Well, you probably all know I am getting married in Majorca. Me and H2B have made a guest of list of people we would like to invite to come along with us (bearing in mind they will have to pay for themselves and invitations not sent out yet).
We got our list to about 34/35 people, and we both agreed that we could not go over this limit because the wedding reception is going to cost us about £1500 which is the very top of our budget really!
BUT............
Mother in law keeps bumping into random people every now and then that she hasn't spoken to for a while and is inviting them along....now our wedding guest is nearing the limit of 50! I am so angry because 1) its not her wedding and 2) its me and h2b who is paying for it all. MIL is only giving us £500 towards the wedding which won't go far really.
I've told h2b to have a word with her about it but he doesn't seem that bothered by it but its really getting me so frustrated
xx
CommentAuthorcharlottelee
its threads like this that make me so glad nobody has given me any input what so ever and its all my choice. Anyway why dont you try telling mother in law if she wants the extra people there she will need to contribute financially to them being there. Its your wedding and therefore your choice over your guests
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Getting married 19th May 2012
CommentAuthorKaz
I'm with you charlotte, enough problems without MIL2B sabotaging it as well!
Surely these people will realise when they don't receive an invite! Why would you turn up at someone's wedding without one! And if she says such and such doesn't have their invite yet, say thats because they aren't invited or you'll have to pay for them, most people back down when they realise the money has to come out of their pocket!!! Good luck xx
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CommentAuthorMel D
Well you don't have to invite them! It's your wedding so you have final say over guests. You could just not send them invitations ... or tell your MIL that you can't afford to have all these extra people and if she really wants them there then she will have to pay for them, or she'll have to tell them to pay for themselves.
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CommentAuthorWonderwoman mad!!!
i would just come right out with it and tell her to butt out. you will invite who you want their and not random people!! tell her thats the whole point of goin away to keep the costs down. i know for a fact my dad will prob wanna invite some of his crownies to our wedding but he can float! if its someone you dont know or havnt seen in 12 months i recon its fine to not invite them. end of the day its your wedding you have it how you want not the parents or inlaws.x
i would probably tell her to butt out too, but i doubt the people she invited will come once they realise they have to pay for flights etc
CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Yeah bumping into people in the street and inviting them a long will only make her look stupid in the long run as A) they dont even know you, B) its unlikely they would pay for their flights etc to be at a wedding of people they dont even know and C) you havent sent official invites with details.
Tell your MIL that the guest list is done and anyone else she wants to come she will have to pay for as your budget is stretched.
CommentAuthorLaura
Thanks for all ur help guys has really made me feel bit more relaxed now!!
Just ordered our 'save the dates' aswell sooo excited will post a pic when they arrive :-) x
