Wedding Forum - Cant remember last time we got...

We have only done the full deed once since our daughter was born (she is now 18 months old!!!). Not through choice though - she's always been a very difficult sleeper - and we're still co-sleeping! However, we are in the middle of sleep training and taking small steps, but so far it's going really well! Hoping to have her settling herself in her cot by the wedding which should be doable the rate we're going! Our relationship is still good though - we know it's not forever and we can go back to being 'lovers' soon rather than just mummy and daddy!

i was in a similar situation but it has been me in the past that doesnt want that kind of intamacy. I find it hard to tell h2b how i am feeling so when i have had confidance issues or anything i tend to push him away and i get so used to nothing happening i dont know i find it difficult to initiate anything, h2b has said he feels like he is begging which makes me feel bad i dont kno i just thought i would share it with u as i have been on the other side. Its the only part of our relationship that causes problems so i am working on it and h2b is helping!

i am on cerezette too!

its a pain mrs c i hate it but its the only thing i can have xx

Our's isn't that regular - especially at the moment....It took me a while to come round to the idea of it after my dad died, I got a bit creeped out that he was watching or something silly like that! We've talked about the lack of regularity before and agreed that it's something that we need to work on, but it's never really improved.
I'm hoping that when I've lost some weight and feel more confident about my body that will help - also if I manage to get to bed at a decent time will help as well!! (typing this at 1:45am!!)

I was on cerazette too and decided to come off it becuase it killed any want to get intiamte and made me crazy hormonal around my period.

Since then I go through phases, we also have 14 month daughter, so we're both exhausted come bed time. To be honest sometimes I'm not sure why, but I just really do not want to have sex but then I do I want to everyday!

So we go from maybe none for 2/3 weeks to 4/5 times in a week and then back to none. The fact that h2b is using condoms really kills the mood :(

tweedwedding - I felt like that - I put a lot of weight on after having our daughter so didn't feel even slightly attractive, but now I've lost weight and feeling a bit better about myself I really want to try and get things fired up again lol!

Your not alone hun, me an my h2b only have s** once every couple of months if im lucky, cant really talk with him about it as he isnt someone who is open in talking about stuff, altho one excuse he gave me was that he dont like doing it much because it becomes boring and too routine (which i somewhat agree with but then a part of me thinks its just c.r.a.p) he is 30 and im 23, it bothers me bcos he is my first proper lover (my last 5 experiences have been one off's were men have used me by convincing me they wanted a relationship, got what they wanted then dumped me) and he is the first guy its ever been enjoyable with and he makes me feel comfortable in my body an skin (difficult when i've never liked myself) so now that the honeymoon period is over now we've been together almost 3 years our s** life is non existant yes it does bother me cos he has gone from seeming to having a high s**drive to nothing and i often question myself..... But i deffo agree with these ladies make some alone time for you both and buy sexy underwear and pamper each other and re discover each other and all the likes and dislikes and hopefuly it will re capture the spark and love xx

Im on cerezette....dont have problem with my s** drive, thou h2b is always tired dont get it as much as i would like but i do have serious problems with irregular bleeding and period that can last up to 6 weeks at a time!
I had the same problems with the injection and i cant have the other pill because of having cholestasis with both my pregnancies.

I don't know about you but it's slightly comforting to know that others are going through this too - I think Vicky's right, I sometimes worry that everyone else is just constantly doing 'it' and that there's something wrong with us as neither of us really seem to make an effort...

Well I'm kinda having the opposite problem although its not H2B its me. Dunno why, but I've kinda been up for it everyday and I stay like that until I get it then have a reprieve for a while, then its back to square one - any ideas why?

im glad this is here as a lot of other girls have said i thought it was just us...something wrong with me!!!

btw angelaeris u get married the day before my birthday!!!!

Not at all MrsC seems to be more normal than we think!

It's strange how cerazette can seem to effect libido. I'm thinking of trying the coil? Any other coil users out there have any advice? I used to be on mcgroynon (not sure how it's spelt) but it gave me awful headaches and trying to take the pill everyday at the same time with a one year old?! paaaah dream on!
And risking it isn't an option I don't want anymore children till after wedding, I need to fit into my dress lol!

well h2b and I have sometimes times where we not having it for over a months... its so hard sometimes i do feel a bit less wanting it as i used to due to the pill i reckon... but than on the otherhand sometimes thinking h2b doesnt find me attractive but I think this silly thinking is just in my head... not easy sometimes if u just haven't had it for a while guessing lots of women feel like it though xx

Me and H2B probably average twice a week and I probably initiate it about once a month. It is pure laziness on my part. when I have been running round after a toddler all day and then struggled to get him to sleep i just want to colapse but I get guilt tripped into doing it. It's funny though because i'm always really happy we have done it after lol, i just need more encouragement thatn H2B He's always got the horn.