Basically, I accidentally invited a few uni friends to our wedding verbally about 6months ago. As times gone on, we have drifted apart a bit. We still say hi when passing but they never text me or anything like that. I am struggling so badly for seats and can't really fit them in now, would it be in very bad taste to give them a ceremony/evening reception invite? There is 3.5 hours between the end of our ceremony and the evening reception. I am tearing my hair out trying to work out what to do, can't think of anyone on our list to kick off to make room for them. Have any of you ever had an invite like this? If so, how did it make you feel? Could really do with some honest opinions, pleaaase!! xxx
CommentAuthorstassylang
If I was in the same boat as you I would just invite them to the evening reception and add a little note in the invite to say when the ceremony is and that they are welcome to attend if they want too.
CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
i agree with stassyland, thats exactly what i would do if i was u xx
Engaged: Christmas Eve 2009
Hen Party Saturday 28th April 2012
Wedding: Saturday 16th June 2012
and can't wait to be Mrs Trevillion :)
CommentAuthorMrsDanks
This is exactly what we are having to do for a few guests, we are making a note to say they are welcome to the church but their invite is for the evening, i'm sure most people understand. xx
CommentAuthormelliecake
I think I will end up doing this, I feel so awful to not invite them to the ceremony as they have been pretty excited about it. I just can't justify paying out for an extra table for people that I don't see as good friends. x
TBH I dont think they would have the right to be upset or disappointed if they dont get a day invite, as you say, they are not close to you. I would definately invite them to the evening do and if they are not happy well you are not losing good friends over it!
CommentAuthorJoanna
I don't think they'll be upset with an evening invite because they're still being invited :)
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
who says they were invited to the whole thing anyway ...... invite them to the evening do and just act like thats what your were always going to do
They came with me to try some dresses on one time ages ago (was a bit random when we were in town) and I kinda said something along the lines of them seeing me walking down the isle in it. I'm such a plonk for saying it before the guest list was sorted but you know what it's like when you get all excited! I'll do the evening invite and add the note so they have the chance to see me walk down the isle still :) X
CommentAuthormtwi
i did the same (I am from Canada but getting married in UK) - i emailed all my friends in Canada straight away to say - let me now if you want to come now as I have to sort out venue numbers. Only about 4 people came back and they were not really close friends - good friends but ..... (my fault) now we are having a small dinner with only close friends but I will feel completely horrible if I don't have them come to the dinner as well - don't feel I can not invite them to the whole thing as they are coming for so long. Now I feel bad for thinking it but as my H2B said today - sometimes you have to be selfish and do exactly what you want without worrying too much about what people might think. I like the note bit though (might use that one myself as I didn't know how to do it!
Good Luck! :)
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And not waiting a year longer! Getting married 11Oct12
