Wedding Forum - Worried about H2B...

As the title says I am a little worried about my H2B. He has been acting funny for a few weeks and he just isn't opening up to me.

His drinking has become eccessive, he is very sanppy, he is hiding his phone and appears to have lost intrest in the fun part of bed time. He keeps saying he is tired.

I know what you thinking because I thought it too. I know for sure there is no one else because he is either with me or at work with his brother. He does sneak off to the pub before coming home but he isn't coming home late he is having 1 pint.

Last weekend it came to a big row. He was doing his usual trick of ignoring a question so I repeated the questiion again but louder and he just flipped started yelling I told him to go away (but not so nicely) and he stormed out. He stayed at his nans for the night and when he come back he couldn't appologise enough. I didnt sleep that night I was up worried about him all night.

The other day he took it upon himself to go see the doctor and he wont talk to me about it. All he said is he is going to have hypnotherapy on monday. I dont want to push him but I really am so worried. I just keep thinking it must be something serious if he has taken it upon himself to go to the doctor.

Last time he was acting like this he lost his job and we ended up on a break because he didnt want to be with us after running up huge bar tabs and not paying rent for weeks; he left me in huge debt.

I know he is stressed at work but I dont know whats happening. I just wish he would talk to me!!!

I know I had the hypnotherapy for stress too; I was stressing about my exam. He could just be stressed out and chances are he is. He doesn't talk to any of his familey that I know of and even if he does I doubt they would tell me. I asked his nan what he had said to her last week and she just said she wasn't getting involved.
I should just be glad he is going to see the doctor about it.

I feel awful asking for help around the house because I dont want to upset him but I am just so tired. I am working on A&E which is non stop running about and I am coming home and having to clean up after him too. I have told him we both work so we both need to take resposibitly for house work. I feel like Im naggin him and maybe thats whats making him so miserable....

I have told him that everyday for a few weeks now. Maybe he feels he does't want to worry me but I am very worried about him now and I wish we could deal with what ever it is together like couples are supose to...

Ps i work in healthcare - there is a massive issue with men being able to talk about their problems particularly where feelings are involved - i would stick my neck out and say its fairly common for men to bottle things up - they are meant to be the strong ones, and depending on their personality they may see illnesses as a weakness and try and just muddle through - women on the other hand are much better at talking about their problems and emotions

Thats very true Nicsquared. Dont think I know a man that is able to open up...

babe just cuddle him and dont ask whats wrong ......for some guys the more you ask the more they close up ,He has done a fantastic thing by taking himself to the docs it takes strength to admit you arent coping with things.
I`m a qualified counsellor so if you want to chat at any time feel free to pm me

just be there for him and give him hug. my husband never talkes about things that are bothering him, he finds it too hard to open up and i have had to learn to deal with it and it is hard.

Eddie always tells me he is tired in the week too so understand how you feel with that one. just support him and let him know your not going anywhere and want to help and hopefully he will confide in you and things will get better xx

it sound sliek stress kinda related so mayb u need to tone it down be patient which i know is hard and just be there for him see how it goes x

If are 100% there is no one else then it sounds like he has a drink problem and its a good thing that he has gone to the doctor.
Maybe he just doesnt feel "man enough" that he cant deal with it on his own that he doesnt want to talk to you about it.

My H2B is going through a lot just now and i am very happy that he hasnt turned back to drink.

He would drink a litre bottle of morgans a night before and call me up at 4am telling me to pick him up (this was when we were living almost 45min drive away from each other) and he would demand i would do it because i would have done it for some other guy that i have only ever been mates with!

He did stop drinking as much and well it was only weekends i had to deal with the issue of him drinking and he would turn up at 3, 4, 5, in the morning at the flat when i was working at 7 and expect me to be fine about it!!

I kept on at him to stop drinking as the doctors had told him the same and then said he would only drink at home, but would still be an arse when drinking and snappy if he hadnt,
Eventually his health issues got even worse and also with the threat of losing me and hes stopped!


He will have a couple on nights out but he is kinda like me now. doesnt like to drink too much.
Although I do see the times where he gets annoyed if i tell him i want to drink and he can drive if we are going out of the city for a night out,

If it is a drink problem then just be prepared that it will be a long proccess to getting better.

xxx

Hope things are sorted for you!!!!!