Me n h2b where close to putting a deposit down for our wedding July 2013 and now we found out he has a tour of afghan penciled in during this time. I've only ever wanted a summer wedding and don't want to put it back a whole year and not only that i've got 6 months of worrying about him. I just want to cry and he doesn't see the problem :(
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
Can you not bring it forward to NEXT summer so you will be married before he goes... Cut down on the budget etc ???
CommentAuthorStave
Oh I am sorry, sometimes these things happen. Maybe a Spring wedding would be fab. I have had to change mine so many times that I dont know where I am! x
CommentAuthorkatiejane
No he wants me to have the day of my dreams and refuses to bring it forward plus he's being sent all over the place for training so dono when he will be back. He also said he couldn't focus on a wedding when they'r putting them in the mind set to go to afghan. He see's it as an extra few grand for a deposit on a house i see it as a risk to him
CommentAuthorStave
Oh dear. Either way there has to be compromise. I hope it works out well for you.
Could u not have a small wedding before he goes then when hes back he can give u what he wants and have the wedding of ur dreams then? i know it would be a renewal of vows but then you can marry before hes sent away. Im sorry hun it sounds so difficult xxx
CommentAuthorkatiejane
he really doesn't want to get married before he said he wants it to look forward to coming back to. I'm fed up of always bending around the army. Going weeks of him being away, working over xmas and now even the wedding comes after the army
CommentAuthorKye
Im not surprised ur fed up hun i would be too if uve had to always do things around them it must be so hard. Unfortunately thats what its like in the army. What do u want to do? putting aside hub2bs wants xxx
CommentAuthorkatiejane
I want him to get out. we spoke about it when we got engaged and he said he was going to but now he's thinking of money instead he wants to stay in so basically i dnt get a say
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Ohhhhhhhhhh I know what you mean hunni! My ex was in the army, we got married and moved to germany soon after. Out of the 3 years he was based there he was actually IN germany for around 7 months as he was always away either training, bosnia, kosavo (sp?) or somewhere :-( The army life is GREAT the only down side is you never know where your other half will be from one day to the next!
As for the wedding keep it when youve set it for and let them know your getting married and hopefully things will work out for you!
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CommentAuthorKye
Thats awful hun i dont think its very fair that u dont get a say when ur the one affected by his decisions too, thats not right. Have you spoken about him leaving recently? He can make money in other careers there isnt only the army. I feel for you xx
CommentAuthorkatiejane
Ye we spoke about it loads but he's fixed on goin afghan. i cant stop him goin n i cant book a church n force him to come so basically i have to go along with whatever he decides
