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Dunstall Barn Wedding and Events Venue

A Romantic and Rural Wedding Venue

A Romantic and Rural Wedding Venue

Surrounded by gorgeous views and breathtaking natural beauty, it is a wonderfully quaint setting for your celebratory gathering.

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✆ 07964294912

Re-released dates for 2024

Re-released dates for 2024

Things change and dates move, which is why we are able to release some previously reserved dates for the 2024 calendar. For these dates only we are offering a £2,000 reduction from the total price of your wedding: 23/5, 13/8, 7/9, 14/9, 21/9 & 4/10

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✆ 01636 302099

Here's a Top Wedding Tip from AB Photo

Here's a Top Wedding Tip from AB Photo

"Create a shot list. I'll blend in and get photos of everyone, but let me know if there is someone special to you or travelling from abroad that you need a photo with, for example" - AB Photo - 15 years as a portrait and wedding photographer

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Empire Formal Tailor

Empire Formal Tailor Wedding Suits

Empire Formal Tailor Wedding Suits

Empire offers you the largest range of suits to hire or purchase. Dads and lads matching suits with award winning customer care.

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✆ 01476 578022

Polka Dot Creations

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Here's a Top Wedding Tip from Polka Dot Creations

"Time is of the essence! Rough guideline for when to order stationery: Save the Dates - 1 year before the wedding | Invitations 6-9 months before the wedding | On the day stationery - 3 months before" - Polka Dot Creations luxury wedding stationery

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✆ 07803047097

Mapperley Farm Events Venue

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Here's a Top Wedding Tip from Mapperley Farm Events Venue

"Create memories no one will ever forget" - Mapperley Farm Events Venue - licensed Indoor and outdoor wedding venue tie the knot in one of our barns or the fairy lit courtyard in our woodland arbours or our event field in your tipi all exclusive to you.

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✆ 07807812938

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- CommentAuthorSnowflake
Hi all,

This is very long but I'm in need of some honest advice.

I'm getting married next year and i was supposed to be having 4 adult bridesmaids - the chief being my older sister.
I lost my job in April and was really worried about money for the wedding as we are not getting much help from parents who like to poke their noses in and tell us what to do!! Thats a whole seperate issue...
I asked my bridesmaids kindly if they would mind paying towards the dresses as i was in a difficult situation. To be honest they all wanted to be bridesmaids as much as i wanted them to do it. No body had an issue about this except my sister - everyone was great about it as they all liked the expensive dresses.
My sister went absolutely crazy and told me i'm out of order for asking, i'm a bridezilla and don't ever speak to me again. This has really upset me and it was a difficult time for me and my fiance. Its always a worry when you have no job! Lucklily i just landed myself a job in the hospital on a childrens ward :D
Prior to this, when looking at dresses etc, my sister went mad at me saying that she didnt like red, she wouldn't wear strapless and wouldn't wear her hair up. I am in no way a bridezilla - in fact i hate to upset people. But i feel like screaming right now --
ITS MY F ING DAY!!!!! lol. Any advice ?

The thing is , is it worth a life time of hating each other over a wedding?
Help please guys
Sophie
- CommentAuthorsamwiseheart
tell her its your day and she either has to copoerate or she has to step down as cheif bridesmaid and someone whos willing to help you out, i did, my MOH was totally out of control i told her she had to stop or let someone else do it, i know it sounds harsh but youll already be stressed and you dont need the extra, surely she knew the colours before accepting as MOH?! if she didnt like Red she shouldnt of said yes,

sorry its so hard for you hun, always here if you need a chat =)
- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
my girls r payin 4 their own dresses, i asked them upfront they all love me like i love them! and i had the main choice of dress tehy all loved it though

Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
- CommentAuthorstarlighthunny
Me bridesmaids are paying for there dresses too, they all offered!

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- CommentAuthorloustew2012
2 of mine are paying theirs and 2 arent, due to the fact i was worried as i wanted them there to help my sister so she doesnt have to deal with h2b sister all day babysitting (disabled adult, another issue)

the 2 paying said it wasnt a deal but my sister is going nuts saying bad things about mil2b. ive said id buy the accessories flowers etc if they at least helped on the deposit.

i reminded her that etiquette states that bridesmaids must pay their own dresses!!!!! so maybe i should make her pay for hers in that case lol!!!

sophie tell her you want to sort this out and remind her its your wedding, you want her to be a part of it but for your sake to stop her moaning say you want red and all the other things you want. if she still cracks then tell her fine not to worry and make someone else moh. maybe she will see sense and change her mind.

good luck xx

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- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww am payin £30 flowers too x

Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
- CommentAuthorkrazykitty
im a bit worried about my bms too 2 of them have said they will pay for their dresses but they cost £20 so i said no but there were only 2 of them now i cant find anymore that are same colour or same style (doesnt have to be both) or that dont cost £40+!! and the other 2 bms are the most awkward!! One is rys cousin who im having 2nd thoughts about anyway and the other is my moh but i dont want to have 2 pay and 2 not cos it dont seem fair! although i also have to find 2 junior bm dresses that are size 6 but suitable for 11 year olds!! grrrrr!! Any help would be great!!!

and mrs kean to be just say to her that it is YOUR day not hers and if she doesnt like it then she should step down!!! you are the only one who is allowed to be stressed and so what if you are a bridezilla you are allowed cos you are a bride!!!! (not saying you are by the way but you are allowed to be if you want) xx

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- CommentAuthorKaz
Tell her to back off, my sister is a bm on the understanding that she'll wear whatever I put her in!
I'm not going to make her look stupid am i? It'll show in the pics!

Copy my mantra "MY DAY....MY WAY"

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- CommentAuthorJilly17
Hi Sophie, as you say, it is not worth falling out for a lifetime over this! I would sit your sister down and ask her exactly what is wrong..calmly and diplomatically! ha ha. If she is just being petty you just need to explain that this is your day and whilst u dont want to fall out over this you want it the way u and ur h2b have decided....and when it comes to her turn you will oblige the same way! I hope you can resolve it!!!!
- CommentAuthorEcoFreak
It's not worth falling out over so tell her "this is what the bm's are wearing, if you don't like it then I don't want to force you/make you uncomfortable so you can wear what you like as a guest".
Just because she isn't being a specific bridesmaid doesn't mean she can't come dress shopping with you/whatever you're gonna do as a hen night/get ready with you on the day :) Xx
- CommentAuthorKelly
Your day your way.... if she doesnt like then she doesnt be the MOH or a BM huni xxxx but only you can make the decision at the end of the day huni but if it was me id tell her my way or no way... and most BMs pay for their dresses...
- CommentAuthorSnowflake
I've tried to patch things up with her but she's not having any of it. I don't want her there on the day upsetting me so i think she will coming as a guest and nothing more. Why do people have to be so difficult?!
- CommentAuthorKelly
some people are just that way huni as it goes.. they think the world revolves around them.. but it dont!!! and if she respects you as much as she should then she will do as you want after all its YOUR wedding day not hers!!!!!!!!!
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hunni dont be wasting anymore energy on some who doesnt derseve it

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