I'm a 2nd time bride and my ex-husband is the father to my 2 boys (aged 12 & 9). When i got married last time, it was a complete and utter fiasco !!!! It was planned in 10 weeks and cost less than £2,000. Not sure how it happened but my children weren't involved in anyway. And i regret it so much. Although the boys were only 5 & 2 at the time, i feel awful. I really want them to be involved this time. i would love them to walk me down the aisle, but i'm having trouble persuading them. Does anyone have any ideas or jobs tht they can do x
CommentAuthorUnknown
Are they page boys? maybe they could do a reading together at the wedding?
i know there is a reading especially for children to read.xx
CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
Tht's just it. they won't stand up and read in front of anyone. i want them to be page boys but they're proving difficult haha xx
CommentAuthorUnknown
Maybe explain to them how much it means to you and your h2b that they are involved as it is a special day and you all become a proper little family?
Could you ask them and see what they would be happy doing to be involved?
Have you sent the invites out yet? You know where it is normally your parents that invite the guests, well maybe it can be your boys that invite everyone? Could they design your invites. A nice picture they have drawn or something. i know a few ladies on here have done that xx
CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
Ooooooooo i never thought of tht. i'll ask them how they feel about tht. we're not getting married til december so the invites haven't even been chosen yet. thank u xx
I agree, you should speak to them, let them know that it would mean a lot to you if they were involved and if there is anything that they would like to do. My 10 and 7 year olds are both doing readings at my wedding in 5 weeks. There has been lots of practising going on to get my 7 year old confident in reading out loud in front of people but we are getting there and both children are very excited about it.
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
My youngest son who will be 8 will be our ring bearer and my oldest son who will be 18 will be one of our witnesses.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
when my friend got married a couple of years ago her invitations were from her girls and read ( as far as i remember)
Rebecca & Georgia would like to invite you to the marriage of their Mummy and daddy ( Vicki & Robert)
I have seen that idea with the invites before, i think its a lovely idea but h2b said no to that when i asked him about it :(
CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
loads of ideas thanx ever so much. this was stressing me out (as well as everything else). i really want them involved and i want them to be excited and enjoy it. so thank u all :) xx
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
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depending on there ages. tell them (if they are young-ish) that IF they dont do it then they will have to be somewhere else other than with you......and at least if they walk you down the aisle, then they can be with you and not have to mingle with the other guests.
My son is walking me down the ailse, and my daughter is my MOH, and H2Bs 2 daughters are my bridesmaids......it matters to me to have them involved..... BUT..... they are aged between 22 & 26 so i think age makes a difference.
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CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
they'll be 13 and 10 when we get married. my youngest's birthday is 6 days before the wedding x
CommentAuthorRaggedyAnne
my daughters birthdays is also 4 days before our wedding.....LOL
13 & 10, could they be ushers? giving out programms or something?
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CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
we're having a civil ceremony in a hotel, so we haven't really got the need for usher's. well, not lots. it's so stressful lol. i thought planning a wedding was meant to be fun lol
CommentAuthorNicksbex
I have my kids inviting our guests on our invites, my son is very shy so didn't want everyone looking at him but has agreed to walk down the aisle with one of my adult bridesmaids and my brother (boys are aged 12 and 13) will be walking the other one down. Could your boys do the same? Otherwise could they be another photographer? that is what my son wanted to do. Hope it all works out for you xxx
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CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
That's lovely. i'll av to av a word with them and see what they would feel comfortable doing xxx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
I have two girls who we are involving in every way possiable. At the moment they are 9 and 12 but they will be 13 and 16 when we get married. We have them inviting the guests on the invites, they are both bridesmaids, we have some special vows that they will say during the service between them and my h2b, the oldest is helping me choose everything (especially the bm's dresses lol) and has come up with some fantastic ideas, the youngest came looking for dresses with me so i knew what style suited me and tomorrow we are all going to a wedding fair!!
As you have boys maybe the eldest could give you away and the youngest could be a paigeboy??
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CommentAuthorNicholaC
My 7yr old son and my father are walking me down the aisle but my boy (The Boy Wonder or TBW as he is known) has been involved since the start and I've named him Children's Spokesman as we will have lots of kids coming to our wedding. He comes to wedding fairs with us and quizzes suppliers (no, really he does!), quizzes venues on what they can do for the kids who will be attending and has been suggesting jobs for the 2 page boys and flower girls. He has suggested that they hand out tissues at the start of the ceremony to guests, are in charge of passing round confetti amd sweets after the ceremony, that they "look after" some of the elderly relations and they start the clapping after the ceremony. Just little things but he feels involved and important in his role and he thinks they will too. Hope this helps.
CommentAuthorKatieDolman2b
Thank u all so much. Loads of things to think about. You've all helped me. And I was really stressing. Thank u all again :) x x
