My fiancee and I have been contacting via phone and email the priest for the last 3 weeks and he is just not getting back to us. We want to book the wedding for 10th August next year and we just need him to tell us the date is available and put us in the church diary. Until we have the date we can't do anything else, and it is now only a year away!
Feeling cross about it, he has our email address and phone numbers all he has to do is say yes or no to the date! I really need to start booking caterers and furniture hire for our venue and I don't want to not get the companies I want because they don't have our date available, I just need him to tell us if he can do that date!!
CommentAuthorTinsel
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I don't know how things are done in churches, but I'd just turn up to see him/her. Do you go to church? Can't you catch him/her at the end of a service?
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Yeah i agree just turn up and speak to him hunni......perhaps on a sunday so you know hes defiantly there!
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CommentAuthornini
It's a bit complicated as we don't live near to the church. The church is in Kent and we live in Birmingham, plus he is the vicar for 4 churches so only visits each one once a month. I have travelled down before on a Sunday morning to catch him at the end of the church service, only to miss him as he has only carried out a short 30 minute service on that day!
We did manage to speak to him last year and arrange a date but then we had to postpone by a year. I know he can be contacted but he is being very elusive!
CommentAuthorTinsel
Is there someone who works at the church, like a verger, you can contact instead? Otherwise, you have to just keep ringing :o(
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It took us 3 weeks to talk to our priest, We had to fill out a form to get married, we went to his house and picked up the form. just keep on at them hun, keep ringing and emailing, Hopefully you get somewhere xx
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Hmmm very difficult arranging a wedding so far away i know (my first wedding i planned it from 300 miles away lol) do any relatives live near by him??? Perhaps they could contact him for you and book after all you dont need to be there till later!
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CommentAuthornini
Tinsel - we have contacted the verger/warden who was very helpful and forwarded our email to the priest, but still waiting to hear from the priest ourselves. Really annoying having to wait, especially as we have just both had 6 weeks off (we both work in education so a nice long summer!) and could have booked all sorts of stuff in that time, if only we had a definite date.
Hails - I am delegating my sister as chief 'visitor' as she only lives a 2 min walk away from the church, but we really need to make initial contact with him ourselves as there are certain hoops we need to jump through in order to get married at that church because we do live outside of the parish.
Just so frustrating thinking about what we could have done already if we could only confirm the date.
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Again I'd contact the clerk or admin person as they can at least check the diary to see if the date is available for a wedding - they can then pencil you in for that date and then you can re-chase the vicar to go over the specifics on being married outside your own parish - I was also having kittens over finding out if I could get married in my dream church so this is what I did! Hope it helps!
CommentAuthorbridalmiss
Once the vicar had agreed in principle we also had to go in to meet him, so we could fill out paperwork, explain banns etc - your vicar may want to do that too so be prepared for a visit - our vicar asked to see us mid afternoon on a Sunday as he wanted to have his lunch after the morning service - makes sense really! He also asked that we didn't just pop in as again his available time was limited with various activities - but the church website said they had an open evening once a week where the verger was available to take enquiries etc.
CommentAuthornini
Hi Bridalmiss, we have sent another email to the church warden asking if he could confirm us being 'pencilled' in, waiting with everything crossed now.
CommentAuthorWifey2be
it took me nearly 4 months to speak to the chaplin at the church we are getting married in he was never there, or got no answer, and then when i got an answer i had a rude lady tell me i couldt book the date till a year before. which made me even more angry. then i finally called back 2 weeks before a year before and said my partners home for one week only till noevmeber so i need to see the chaplin this week, and that was it! but they sure make you work for it i tell ya.
CommentAuthorLofty
I had a problem a bit like this, I phoned and left numerous messages and sent emails but got no response so just kept phoning and phoning until I got to speak to him! Priests are busy people, especially if he has four churches and all of those parishoners to look after! Mine was really helpful once I actually got to speak to him - just keep trying. Phone at all kinds of different times of day so you can hopefully catch him in at some point!
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CommentAuthorkrisw86
nini which church in kent is this. im in kent xx
CommentAuthornini
Hopefully it will be All Saints in Stanford North - a tiny church just off the M20. Really want it there because we are having the reception at my sisters house and that's just down the road.
Where are you getting married?
CommentAuthorKaz
That's really bad, I phoned loads of churches (as H2B was married b4) and always spoke to someone! I phoned the church we are using and left message and was called back within 24 hrs! And met the vicar within the same week! (I know the last bit wouldn't be helpful to you but it shows that they want us to marry there!)
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CommentAuthorAlison
I had this problem too. I tried ringing left loads of messages in the end I found his address on the cofe website and paid him a visit one evening lol. He said he was sorry that he hadnt got around to calling me but as i had stated a date in 2013 there was no rush. When I explained i was divorced H2B is catholic and i just needed to know whether he was willing to marry us he was fine, had a hour long meeting to see if it was possible and then had to wait another 2 weeks for him to ring and give us the good news. All in all it took about 5 months but now the church is booked and paid for the 27/07/2013 at 3pm and I cant wait. So be persistant I think they are just busy people and mine is a little forgetfull lol , good luck x
CommentAuthorMrs L 2b :)
Oh goodness booking the church is the next thing on my to do list.... not looking forward to it now!
