This is a nightmare! The amount of people that either have strong personalities that will not mix or family members that do not talk to one another is causing me stress already! Started a table plan on here (great tool) but we want to mix our guests (the same as everyone) and for people to get talking to one another. H2B mentioned names in a hat and go with what/who gets pulled out!!!
Is this silly?
How is everyone else arranging who sits where and next to etc?
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorsamitrev2B
lol what a grand idea with the hat but i cud just hear my family groans lol xx im in the same boat its doing my head in iv came out in four spots cos of the stress of the plan lmao xx
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CommentAuthorCupCake
I ended this drama at my wedding by sitting everyone by who they liked to be with, come on girls, do you really want tables full of miserable people sitting next to people they can't stand or don't want to talk to? or do you want to make an easy table plan that will make you happy and everyone else happy? be brave, do it your way and the way it works for you ;) you can then complete this task in one evening instead of stressing about it for the next year .... simples x
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CommentAuthoremmaaa
I don't particularly want to mix up my guests, the thought of some of my work colleagues sitting with my family is a terrifying thought! I'm going for path of least resistance, there may be a couple of challenges with where to seat some of my family, but on the whole it's not something I'm planning on spending a lot of time on!
CommentAuthorKellyD
oh god its hard isnt it. i have groups of people who all know each other. there the easiest ones to sit together. but i have tables of 8 and some groups of people are in 4's or 6's so its just trying to work out who's going to sit on the other half of the tables lol. its too stressful. i do a bit every so often and then give up haha!
Weve gone for half of my family and half of the hubby to bes family on each table mixing people whom we felt would get on with each other! Tbh we dont have families at war with each other or difficulties between certain family members so not too difficult to choose really!!
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
We have just gone with seating people with people they know, got it done in less than 30 mins, just need to make it now. :0) xx
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
we're not mixing our guests! god no! its more hassle than its worth! We're sitting them with who they'll like sitting with to save us the headache and any awkwardness :o)
CommentAuthorTikobear
We're having the problem with table planning, so much so that we have evryone seated except H2B's parents & his sister! LOL! (Unfortunately they aren't the most civilised when under the influence) Have no idea how we're going to sort it out, think I may need to hire in a bouncer!!! hahahah!
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
we have kept our families pretty much together, i would have liked to mix everyone up but u cant guarantee they will all get on and i wouldnt want ppl to feel uncomfortable on the day, im sure they will all speak to eachother at some point in the day anyway so not too worried, its been quite easy doing the table plan this way, we have sat ppl next to who they know or who we think would get on well with eachother and i think we got that sorted in a couple of days thanks to the table plan tool on here! :)
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CommentAuthorowlgirl2015
we are sitting his and my family in together between 2 tables except obviously the ones who will already be at top table then sittin rest of tables with people who know each other and i think we only have 2 tables of people who wont know anyone that we have tried to put them with people they would get on with x
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
i have the same sort of thing ... i know that there will be 2 people that wont be happy that they are not sat on the same table ( mr lalas aunts if they come ) but my thinking is they only have to sit there to eat the meal that we are providing for them so if they cant been adult enough to deal with it TOUGH ... this wedding is to please me and Mr Lala not anyone else
i would put couples or families in a hat and just put them on the tables that they get drawn onto.
My OH wants to mix the tables but i don't i want to keep it so that Jon's family are on the left (he is on the left of the top table) and my family on the right with a middle table for mutual friends. They can mingle at the church and at the reception rather than the wedding breakfast
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Most of our families havent met yet so we will be mixing them up at the breakfast so they can relax and get to know each other!
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CommentAuthorJanie
we are just having a plan for out top table, nok table and then letting everyone else sit where they like. Knowing my oh's family they'll sit where the heck they wanted to anyways
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CommentAuthorcb
I was so smug as we did our table plan first draft a while ago and it was all looking so easy and there were no dramas to speak of, then two on my H2Bs side annouced they were pregnant, due 2 months before the wedding and they were seated upstairs on the sort of balcony bit of the barn we're having for our reception so obviously I can't expect them to take small babies and pushchairs etc up the stairs so it's back to the drawing board!! And I was SO SUPER smug about it being all done with no hassle! x
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I think i would rather mix the tables up and give people a chance to mingle and get to know each other. We havent actually got started on table plan yet though as we were waiting for the rsvps to be back.
CommentAuthorJanie
i WANTED to do that, mix em up but theyre all oh's friends and family anyway, apart from 3. and she agrees theyre not the sort to sit where you wanted them to anyways
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CommentAuthorKaya
I wouldn't worry to much about table plans atm hun, ours was changing up until the day before the wedding due to people asking to bring kids last minute, or cancelling last minute x
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CommentAuthorElle23
Thanks all for the views. i know im jumping the gun a bit but was having a nosey around the site and found the table planner. Thought "oh this will be easy and only take a few minutes....."
We would like people to be mixed, to get talking to one another and avoid the dreaded pockets of friends darted around the room come the evening!
To be wed on our 10 year anniversary! 23.08.2013
CommentAuthorUnknown
with our wedding, we had the top table, mixed the families up, my friends sat together, his mates and then we mixed people that we thought would get on!
to be honest, Ed did that table plan as i didnt want the headache! xx
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Well, feeling inspired last night, i sat on msn to h2b as i am at work and we actually pretty much got it sorted. Got a couple of tweaks maybe as i didnt have the finished guest list with rsvps here, but have mixed people up slightly, except a table with his nan and his sister and their family, i have put his other nan on the table with them as she knows what his sister can be like, will be prepared and i trust her to keep his sister and other nan in check if they start saying horrible things (they are prone to do) H2b agree'd with this idea. There is his club on a table together, and the rest are mixed with family and friends.
