I have just come back from attending a wedding, and just thougt that I would give you all a bit of advice. (I know some people might not agree but its how I felt and still fell).
As we were entering the reception room myself, mini me, my mum and dad where looking at the table plan to see where we would all be sat. To our amazment we had had been put on to two different tables. Me and mini me on one, mum and dad on another.
It turned out that all those people with children where sat together, all the adults turned around and said "o I take it that this is the childrens table" and were seperated from their family and friends. As a sort of single mum I felt even more lonley, (h2b lives abroud and was not invited). Mini me kept on ask why we were not sat with grandma and grandpa and where were they.
My mum and dad help me out with mini me and we are all very close, which the bride knows. Mini me kept on asking me if she could go to see the grandparents, so she was up and down between meals going to them.
This all made me fell very stressed as well as being extremly lonly, so my advice to peopel doing the table plan is to think about where you put peopel and that sometimes having a "childrens table" is not the best thing to do.
As I said above I know people will disagree with me but this is how I felt x
CommentAuthorJill
I actually agree with you 100% hun, I'm trying to keep everyone beside people they know/feel comfortable with at the meal. The only reason I'm even doing the plan is so seats are allocated and there arent spaces left where the last people in have to squeeze into x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorada
jill I though that I would be on my own with this, so its nice to know that peopel can see where I am coming from xx
CommentAuthorJill
No I totally agree, we're keeping full families together. My moh's partner, their kids and her mum/sisters and their partners are all on one table... like you say, if you're all together it's less stress for you x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorada
It also means that family can help with the children and keeping them entertained. (mini me was fantastic throughout the speaches and just coloured in).
That does seem a bit harsh - ive been to a function where all the kids were sat separately but they were all related anyway and old enough for it to be ok We wouldnt consider separating groups like that
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorJill
My friends mum was going to separate couples when she was doing the seating plan - her plan was it would encourage people to talk to each other and not just the other half but my friend quickly put a stop to that lol couples together it was! x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorada
I was told ages ago that all the childreen were going to be sat on one table, to which I did say I was not to sure about this as minie me is 5, and the other children were 1,4 and 6. I did put it nicely and say that it was so that I could make sure she was eating xx
CommentAuthorLaura4Alex
Im not having any children at the sit down but we have a lot of them for the evening. I wouldnt have put them on a seperate table anyway if they were at the sit down as i think they are more likely to mess around during speeches etc and with candles glasses is that really a good idea?x
CommentAuthorkimmy
I agree, with putting people on tables with people they know and get along with, i've heard of putting older kids on a table on there own.x
CommentAuthorcaralou5776
I wont be doing that, i have recently been to a wedding where NO children except the brides own were allowed and everyone was mixed up and sat with people they didnt know. My table plan will be done to make people feel comfortable and sat with friends/people they know.
Can't wait to be Mrs Attew :-)
2 beautiful children
And an amazing H2B
CommentAuthorrocketqueen
I agree. I remember when I was on my own with 2 boys aged 3 and 2 and went to a family wedding and I was sat alone with them on a separate table with some other couple and their daughter at the back of the room and I remember how isolated I felt and how upset the boys were that they couldn't sit with their nanna or their aunties... not fair really and I'd have rather been told not to bring my kids at all.
We are having lots of kids at the meal (3 of them are mine) and there's no way I would have a children's table - imagine the noise! LOL!! I think there will be 10 kids between 2 and 8years and 2 babies, and they are all sitting throughout the 4 big tables. Me and H2B are the only people on the top table, so my 3 boys will be dotted about with my family which they are excited about. I've also bought them all special wedding activity books with their names on and crayons to keep them entertained during speeches.
