I have just got off the phone to my aunty. I am quite close to her though due to her living over seas i only see her really once or twice a year. I phoned her though to run an idea past her. H2b and I have decided that it would be nice to have her on the top table, now i know its not traditional, but as my mum died when i was little and my dad has never remarried i didnt like the idea of him being on the table "on his own" so to speak. There will be me and h2b and his parents etc.... but thats just it, there will be both h2bs parents. It would feel that there is a big empty space where my mum should be. I know that who ever sits where that space will be there you know? No one can or ever would replace her and i will miss her hugely on the day, as will everyone. But i want someone who my dad is close to, who means a lot a me, and who will be able to look after ,my dad, hold his hand when he gets emotional, and make him smile again you know? My aunty has said that she would feel very honoured and privaliged to sit on the top table with him and that of course she would look after him. We have also had a bit of a chat about how he is doing and his worries about making a speech, she is going to speak to my uncle (dads bil) and has suggested i try and subtly promp dad to call him and have a chat so that he can give him some support and advice. She reminded me that dads bil was his best man when he married my mum, and that he may be able to give dad support with this in a way that no one else could. I feel so relieved to have been able to talk it through with someone.
CommentAuthorUnknown
thats good! i think its a nice idea to have her on th table with you if you are close and think that your uncle would be the ideal person to give your dad advise and support
CommentAuthorweemindyxx
aw you poor soul sending you bigs hugs huni, thats realy nice having you aunt sit at the top table with you, hope you are ok?xxx
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Oh by the way, his bil is married to his other sister, not the one i just spoke to. My aunty who i just spoke to is unmarried, so her sitting on top table wouldnt be seperating her from anyone if you get what i mean?
CommentAuthorUnknown
oh ok. i though they were married and did wonder about them being seperated.
I think what you're doing sounds perfect hun, you are going to feel more at ease knowing your Dad will be getting much needed support on the day while you are busy with other things ..... you sound a lovely women and I hope your day is perfect x
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorClareS
firstly that's so nice of her to accept the request of sitting on top table :) and secondly regarding the support for her hubby to your dad. Makes you wonder that when we choose our attendants where they will be in our future :) x
ClareE it is not her husband. My aunty is unmarried, my dad has 4 sisters, 2 of which he is very clse to. One is the aunty i am speaking off, the other will be coming with her husband (dads bil) and they will be seated together. The aunty who is on top table has never married.
