Wedding Forum - How do you really know??...

How do u know that your h2b is the one.... Sounds crazy but do you ever sit there and wonder if this is it ....

I've been thinking the last few days (I blame French countryside and nothing to do after 7pm for this) and I've sat there thinking crikey is this it...

Then thought oh god im gonna be a julia roberts and Be a run away bride .... Then thought no don't be silly.... Then thought is this what I want for the rest of my life ....

I mean how do you know

You don't. You can think you know and then things slap you in the face in years to come and you wish you knew now what you know then. You can doubt yourself as every married woman I know has done but then they have been happily married for ever more. I think its just the nerves and the thought of making such a big commitment that gets you thinking like that then you question every little thing they do/don't do when you would never have done before.

Jo xx

Nope.

I wanted to kill Grant last night because he was pushing me out of bed in his sleep again!

No just shove a sock in his mouth and you are sorted ;0)

You're creeping up on the wedding, perhaps it's just wedding nerves.

That is because you are cacking your pants as you only have 6 weeks to go! Stop and think about all the good times you have together and why you wanted to get married in the first place. Think about the other week when you fell in love with each other all over again. It isn't like there is anything majorly wrong its just little silly things that are making you worry.

Of course you are normal. You are both stressed at the moment so bickering is bound to happen. That doesn't mean that your relationship is doomed.

hunny................. stop,take a breath, spend a few hours by urself n think about y u fell in love with him!!!!!!!!!!

ul be fine. ur a tough cookie n ur just nervous!!! mwah keep ya chin up x

LMAO - Glad I am not the only one, having wobbles. I actually asked myself yesterday, if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with somebody that leaves the shower head out of my reach.

I have to stand on the edge of the bath to be able to reach it and pull it down. It bugs me so much.

See this is it m on holiday and I've bought Internet vouchers to give me something to do so I don't hit him round the back of the head with a brick lol

I dunno maybe it is because when we get back from holiday it's 5 weeks left and just nerves or maybe it's because its not meant to be...

Part of me wishes we didn't come on holiday then I would have been far too busy to think.... Note to self stop thinking!!

But deadly seriously I dont know if I want to spend the rest of my life with him....

When I got married the 1st time I knew with no uncertainty that I did not want to be married to that man lol I walked into the registry office knowing it and had all of the photos taken knowing it. I knew that if he died I would not cry that if he wasnt there waiting I wouldnt care. That if I never saw him again then it would be to soon. Ifyou are having any of these thoughts DONT DO IT!!! lol

I only got married because I was pregnant, I didnt want my son growing up without a dad. I wasted 10 years of my life being unhappy and trying to make it work.

In your head you need to write a list of all the things you love about him and think how he makes you feel when you are close to each other, If you feel as I did that the thoughts of him touching you make you want to throw up and then scrub yourself raw then its not going to work.

However when I met my H2B I knew on our 1st date that he was the one. I never believed that love at 1st sight could happen but it did. He makes me feel like I am the only girl in the world. however there are times when he pees me off and i get annoyed but I know how sad I would be without him in my life and how much I love him.
Maybe you are only having prewedding jitters but thinking is the best thing you can do if you are even a little bit unsure.
xxxx

I know hes the one because hes my best friend, soul mate, lover all rolled into one. Ive never felt so comfortable with someone where we can just sit in silence contently, i can tell him anything and he never judges me even when ive done wrong he just tries to help and supports & listens to me, hes the one person who i never get bored or sick of i can be around him all day everyday and not get irritable or feeling like i want my space. Hes my whole life! ive never suffered with home sick until im away from our own home and him. I cannot wait to marry him!!! <3 xxxxxx

Also i think when my sister died she somehow pushed us together because i met him on the day of her funeral and when he first spoke to me her funeral song came on in the background and i look back at that as a sign of my sister looking out for me and making sure i would be ok : ) xxxxx

there are going to be things that annoy you about h2b. For instance I am annoyed about snoring, too much time on ipad, lazy at times, no sense of urgency, indecision etc and yes this annoys me, even to the point i want to wrap my fingers around his throat. However, there are things that annoy him about me such as my sense of urgency, the fact I can panick, the fact I cant always see the big picture and my need for attention/solitude as and when I need it. However, he said he wouldnt have it any other way. It keeps things interesting and keeps him on his toes haha. I did say though that I dont want to be one of those couples who just sit on the couch so we are making a point that after the wedding when finances free up again that twice a week we will go out and do fun things together to keep things interesting so we dont just fall into the married trap. I am like you, worried I will get bored and just end up going through the motions and I do think this will help. Making sure we spend some time together and do things we enjoy instead of just living in a building together.