Hi all...you are probably sick of hearing me whine about my bleeding mother in law by now so I will apologise in advance! Right we rang MIL the other day to ask if she recieved her invitation...so H2B and MIL chatted for a while about that then she told him that she had booked one of the suites in the hotel. Now the problem here is 1. Rooms are meant to be booked through us (this is just what was agreed by us and the hotel to make things easier for us to control) and 2. We haven't even chosen our room yet!! Now she knew that the rooms were being done through us because we spoke about it. There are only 3 suites in the hotel, obviously one for us then one for my parents and a spare one. The issue is that his parents are not together so one of them wouldn't be able to have a suite (believe me this would cause issues) so we felt it would be unfair. We have since asked her to cancel the room stating the reasons above but my H2B got very distressed about ringing her as she can be very argumentative (no I can't spell that word lol) She is just really getting on my nerves even though she was fine with cancelling the room. She keeps nagging about what my mum is going to wear when i've told her that it doesn't matter as she can wear what she wants. I don't want to raise this any further with my partner as he is under a lot of stress but I think this needs to be spoken about... do you think I should just leave it or raise it? x
CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
If she has agreed to cancel the room I would probably leave that issue. However maybe find somewhere closer with more rooms if people want to stay. And tell them the other rooms in the hotel are booked? to try and save arguments. However as for her clothes I see where shes coming from as she maybe doesnt want to be wearing similar? How about going clothes shopping for their outfits together if thats possible? xx
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CommentAuthorStevie_Dee
I think if the main problem was cancelling the room and she has agreed to cancel then I would let things settle for a while.
Let her nagging about what your mother is wearing just wash over you. Maybe stick to the line that your mum is undecided as to what she is wearing.
I understand your partner being under stress, I sometimes feel like my h2b is piggy in the middle of the two women he cares most about. Maybe focus on matters not MIL realted and try not to let her get to you. Believe me I understand how difficult that can be. With only 2 months left you and your h2b should be enjoying every minute of the run up and the preparations. Good luck hun xx
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CommentAuthorSoon2bMrsS
kempy we are getting married in a hotel so her having a room isn't an issue as we have blocked the rooms to the public...it's just her going behind our backs (she doesn't think it's a good idea that we are sorting out the rooms) knowing that we haven't chosen ours yet. She said she doesn't want to clash with my mum...my mum wouldn't really want to go shopping with her because of all the C**p we've had off her. Stevie thats exactly how my h2b feels! He says he can't stand how she's being and wants us to get along so at least he doesn't blame me. Ahh we try so hard not to focus on her but sometimes it just rears it's head! Close eyes, Breath and keep going forward!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hun if this is all you problem is then just leave it ... the thing with what your mum is wearing i suspect comes from her (your MIL) not wanting to clash or wear the same colour etc so could you tell MIL what colour your mum has choseni bet this will put her mind at rest. tbh i think it is lovely of your mil to cancel her room booking. Mine has justdecided thaa she wants nothing mor e to do with me ...( see my thread "subtle i think not" )
Well it is only 2 months to the wedding, I'd have let her keep the room she'd booked and you reserve your suite sharpish! P.S. you spelt argumentative correctly!
CommentAuthorSoon2bMrsS
lala this isn't the only problem I have with her...although things had been better lately...she doesn't like me, wasn't happy when me and h2b got back together, wasn't happy when we got engaged, wasn't happy coz we booked the venue, wasn't happy because I don't want her seeing the dress before the day, wasn't happy that we are asking for honeymoney instead of gifts so on so forth lol. I would tell her the colour my mum is wearing but my mum doesn't know herself :/ it was good that she canceled the room but she knew in the first place that she shouldn't have done it. It was just upsetting to see my h2b hurt so much by all of this. I will never be good enough and I felt so cr*ppy yesterday that I asked h2b if we should just call everything off and split up coz he deserves to be with someone that his mum actually likes =( he told me not to be silly.
CommentAuthorSoon2bMrsS
bridalmiss we haven't had a chance to go and view the rooms- we've organized this wedding in a very short space of time with a lot of drama in between and we don't drive which complicates things further! As I said before no-one can book the rooms in the hotel as we have blocked the hotel out. x
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Hmm do the hotel have a website so you can at least view the suites and pick one? Sounds like the sooner you do that then your guests can sort rooms - and if they've had the invites already then they'll be looking to do that pretty soon? Just an idea!
CommentAuthorSoon2bMrsS
they don't have pictures of the suites =( we are going to have a look in the next week I think (relying on my parents but my dads just had an op so...) We are distributing the rooms ourselves so they don't need to worry about booking them. It was on the invites that we were doing the rooms and on the rsvp they need to tick yes, I need a room.
CommentAuthorMorgsysGirl(kempy)
Hun explain your situation to the hotel, and ask them to take pics and send them to you so you can delegate rooms. At the end of the day your spending ALOT of money with them so they should accomodate your request! xx
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CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Yes good idea Kempy!!
CommentAuthorBunny
That would annoy me too. But, its your day, if she doesnt like it she can lump it. My H2B's father is a pain too, i wander if he will even turn up on the day. xxxx
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
sorry to be blunt.... but u get married 2 months why aint u booked ure room already??
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CommentAuthorSoon2bMrsS
good idea kempy...lol at least it's not just me then bunny!! H2B thought that his mum wouldn't turn up if he asked her to cancel the room =( but as it turned out she was ok with it and believe me that is out of character!!! we've only had 5 months to plan everything, 4 months from booking the venue to the wedding and as i've said before I am reliant on my parents to get to and from places. My partner has had an operation and I have be taking care of him and my 1 year old so that is why
