Hi not feeling to great at the min about the whole wedding thing. We were planning getting married on 28th july this year. We set that day when we got engaged. We then changed it as my job was not too safe but we had not told anyone anyway we changed it too 15th june 2013 as it would of been my grandads 85th birthday and he ment every thing to me. We kept this too our self cos of my job but in nov michael had said too much to his sister after a lot too drink. Then with in 24 hours she was planing her wedding even when she said she would never get married. Within 78 hours her venue and church was booked. in december i found out i got my job and was promated but did not want to tell any one about our wedding incase they thought we were only doing it cos of the SIL. Any way i gave out save the date cards on xmas day. All my family were over the moon but michaels family did not show much reaction. now as time goes on we have started to book stuff but every time we bring our wedding up in front of michaels family thr subjuect is changed to SIL wedding as if our is not important cos she had to get in first. but it getting to me now
CommentAuthorKATG
I would just ask a direct question. Is there a problem with discussing our wedding? It will either make them stop it or admit it, at which point they will hopefully see how silly they are being and treat you both with equal importance.
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CommentAuthorJanie
awww that's such a shame for you! I know how it feels when you want people to be happy and excited for your weddding and they arent. I think the best thing to do is have a gentle chat with them> IF you dont then are these feelings going to left to simmer until they boil over? It isnt fair to be treated that way at all. Hope things get better for you
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CommentAuthorKATG
Janie you are a better and much more patient woman than me x
Mrs Wilson2B
Need to loose 5 stones and 2lbs
3 Stones 2 lbs lost so far!!!
Getting Married 3rd August 2013
CommentAuthorlaurajoanne17
I agree - just ask them out right! Its not as if it should be any less important - its their son's wedding day too........gosh i really dont get some people, this is the one occasion where you are meant to feel special and you shouldnt have to try to keep everyone esle happy, yet we all do it!!
I'm going for a meal with the in laws tonight, SIL to be too and she can either love or hate me - so not really sure what type of atmosphere it will be............suppose we can just smile and knock back the wine haha!
Engaged - 25th December 2011 at Fountain de Trevi in Rome!
2012 is the year of planning......
Getting married Saturday 3rd August 2013
....and I will be Mrs Barton-Hawkins
This would really bug me and I would have to ask them if there was a problem.
CommentAuthorSammi_with_camera
This doesn't seem very fair to me, when is the SIL getting married? My MIL isn't too excited about our wedding plans. Shes happy, but can be quite a depressive person and likes all the attention. When i saw her for the first time after we had gotten engaged (less than a week afterwards) she didnt congratulate me or ask to see my ring. My H2B wasn';t happy when we got home and he realised this!
If only you could choose the family you marry into!
xx
CommentAuthorMrsDanks
I would definitely just ask them outright like others have said. Were they interested at first before she arranged her wedding and before the date changed? Hope you can sort it out hun. xx
CommentAuthorCupCake
When has your SIL booked her wedding for? is it before or after yours? BTW I think she is out of order and personally I would have given her a piece of my mind by now, but I'm like that! ;) Listen, don't get down about it, do your planning and make it twice as good as her day, that way everyone will be talking about your wedding for years to come, and hers will be forgotten because it was rubbish in comparison lol Chin up sweetie, enjoy it, OR you've let her win! ;)
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorjill81
I am not the kind of perosn to say anything i am a quite person and keep a lot of my feelings to myself. I have to go to pay my deposit at my venue on sunday and there is also a wedding fair 0n that day too. My mam is coming with me as we want to stay for the fair too so i was thinking about asking MIL to be to come along. If she see the venue and the rooms that we have picked and also being with my mam might make her more intrested. Would it be a good idea to ask sil to be as well so she can see out venue too. Don't no what to do. I get on with michaels family and we do a lot for them sil to be is even going to be a bridesmaid.
CommentAuthorCupCake
yeah ask them both to come then the whole day you can talk about YOUR wedding and the things you want! you do run the risk of SIL taking over and making it all about HER day though, so be prepared for that hun.
Became Mrs Lyons 30th July 2011 x
CommentAuthorjill81
I think i could make it all about me. There is a fashion show at this fair and sil already has her dress so all the dresses will be what i like and want. I have also registed with the company that runs the fair and i get a free goodie bag on the day never told sil so she will not get one if she comes. I feel a lot happier today after all it is my wedding and they not going to take that away from me. Her wedding is 8 months before mine so i will have to make sure my day is bigger and better than hers. I am not normally a nasty person but i am going to make this wedding about me and michael. Do you think i am being too nasty.
