotten their poor excuse for a wedding day ... you know what they say ... revenge is best served cold ;)
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CommentAuthorKylee27
I'm with Jane. Everyone will go to their wedding which sounds like it will be put together quickly and by the time yours comes around they'll be all excited about yours which has been planned slowly and I'm sure will be wonderful.
Chin up and don't let them get to you.xx
Can't wait to be married!
CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
mmmm good point, rocky isnt the word. He is very overprotective and clingy like he doesnt trust her, but if they want to spend the rest of their lives not trusting each other thats up to them i will be there for a shoulder to cry on as im nice like that. but until then ill just look on like everybody else. Good luck to them lol and ill just concentrate on my own wedding knowing i love h2b and thats all that matters in my eyes!
CommentAuthorCupCake
you've just given yourself the best advice ever! :D x
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CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
you all have helped!
CommentAuthorkrissy905
i know you can get married on a small budget i did my first wedding for less then £1000 but how are they going to afford it if nither of them work i know theres alot in the papers about people getting loads on beniffits but with one child it isnt a great deal so wheres the money coming from x your not over reacting at all my sl2b upset me a little on firday as they have recently got enganged and kept going on they are getting married cos they love each other and want to be married not for a big fancy wedding made me feel like it was a dig cos i want a nice wedding they have said they wont getting married till the year after us so not to take the limelight though.
i would let her get on with it sounds like its going to be rushed and on a tiny budget and shes doing it to make him stay x
CommentAuthordevondark
by the sound of it neither of them trust each other so the odds are they wont even get that far as the 'i do' part, she sounds jelous and if she wants to rush it when they've not even sorted out if they gunna manage to stay together without the pressures of paying and organising a wedding let her crack on.
she probably wants to be the first of the siblings to get married. you've every right to be upset and heartbroken. i know its easier to say dont let it get to you, cos ive a major problem with my sl2b and im sick of hearing just bite your lip or dont let her get to you, and i know how hard that actually is, try and distance yourself from her for a little while to just calm down enough to maybe talk things through with her.
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CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
mmmm..... its not her thats really annoying me... its him! i cant stand him! he thinks he is sooooo much better then everybody else with his subaru and dj decks.... but seriously how old is he! he is pathetic and rubs h2b up the wrong way and he doesnt even want him on his stag night! pathetic! im just not going to talk to them about it as he has just tod me that he is having a classy affair and he couldnt tell me the definion of classy! ha rant over!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
their wedding is their wedding and your is yours .... their will have no impact on yours unless you let it hun
id just see ut as an oppotunity to make sure ur wedding is better than hers :D xx
CommentAuthorMrsMarr2B
I totally understand where you are coming from! My cousin and his b2b are both not working been engaged for about 6 years and had no plan to get married. My h2b & I set our date and sent out the save the dates, within 2 weeks of them being sent out they phoned to tell me they were getting married they had set the date!! I thought fair enough until they told me it was going t be 5 weeks before ours!!! We are a close family and cousins all go to one another weddings, but being ths close together everyone started complaining they couldn't afford to go to both!! I was gutted! As the girls above have said theirs was going to be a thrown together Chav fest!!! We have spent a lot of time money and effort with ours. But as it turns out they have had to cancel their wedding as she has found out she is pregnant again and due when their wedding would have been! So I would agree with the others when they say it will all be ok! X
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CommentAuthorMrsDanks
I agree with what everyone else has said already, it is all last minute and they were very quick setting a date as it was only this morning. Did she propose to him?? Yours will be well planned and great, not saying her day wont be nice but once you do start planning you soon realise what a mammoth task you have on your hands and wish you had more time to make it perfect. xx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
If they want to get married let them, if their relationship is as bad as you say it's not a very good start to a marriage so just be there if and when things go wrong! There wedding will have no impact on yours so don't worry about that, yes theirs is rushed but it can be done (my first husband I met in april, engaged august same year and we got married just under 10 months later). Let them get on with it babe
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CommentAuthornaughty_nurse88
Thankyou everybody, just a quick update on the situation, she asked my h2b to be her witness and he now speak to her, i do speak to her because im soft lol and she told me her colour scheme today oh and take one guess, ITS THE SAME AS MINE! annoying! but im calm!
