All of my h2b's family have just been uninvited from his sister's wedding. They have been together for 13 years & apparently she's never wanted to get married, but since we announced our engagement they decided to get married (the wedding is in 3 wks time). We had our invites a few weeks ago for just me & my h2b, he asked if my children were invited & we were told yes, then a couple of days ago we were told that they are not invited because there is not enough room, I have no problem with this at all, but I had to decline the invite for myself as I don't have any babysitters for the whole day. Since then a lot of things have come out between his sister and the rest of their family, (none of the family were sure that she should be marrying him because of things in the past). So she has tx us all and told us that it is best if none of us turn up because we have tainted their wedding. I feel as though it's my fault because of declining the invite and i'm not sure now whether to invite them to ours or not, any advice girls???
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
you have a lot of time between now and your wedding .... my advice would be to just wait and see what happens
as for hsb family not being invited bc you had to decline the inviation ... thats rubbish babe it will have nothing to do with you,
Dont feel like its your fault, It sounds like its the other stuff thats caused a rift. honestly dont let it get to you. what does yutr H2B think?? As for inviting her to yours, Its up to, but unless the rift is healed, i doubt she would come anyway. And alot can happen in 21 months hun, by the time your wedding comes round it may have all blown over. I wouldnt stress over it, its not gonna have been your fault
CommentAuthorLolaMay0412
I'm slightly confused as to how this is your fault?! If there has been problems before, I would put it down to that and not worry too much about it.
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Yes I'd think about how you feel nearer the time of your wedding, it's not a case of you inviting her because she invited you etc, it's all about how you feel about those people and if you want them to be a part of your wedding day :-)
I dont think its because you declined the invite. There is a long time between yours and theirs if it was me I would invite them, they can decide for themselves whether or not they turn up!
xx
Happily in love and can't wait to be married! xx
CommentAuthorJules
It all seems a bit strange to me because apparently it was all sorted out and then the next day was wen we all got the txt's, MiL 2b seems to think that everything is fine between us all and h2b's sister has just said that it best if they don't go and has asked them to cancel the wedding cars that they had organised for her. That doesn't seem to me that everything is all fine!!
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CommentAuthorx Disney Princess x
Bit weird that. I wouldn't worry about it yet you still have a few months left and things can turn around x
CommentAuthorlh2404
Maybe they have just decided that they don't want any guests? They might just want a very intimate wedding with just hte pair of them and a witness? My wee sister did that.
It could just be that the fall out made them realise that they don't want a big wedding adn something more intimate was more suited to them?
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
Hmm how odd - that doesn't sound fine haha. But I seriously doubt it had anything to do with you declining your invite - would be a huuuuge over-reaction if it were lol! Xx
CommentAuthorAntonia9
yes invite them, then it cant come back and bite you on the ass - its their choice whether they turn up or not x
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CommentAuthorlinzmum
hmm, i wouldn't worry about it too much. it doesn't sound like anything you have done personally. Nearer your wedding you obviously will have to decide but if you don't have a problem with her then I would send her an invite....at the end of the day she doesn't have to accept it!
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Doing thing our way xxxx
CommentAuthorJules
Yeah I think your all right, probably will invite them, but 2 b honest I don't think they will come, the thing is i've already done my table plans about 20 times & just got it sorted, it looks like i'm back to the drawing board for a back up 1 x
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CommentAuthorjo Santa
Sit on it. Don't say anything, don't make an issue over it. Invite them to yours and let them choose. If they turn up, treat it like nothing's happened - I know that right now I would love to uninvite all my guests and just get married quietly how we first planned. It may be that she's really stressed or maybe even embarrassed about these things that make the family feel she shouldn't be marrying him. And don't worry that it might be your fault. When I get into a situation where I feel guilty "just incase", as soon as I realise what I'm doing, I push it away and refuse to let it worry me until someone tells me it's my fault - in which case I apologise or sort it then. As for table plan - there will often be a guest or two who can't turn up last minute or someone else who you feel should be there, so in that case, people will sit where there's a space, so don't worry about that either :0) Things usually work their own way out xx
Jo Santa
CommentAuthorkerriface
Don't beat yourself up about it. She's made her decision and she'll probably regret it. It doesn't sound likely it's your fault at all as you said there were other problems. Just leave things as they are. If she misses having them there then she only has herself to blame.x
CommentAuthortrikstaniksta
it doesnt sound like its your fault hun, leave it for a while and see how things go xx
CommentAuthorJules
Latest update guys, apparently it's just only me & my kids that aren't invited because my SIL & her h2b don't class us as family, all the rest of h2b's family are going, in the last 1 wks we have had my future SIL's h2b threatening my h2b so to be honest i'm quite glad that we're not going now & as for them having an invite to ours, well I think that's a definate no no!!
I'm marrying the man of my dreams xx
CommentAuthorFuture mrs mac
Sounds like your well rid x
CommentAuthorsussie
I'm confused, why all the fuss??? you had already said you weren;t going. I think she was throwing her toys out the pram. silly girl (her not you)
Dont blame you for not inviting her, i agree sounds like your well rid
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
i think ure brothers mum shud be havin words wiv his sister crikey!
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorJilly17
She sounds like a right nightmare! Is your h2b still going?
CommentAuthorx Disney Princess x
What a pain in the a.s.s!
CommentAuthorfairy-cakes
eh she sounds crazy! we havent got room for kids at ours and fully understand that some people wont be able to come (thats why were letting them come in the evening so as everyone can still share the day).... but one minute its everyone and then you! sounds like your guna have a much nicer day at home than being at that wedding hun x
CommentAuthorEcoFreak
I agree - sounds like you're better off without them! Xx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
defo better off without going hun and ur wedding will be so much better without them xx
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorJules
I agree with you all & no my h2b's not going now he's disgusted with his sister & 2 b honest we think that it may all me down 2 her h2b anyway, apparently he's a control freak, so good luck to them I say, i was in 1 of those relationships & she'll never b happy even if she tries to convice herself & all the family, silly girl, they are all going on her hen night on Saturday so i'm sure my ears will be burning, because they are all as bad as each other, I'm way better off out of it x
