My partner and I are having a civil ceremony (Ie our big fat pink gay wedding lol)
My parents are divorced, i dont speak to my mother, or any family other than one brother and my dad, oth relationships are strained there.
I have two children, tho one wont be attending the wedding (his choice)
we have a matron of honour, best man, 3 bridesmaids, flower girl , and a grandad we want seated at the top tabel as well as us.
my fiancee doesnt want a top table at all, but i really do. can anyone suggest who we can sit where? We dont fit traditional weddings, and i have no idea. My son that is coming will be 10, the flower girl will be 2 but her mum is a bridesmaid, but if we have both them at the top table then her partner will be left out...grrr!
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CommentAuthorprincesspixie
Hi Janie, it sounds stressful. I come from a family that are still all in tacked (mum and dad together and only 1 brother) but my partner has a mum dad step mum step dad and a third "father figure" plus siblings all over the place and I couldn't decide who to put where so I'm not having one. I don't see it as an important part of the day so my partner and myself shall be sat on a table by ourselves (may make this more special by having throne type chairs lol) xxx
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CommentAuthorJanie
It's hard trying to figure out where to put them all. i really do want a top table, but an informal one. I dont know wether to just set it out in an l shape or u shape or soemthing and let everyone sit wherever they want on it. It would just feel very odd to me to not have one, and for my disabilities i plan to try and put the top table nearest to the toilets, dance floor and food etc, just in case I am in my wheelchair so i can get through the room.
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
With regards to the partner being left out...I went to a wedding about 15 months ago where my hubby was Best Man. He sat at the top table and I was sat with his friends - most of which I'd only met once before. It was fine with me - gave me a chance to get the dirt dished on the hubby LOL!
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
We're having a "sweetheart table" with just me and H2B on it and two round tables either side (but as close by as is possible) with the bridal party/close family on them.
This way we don't have to worry about who to put on a top table but everyone important is within speaking reach and it's like one really big slightly rounded top table lol
i know my oh's parents and grandfather want a top table too, and i agree. i think they need some recogintion on the day, theyre doing so much to help us. think the bridesmaid with the toddler we will give them the choice. maybe we could do that for all of them, let them pick if they want to sit at the top tbale or not, it'll only be for a short time, soon as we've eaten and had speeches we will all be mingling anyway
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CommentAuthormrs-anni-oc
we are having the same as hollhollholly. me and OH on sweetheart table, wedding party on a table at the side of that then family on another table at the other side. another option could be everyone at 1 table.. think a big square polo mint you and your fiancee could be sat on throne type chairs then to make that more special x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
janie my moh and best man is at top table no partners! so dont feel guilty its only an hour for meal, if partner cant cope then he needs to get a grip lol
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Its a difficult one, we are also having a sweetheart table because all the parents are divorced and remarried which would cause tensions. We are quite happy with this as it will probably be the only bit of peace we will get all day! I would say the only way for you to do your top table would be to leave out the partner unfortunately, as Becky-mrsfirth said, its only for a short period of time so dont feel guilty. You cant please everyone.. good luck xx
CommentAuthorLittleMissBossy
I haven't quite yet worked out how to do it because I don't want a formal top table but one big u shape is not possible in my venue. We'll work it out soon :-)
But it's more than an hour - it's the meal, the speeches... At h2bs dads wedding he was best man and sat at the top table and I was sat with his sisters and his aunts and uncles which I was ok with but our then 7 months old baby didn't like it - he wanted to be with Daddy and ended up being on tbe top table for pudding. The bride was very brave feeding him pudding on her lap - brave because of her dress and brave because she dared giving my baby sugar. :-))
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CommentAuthorJillybean
We're having h2bs real dad (even tho he dont no him well but gets on with him) on top table and then his step dad and real dads wife on a table close to top table.
Im not sure about that n i think h2b will change his mind but we'll see. I think since his step dads been there most of his life to bring him up (even though they dont get on well) he should be on top table. But like i said it'll be upto h2b which members of family he wants up there.
The only option we had was to put tables near front right near top table for peple we really wanted on top table but just wanst possible. Maybe an option for you too? xXx
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CommentAuthorJanie
we have decided to have a square top table with people sitting on all sides, as there are 14 in the bridal party, them mother in law, and two other ffamily members who will feel left out, then three partners who dont know anyone else going.... unless we change our minds again!
Remember : To the world you may be just one person,
BUT to one person you may just be THE WORLD x x x
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
We are having a top table, there will be me, h2b, my bridemaster, the best man, h2b parents, my dad and his older sister (mum passed away when i was a child and he is very close to my aunty so letting him have her holding his hand when he does his speech) and both the kids.
CommentAuthorvicki
We're just having me, h2b, my 2 girls and our son on the top table my parents, step parents and mil2b will be on tables near the top table
