hi all i need your help please i have brought my daughter the lilac dress in the pics to go with my colours scheme which is different shades of purples all my bridesmaids have a different colour dress and this is the lightest one fits in perfectly. i picked her dress up being sold off cheap as its clasp needs repalcing on the skirt its forever yours and i paid £9 for it i love it has a very full skirt and also my daughter is pale and blonde and i think white would look bit silly on her. heres the grrr part my htb has asked his best friend if her new baby girl can be a flowergirl she will be 18month nearly by our wedding problem is i have my girls dresses now and dont know what to do. the second pic is a dress i found i liked before i got the lilac one should i just sell my daughters dress and buy them both this one? or should i get another lighter lilac dress for new flowergirl? i know its bitchy but i want my daughter to be the youngest and cutest and have a fuss made of her so do i tell htb this and ask him to tell his friend i dont want her daughter as a flowergirl? god i hate it when my plans get messed up lol any advice? xx
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CommentAuthorRags
Just say no! Plans are made and another flowergirl nocks the balance off. You are really flattered that she wants her daughter to be a part of it, but I am a bridezilla so there!
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
I would tell him that you want your daughter to be your little flower girl. The other child isnt even related, and your the bride, you get to pick the bridemaids. I dont know what other bridemaids you have, i have kept my bridemaids and flower girls in the family other than my man of honour, to escape issues with friends etc.
CommentAuthorKinkyemo
just tell him you want your daughter and no-one else! You already have her dress and dont want to change it! :-)
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
see thats what i thought my bridesmaid are my 2 sisters and my best friend since i was 9 so there all close. my htbs best friend also is the best man as she told him she will be and ive noticed that as they have been friends from 10 or 11 he finds it hard to say no to her alot. he wont let me have my nephew as a page boy so i wont feel that bad its just im going to be the bad guy here arent i and i cant see him upsetting his best friend for me. sucks
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i agree, i would tell him, you just want your daughter to be flowergirl, it will be her special little day too and she wont want to share the special moments with anyone :) x
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Errrrr.... you cant see him upsetting his best friend for you???? Something doesnt ring right there imo, you are going to be his wife, and its your wedding day... so yes he should be willing to upset his best friend for you in this situation, he should never have agreed to it without consulting you first and it shouldnt come down to her being upset anyway!!!! Its your decision not hers!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hmmm why dint he run it by u b4 askin him????? he really shud of i wud of killed him
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CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
I.agree blondmumma you would think so but hes very defensive if i ever say anything about her doesnt like eg i didnt want to go away for a weekend to go to her wedding as i wouldnt know anyone and generally feel like im intruding when there together he didnt speak to me for 2 days lol until i said id go with him. You can see why im considering changing my plans to suit her i cant bare the thought of the huge s**g me off session they would have if i dont let her baby be a flowergirl. X
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CommentAuthorHonest John!
Sounds a bit odd, does he usually do things like this, and how much input has he had in the wedding plans so far? I would have a word with hima nd explain that you want you little girl to be the centre of attention he will understand.
CommentAuthorxxhan87xx
Honest john ive always thought it was strange but thought maybe i was just jealous or something id be really worried if shes was a real girl not a lad type girl. And no so far no imput other then this and oking what i buy. Its anoying as my bestfriend is having a baby in october and if its a girl i still wouldnt have wanted anymore flowergirls even though i love my bestie to bits her baby would come before htbs best friends child. X
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
It seems very odd to me if he has previously had little imput and now him asking his friends child to be flower girl is going to cause issues. I think you need to sit down and have a serious chat with him tbh, and explain they you really dont want another flower girl at all, that you have bought the dress for your daughter and she is the only flower girl you want. After all, you are the bride, the bridemaids are your choice not his and his best mans.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
like i said.... before u ask peopel to be bms/ushers etc ur emeant to talk about ti 2geva rite??
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CommentAuthorMrs*Maria*Louise
men always seem to say before they think, hun if you really dont want another flowergirl tell him and say you already have her dress so going out to find another is let alone more expense but extra stress and hassle for you to match it with the other flowergirl good luck hun xx
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CommentAuthorStave
Personally I dont agree with "mini-brides/FG's" unless they are your own children. Stick your ground!
CommentAuthorMel D
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Tell him no ... did you get to ask if one of your friends can be best man? The birde's attendants should be picked by the bride and no-one else!
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CommentAuthorAmy
Would this little girl even want to be flower girl? I only suggest that she may not as we had our daughter christened when she was 14 months old and bought her a beautiful dress, which she hated. It was a real pretty dress with a full skirt and she cried constantly, until we were back home after the service and put her in her normal clothes. Luckily our daughter will be two and a half when we get married and more aware of whats going on (and less likley to run off!!) but I wont be choosing a very full dress for her as it won't be worth it. Also if Ella would have been any younger I don't think I would have had her as a flower girl as she is more likely to cause disruption than anything else. I also agree with Jaesin if I didn't already have my children I wouldn't be asking other peoples children to be flower girls etc. And I can definetly see why you would want your daughter to be main flower girl as she's your beautiful daughter, and you want her to feel special too.
Maybe some of these points may persuade him I would also ask him about why the difference for this little girl and your nephew?
