We can't decide whether to get married in the UK or travel abroad. A UK wedding is so stressful especially the guest lists but is too much to expect people to pay travel abroad to a wedding?
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthorAntonia9
i think in this day and age and what is happening with the economy in the UK, not may people would probably be able to afford travelling away - however it depends on how many guests you would expect? You have a while to go so if you dropped it into conversation to family/friends then they could start saving....
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CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Do it! No, seriously, we did it as we didn't want the pressure of lots of people etc. and we had more people come than I ever thought we would. We did compromise a bit and had a blessing in our local park so the families felt as though they had been part of something ceremonial and also a party in a local restaurant for all our friends too. If we had to do it all over, I wouldn't change anything. Hx
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CommentAuthorzmrtn87
Well I would be quite happy if it was just h2b, daughter, mums and dads which I'm sure they would be happy with that way it's really up to anyone else so wants to come can do so, then we would arrange a reception when we're home. So much less stress and so much less expensive x
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Oh yes. Do you have any ideas where abroad you may get married?
Cant wait to become Mrs Purdie x x x x
May 4th 2013 - The day i get to marry my best friend
CommentAuthordolphin
At the end of the day its yours and your h2bs special day and if thats what you want, then go for it, im sure people would understand and like you say you can have a party or something for everyone else when you get back. If you can afford to do it that way I say go for it. You dont want to look back a year down the line and say 'oh i wish.....'. x
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CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Depends... With a wedding abroad I think you have to be in the mentality of not really caring who comes except for key people. We are inviting all our family but we don't expect anyone to actually come, anyone else who comes is a bonus haha.. We have our key guests and as long as they make it, we will be happy!
It is always a good idea to plan for something to include those who couldn't make it, like a blessing or reception back home. We are having a legal marriage here before flying to Spain and having our blessing/wedding ceremony there.
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CommentAuthorzmrtn87
Possibly Bali or Cancun if I'm honest I've only really started looking at locations and they are all so gorgeous x
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
I've heard wonderful things about Bali - apparently at certain times of the year the whole place just smells of beautiful flowers!
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CommentAuthorbarbie86
I would draw up a list of pros and cons. I briefly considered a wedding abroad, but we decided against it for a few reasons. Firstly, there are quite a few people who we really want to be there; our guest list for the day is only 48, and we could probably only 'shave off' a handful of those; and even then we'd struggle. We would have worried about people who we want to come, not being able to come. Secondly, I personally (and I stress personally), would not feel comfortable asking people to book a lot of time off for our wedding, or having to use it as their summer holiday; I don't feel right effectively dictating to people when and where their summer holiday would be. Third, while I can kind of see how it might be less stressful to go abroad, I don't think that for us it would make any difference. So far we haven't got at all stressed by our wedding, and I do believe that a wedding is as stressful as you make it. Further, I like to be in control; I couldn't hand the reigns over to someone abroad very easily. I want to pick my flowers and cake in the flesh, not do it by photos via email. I want to be able to taste the food and wine we'll be serving in advance; etc.
In short, I think it depends. A UK wedding does not have to be big, or expensive. We have invited people we WANT to invite, who we are close to. At no point have we felt under pressure to invite people we don't know (eg distant relatives) or don't want there. If anyone tried to make us invite someone we didn't want to, we'd be firm. And frankly, I really don't care if I offend people I don't know and never see (we've refused to invite one of my OHs great uncles, even though we're inviting the other, because I have never met him, and the last time my OH saw him was 15 years ago; he hasn't even spoken to him since, he doesn't even know we're engaged, so why on earth would we invite him?...)
Ultimately it has to be what you want; so if you want to get married abroad, then do it. Just make sure you've fully considered the pros and cons to both sides.
CommentAuthorMrsC2B
I would love to get married abroad and have a big party here at night, but my future mil has MS and we wounldnt get travel insurance for her, and it means a lot to me to have our close family be there.
Weight up the pros and cons and sus with family members and friends who be likely to attend, if the key people that you would really want there were unable to make it, maybe consider something more low key here in the uk
xxx
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
We've decided to get married in Iceland because it's just what we want, simples :) Ataraxia is right though - you have to think of it as only the really key people will be there, then anyone else who comes is a bonus! :) We're basing our ideas at the moment around it only being us and our immediate families, if it gets closer to the time and we find we can afford some extra people or they want to pay for it themselves then that'll be awesome but we're thinking as small as possible atm. When you imagine your wedding who is there? If it's loads of people them it may be just as expensive as being in the uk, or some of them may not be able to come. Bali is such a beautiful place! :) Xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are doing both .... going abroad with just 4 of us then having another ceremony here ......i cant say that we are saving money but then its our choice to do this and tbh if it want the fact that i wanted my children to be involved i would have just done the aborad bit and saved heaps
Its so difficult in-laws and parents are happy to travel abroad stay the first week and take my daugher home with them leaving us to it for the second week so wedding and honeymoon all in one. When I dream about my wedding it's literally only the 3 of us, but if I done that I know parents would be devasted x
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthorClareS
we were thinking of going abroad to do it and started having conversations with family just to see what they thought and found that my mum and step dad, my brother and sil and my sister and her family would come. But h2b's parents wouldn't come and sil2b probably wouldn't come as it would mean she would have to pay for something herself (that a whole thread of it's own to explain!! grrr) lol. So we decided to do it here so h2b's parents could be there. To be fair I think it's turned out more expensive to do it here! AAs someone has already said, write down your pros and cons and go from there x
CommentAuthorMichelleb2b39
if they do it as a summer holiday then it might be really sweet
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
They can make a long weekend of it, rather than a holiday, depending on where you're having it. Ppl go for 4 days breaks to New York so why not?
(I don't know where Cancun or Bali is I'm afraid so I apologise for my ignorance! :S)
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Engaged 06/09/08
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CommentAuthorRayanne
We're going abroad. And its caused some ructions. However, staying in this country isn't really what we want. It has to be what you want.
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CommentAuthormcquire81
The idea of going abroad is lovely but unless you know you and your guests could afford it, it could be more problematic, especially if you have elderly guests who cant travel. Also look out for different rules of marriage, some countries ask that you spend so many days/weeks there before your marriage which will put the cost up. Its up to you though at the end of that day and if your willing to do a bit extra planning and thats what you want then do it! Good luck xx
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
also not all marraiges abroad are recognised here .....
As long as your marriage is legally recognised (validly contracted) in the country in which it takes place, it is deemed to be valid in England and Wales. However, in the light of Mick Jagger and Jerry Hall’s wedding in Bali, which was found to be invalid in the UK, the Law Society advises that anyone getting married abroad should contact the local British embassy or consulate for up-to-date advice. Do not rely on travel agents or any third party to ensure that the ceremony is valid: check it for yourself and be sure of what you are doing. If you are not completely satisfied that your marriage will be recognised in this country then visit a Register Office in Britain to be doubly sure.
it depends were you go, most people would use their summer holiday if you went to somewere like cyprus and possible go out with you, if you choose futher they wont ravel as far! it depends how many people you want to go with you obiviosuly withouyt sounding harsh you can outprice people depedning on were you stay, overall its CHEAPER AND LESS STRESSFUL to go abroad as long as YOU DO YOUR RESEARCH!!! either way have an amazing wedding. P.s were going abroad 20 of us, and even with a party wehn we get back absolutly everything will be done for 9grand! which we think is a reasonable price for a wedding x
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Wow tillyturtle where are you going? :) Xx
CommentAuthornini
I would have liked to have had a really small wedding with just very close relatives, or at least I thought I did! But the more I thought about it, the more I realised that when I imagined by day there were so many people I wanted there that I had to invite them all! I think you need to be ok with the idea that if you do go abroad there will be some people who won't be there, even if you were able to pay for some people you surely couldn't pay for everyone! But if you really would just be happy with you and your h2b and daughter then go for it, as people have said before it has to be what you want. Regardless of where you tie the knot, make sure you are doing what makes you happy and don't worry about others x
CommentAuthorzmrtn87
It's such a difficult choice I just feel going away would be so relaxed and obviously people won't want to travel or be able to afford to pay to come to see us wed but they would still have the chance to celebrate with us at the reception. I know if I get married in this country I will end up with a guest list the length of my arm of relatives I haven't even met mostly to suit parents and in-laws and an equally big bill for the wedding too x
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthortwirler
You really have to weigh up both sides of the coin i got married abroad and loved every minute of it as it was a fairy tale dream come true but then i was lucky. if you decide to do it give people as much notice as possible is my number 1 tip then no one can ever say u didnt warn them and the next tip is shop around and dont be scared to book direct or through other sites to get a better deal sign up to wedding forums for that country and ask loads of questions and get advice as to what you legally need to do both there and on your return
any questions ask away lots of us have either done it or are going through the process xxxxxx
Officially Mrs Joseph
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CommentAuthorzmrtn87
Where did you get married twirler? xx
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthortwirler
Universal studios in Florida hun xx
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CommentAuthorzmrtn87
How lovely :) we've decided on the caribbean first choice was the Maldives but they don't do Marriages only renewal of vows so now we're back to the drawing board xx
Engaged 29th October 2011
Married in Antigua 2014
CommentAuthortwirler
be very careful sweet as there are a few places the same as the maldives also we stayed at a sandals resort in jamaica and the weddings were kind of like on a conveyor belt 1 after the other with no real sense of it being personal so chose carefully xx
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