My fiance has a pal that I've always felt funny about. They never, ever see each other these days. In fact they dont hardly talk by text or anything. But he has been pals with her for a long time (she was a gf of a good friend of his and they once rented the spare room in my fiances house).
Everytime I have met her she has been really offish with me, she is unfriendly and really rude (not just to me, most people think she is rude but they say 'thats just her'!) I also have a really tiny, ickle, small feeling that H2B used to fancy her a wee bit. He denys this outright but I am not so sure.
Anway her ex is still friends with us and I am friends with exs new partner (sorry getting complicated) New partner will not come anywhere near this lassie. So if we invite her then my friend wont come.
What do you guys think? I know she has been a good friend of H2B in the past but she is really condescending towards me and I really only want people that I actually like there on my wedding day. Should I put my foot down or am I being unreasonable?
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CommentAuthorKaya
I wouldn't invite her, if you feel uncomfortable around her, h2b doesn't see her anymore, and it would mean your friend wont come... why would you????
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CommentAuthorSteph-Hughes-2b
i think you should put your foot down, i wouldn;'t want some one at my wedding i don't like.
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
He wants to invite her :-( but I havent tried the putting my foot down things yet.....I am not sure it will go all that well :-/
We have had many fights about this lass lol
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
no way .... ifthey dont talk that much anymore then they cant be that good friends .... you need to tell him that she makes you feel uncomfortable ,,,and im sure he wouldnt want you feeling like that on your wedding day
Eughhhhh.... if you've had fights about her you def shouldn't have her there..... put your foot down hun!!! We're all behind you!!! xxxx
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CommentAuthorKaz
Could you not state that as he hasn't seen her or contacted her for ages and you are both good friends with the ex and his partner, wouldn't it make more sense for them to come instead? Also does he know how uncomfortable she makes you and, mostly, everyone else? I'd put my foot down, it's your day and you want to feel that, not worried by who this lassie annoys! xx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I will try and put my foot down but there is a slight problem - I want to invite my friend (who used to fancy me but feeling were never returned) he has a girlfriend now and she isnt keen on me so we hardly ever see each other. But we were really, really close friends for about 4/5 years - talking on the phone every day for hours.
I am worried that if I put my foot down about this girl he will try and stop this friend of mine coming just to spite me......
I will try and report back though :-)
Glad its not just me who thinks she shouldnt come, was worried I was being unreasonable.
YES PLEASE :-) She could do with a slap. She is a miserable sod!
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CommentAuthorKaz
Would you rather have her there so your friend could come, or go without?
And is it for the whole wedding or just the evening? I don't think it'd bother me so much if it was just for the evening but then several of my friends would do a lala on her a*** if she got out of line! xx
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CommentAuthorjo Santa
I wouldn't invite her simply because why should you feel uncomfortable on your wedding day. My h2b and I still talk to one of his ex's on fb. She's not entirely over him, and when I told him I would feel unhappy if she was glowering on our wedding day, he immediately said not to include her on the list. I don't want to feel threatened or jealous in my position as his new wife. Why should you? If there are other issues too, like not getting on with people, your friends gf refusing to come if she's there, there's even more reason not to have to invite her. don't feel guilty about it either.
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
I want my friend there because I dont have many friends in this area, most of my friends are scattered across britain and spain (from doing short contracts singing for the last 6/7 years) so I only really have 7/8 friends up here that I want to invite. Whereas my partner has always lived in the same place so most of his friends live close by. The split is defo 70/30 his way already. I dunno, its a hard one. I suppose if we just have her in the evening I could just avoid her but I really hate her face LOL! :-) :-)
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsClarke
Yeah Id go for just an evening invite too (if your H2B is adamant she has to be there!) Then hopefully youl be too busy and loved up for her to be even the tiniest blip on your radar
CommentAuthorKylee27
I'd say it makes you uncomfortable so NO! Is your H2B the type to do something out of spite? I'm sure he'll understand hun. In regards to your friend being there, well like you say the split is 70/30 already so you need more people and he needs less! Lol.xx
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CommentAuthorIgnition
I wouldn't invite her. At the most I'd invite her to the evening do, (If I really had to). xx
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CommentAuthorEnny
i would not invite her stand up for yourself if he wants her there... tell him reason why u dont want her there tell him u rather have ur friend there than someone u dont like...
CommentAuthorcharlottelee
I would most definatley not invite her. If its not just you could cause problems for. Dont think i would want anyone there who doesnt like me and is rude to me
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CommentAuthortimpson123
I would not invite her.
I;m in a similar situation because one of my H2B;s good friends has a wife who is just awful, she never makes an effort to talk to me and people lso say she is just like that. Would it be rude for me to say that the mate (who i also get on with) could come but just not put the wifes name on the invite. People have said she probably wouldn't come anyway but I find that even more offensive.
CommentAuthorJill
I'm 100% with you - I wouldnt invite her and I should think h2b should be with you on that one too - imagine suggesting she comes when you've had several arguments about her and she's rude to you. Ridiculous! Make it his decision - ask if he'd really rather have her there than his friend and new gf. There should be no contest! x
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CommentAuthorlozzatea
im feeling your pain here! our Best man is in a relationship with my H2bs ex! (dont ask, they are from the countryside)
CommentAuthortimpson123
lol Lozza that made me laugh.
CommentAuthorjo Santa
Lozza, that made me laugh too. When I tell people I'm from Hereford I quickly explain my mum's from Norfolk...
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CommentAuthorJill
Aww lozza that's brilliant lol x
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Lozza - Hahaha, sounds a bit like H2Bs circle of pals. Its a small town thing I think.....
Its been a while since we had the guest chat so I will have to bring it up. Her bf is lovely, its weird. She annoys me as well because she slags off Paul McCartney to me and I am utterly obsessed with him. I am a MASSIVE beatles fan and have been in love with Paul since I was like 10. I think its really rude to slag off someones favourite singer to them. I know loads of folk who have, what I would class as, horrendous taste in music but I dont slag them off. I am very touchy about music lol.
Sorry for the rant. Its my time of the month so am a little more ranty than normal :-)
Yes, I will put my foot down. I've decided, I dont want that sour faced wee midden at my wedding.
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CommentAuthorWeeMintyMonkie
I wouldnt invite her!
you say that h2b and her are no longer in regular contact so i dont see any reason in her needing an invite. If they were in regular contact you may have had to reluctantly invite her for the sake of her being friends with h2b xxx
CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
i wouldnt invite her at all hun not if shes going to make you feel uncomfortable or it means your friend wont come, h2b cant be that bothered as they dont keep in touch xx
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
have your friend there ....... tell h2b is he would like to have someone at your that he doesnt keep in touch with and that would make you feel uncomfortable on you day then you would like to extend your guest list to include you ex`s !! bet he back down then
Life has moved on, you are now both friends with the new gf so they should be invited to the day. If we all invited everyone we were once close too we would end up with hundreds of people who we probably haven't seen in years. Stick to your guns and only have people there who you like.
