just as the title says i was just wondering if u do or not? i have never recieved a nite do one with them in lol
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CommentAuthorUnknown
all my evening ones have included them. lol.
we have included them in ours
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I was wondering about this. I don't want to look like a cheeky git, if it's not the done thing.
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CommentAuthorrebeccalou21
we had 2 evening invites last year and both had moeny poems in- we gave them less than what we did to those we went to the whole wedding, purely because we feel closer to the 3 wedding we went to the whole day last year- i think it would be ok though x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
whoever you think will buy you a present then put them in the invite.......so i would say yes to everyone!
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I personally have issues with money poems, but I stomach them in a day invite (even if I often ignore them and buy a gift instead). I think I would be particularly peeved if I got one in an evening invitation.
People can get in touch and ask if they want to find out what you'd like as a gift, otherwise it looks a little presumptuous, particularly as you're not inviting them to the whole day.
CommentAuthorMel D
We didn't, but the poem was for the day people. We put a link to the website in the evening invitations so people could if they wanted to, but we don't expect it.
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CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
I think a wedding website is a great compromise for gift lists. That way you can put what you want gift list wise without having it explicitly in the invitations.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hmm so we are 50% 50% lol its just i got mien from vista and have 250 lol so i have spares lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorStave
edited
As a general rule, I give money, poem or no poem the total is a complicated mathmatical equation and it goes something like this ;-)
a = the amount it cost the happy couple to have us attend their wedding + b = a token amount for a nice gift each, average price for aperfume or aftershave x or / by how much I like/dislike them = The amount and hey presto! It goes into an envelope along with a small token gift that i have made, which is usually a towelcake.
CommentAuthorSpecialSundae
Bwahaha! Brilliant JaeSin!
I decided to go off-list for my cousin and got her a tasting menu for two at a Michelin starred restaurant in Edinburgh with my mum and brother. I like giving experiences where I can.
CommentAuthorJilly17
ha ha Jaesin love it! I dont think people realise how much it costs to invite people to weddings now. I explained to my mum it cost my friend £160 to have my mum and dad as a guest and she almost passed out bless her, she kept saying, "but what do you mean????" She thought it would be about £25 a head!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww thats lovely jaesin, u always give me if ure invited to the full day! for friends ( just normal friends ) if i go to nite do i give £20-£30 a day go wud be about £50 ish all depends on how close u r etc etc
i asked h2b he said not to x
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Haha JaeSin I love the equation :p
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
We are putting this is both of ours just to keep people quiet as I'm sick of them all asking what we want when there is nothing we won't. We don't even want any money just for the guests to come and have a good time.
We do not have a wedding list nor request for certain things. All we want is your company and the memories the day brings. A financial gift would be lovely and appreciated by us but please do not feel pressured as this is really not a must. The choice is really up to you and we would like to say we hope you come enjoy yourselves and have a lovely day!
CommentAuthorkrazykitty
love it jo i might have to steal it (or get you to write us one haha) and jaesin love the equation!! xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
You are welcome to steal it because I stole it from someone else lol. I also work out what to give them but it isn't as formal as like Jaesin does it. Might have to use that in future as a guide.
CommentAuthorKat
We got an evening invite recently with a money poem in and I will be putting them in ours
CommentAuthorlollilou
I'm going to put money poems in all our invites really we would like to take our kids with us on honeymoon so thought this would be good as we don't have much money. Whichever part of a wedding I was going to I would always give a gift.
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
I think it is ok to put a money poem in all invites day and night ones.
At the end of the day you are spending a small fortune on your wedding day - and you are sharing it with people you didnt have to invite - Its like if it was a birthday party you would at least expect the evening guests to bring a birthday card!!!
I think its good to keep things annonomus though - Our gift list is totally annonomus so we dont know who gave what.
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
aww cool, i mite just do it lol cos i have got loads anyway lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
The problem is then you can't personally thank people if you don't know what they have done. I'm sending out thank yous to everyone just for coming but it is nice to be able to mention to you how much it means to you and to thank them personally. I would appreciate someone donating 50p to us if that is all they had in their back pocket but made the effort just as much as someone giving us £50. It isn't the amount it is the thought but you look a little silly saying thank you for the donation if they didn't do anything and then it shows just how much you took notice.
CommentAuthorStave
lol mine isnt formal, just abit of fun ;-)
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
jo, u postin them all a thank u?? u know wat ave done.... i bought mine of vista and put from bride & groom on them not our names!!!!!!! whoops so if i send them they be like wat lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Oh Becky I'm sure they will know who you mean. Yeah I'm posting them all thank yous to say thank you for making our day special and being a part of it. I'm also sending them out to the suppliers that have made our day possible too as some of the ladies & gents have been amazing to us and deserve a special thank you.
Of course all you girls will get a thank you for keeping me from going madder over the last year too!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
jo cant i just put them all a thank u on their seats or tables?lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
You could do.............. It is your day and you can do what you like. I think traditionally people send them out afterwards so they can personally thank so and so for blah blah etc but there are no rules to how you do it.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes thats wat i thougt, just wivout our names on LOL
the people that are stayin over ta hotel though am gettin the hotel peole to put a thank u card wiv a little pressie ( dont know wat yet) i their rooms
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Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Awwww that is a lovely idea and has just made me think now....... Thanks for the idea!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
lol its ok, wen we stayed at our mates hotel they put 4 thorntons chocs in a little box wiv a thank u note in
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Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I think that it is a great idea and it doesn't have to cost anything. I will get the venue to note down all of our guests who are staying over night and ask them to slip them in their rooms.
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes stamps are a flippin fortune now lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I just spent £5.00 on them to post of the last of the invites! I wouldn't mind but I had 4 invites in one envelope and three normal ones which have to go as large as they are A6 but thick! I then had a normal letter to post too. How bloody expensive!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
very two first class stanps 92 or 94 pence other day i nearly collapse i tol dman crikey
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Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
jo,
I understand about wanting to write personal thank yous to people but the reason ours is annonomus is we dont want to make people feel they have to give us more than they can afford - at least if they think - Oh they wont know that we only gave them £1. then at least they will only donate what they can.
Most people actually tell us anyway - they say 'Oh i put in so and so' so we do know but I just dont want to presurise poeple.
About Stamps - My mum used 2nd class on everything! First class would be too expensive!
is soooo happy and lucky
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
awww true never thought of usin second class.. silly me hehehe however my h2b wants to drive around and deliver all invites by hand lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthormummybez
We've put poems in ours because i think it's expected these days, especially if your already living together or have a family like us. This is the one we put in ours
When thinking of a gift for us We ask if you’d please consider Contributing to our honeymoon to make it all the sweeter. Our house is full of all the things our family could require, and so a holiday away is what we most desire. Don't go overboard or go robbing any banks Anything you can afford will make us smile with thanks. Then while we're relaxing on the beach or by the pool so blue we'll sit back and know that it is truly thanks to you!
CommentAuthorKimmie.Bride.to.be
I like that one mummybez!
I think its expected too, we are going to do something similar i think x
CommentAuthorTinsel
We bought loads of second class stamps before the price went up a couple of weeks ago. We are sending the invitations out so early, that the extra day or two it takes to get there really won't matter.
I won't be putting a poem in, but will be asking for monetary gifts instead. I think it's fine to ask both sets of guests; I have always given gifts as a day and evening guest.
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