Hi guys, how do u tell someone u dont want them as your bridemaid without world war happening, I feel that been a bridesmaid u must be close and get on well with bride, but one of the bridesmaid's im not that close with (sister in law) she doesnt respect my of have much time for me and she assumed she would be bridesmaid but I really dont want her to be, my hubbie to be is fine with it, he says have u ever I want and I really just want my best friend
CommentAuthorIgnition
I know it sounds heartless, but I'd just tell her. She must realise that, she can't have everything her way, and if she doesn't have time for you or respect you or anything, then i is unfair to assume she will be bridesmiad. xx
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CommentAuthorJill
Despite seeing lots of stories like yours, it never fails to amaze me that people expect things of other peoples weddings. Honestly! They seem to think they should be this or should have that - weddings bring out the worst in people! 2 of my mums friends refused to go to her wedding because they werent asked to be bridesmaid... surely people should feel privileged to even be part of such a big day in your life! I dunno how I'd say it - one of my bm's werent showing much interest and hadnt been in touch, I tried putting it to her that if she'd rather just come as a guest it was fine with me then all of a sudden she perked up and started showing an interest in all things wedding! x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorCarrieanne
I would tell her you are just having your friend, that is the only bm you want.
My x managed to make his sister a bm at my 1st wedding where I only wanted my best friend, i'd already bought dress but he managed to say because she wouldn't b a bm ever again as he had no other siblings. Couldn't get the same dress and she ended up with a better, more expensive one than my best friend I hated it and she was an attention seeker and ended up jumping in a pool with the dress on! (we got married abroad).
Needless to say now that I'm divorced several years and now marrying the love of my life, we want everything to suit ourselves as you will only regret it or look back with anger (lol)
CommentAuthorEnny
tbh if ppl just assume t b bm i would tell them "sorry i'm the bride and i decide who and who wont be bm" Its not their decision if u dont want them be honest and tell them!!
Unfortunately there's no easy way to tell your SiL2B, but if you tell her now she'll have got over it by the time the wedding comes. Could she do something else for the wedding instead, such as a reading or be one of your witnesses? xx
CommentAuthorJill
Suggest she pays for her own stuff - that'll soon put her off lol x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorSteffie
I'd just tell her sweetie...She should understand as she is really there for her brother's side!! Tell her your plan was to have your BM and although youd love to have her too, you just can't afford to have them both and your loyalty lies with you friend x
