My mother in law from day one has never liked me, she thinks im too strongly opinionated when it comes to what I want in life!!! she says that I am too strict and most of my partners family agree :( she also has bi polar in which I feel bad saying to her how I feel but the rest of the family dont have it and they agree with everything she says about me. I know it would really hurt my partner if his mum wasnt there at the wedding and I would never try and stop that despite the fact she dislikes me (thats how strict I am) but im scared she will say something and cause an argument. what should I do??? please help xxxx
CommentAuthormummybez
Tell you mother in law that whatever she thinks of you to remember that your marrying her son because you love him and if she does too she'll be happy for him and not spoil his day too. At the end of the day it's not what his family think it's what your h2b thinks. What does he say about it all?
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Good Post Mummybez - I totally agree xx
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
thankyou :D jon has told them that no matter how much they dont like me he is still going to stay by me and my son no matter what they say or think. he said were getting married regardless. my family think the world of jon, their all so close to him and hes as welcome as I am to all their houses, its great and they all think were really well suited so I dont understand why his side dont like me :o me and jon have loaned his mum money when shes needed it, ive babysat jons nephew on numerous occasions and I really try my best to keep them happy but nothing seems to work xx
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
our son is 9 months old and jons mum has seen him twice, its like she really isnt botherd xx
If that's the case it's their loss that she's not spending quality time with her grandson. All this is doing is probably making your h2b resent her, so she's not doing herself any favours. You obviously have a nice family, concentrate on them and let the in laws get on with it. If they don't come round it's their loss. Don't let it worry you else it may cause tension between you and h2b which is probably exactly what they'd like to happen. Once you and h2b are married you will have your own family.
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
thankyou for the advice hun and im definatly going to follow it, theres no way im letting any of them spoil the relationship me and h2b have. shes always welcome in my home but if she chooses not to then its her own fault. I have my family now and its all ive ever wanted so all the haters can keep on for all I care :D
CommentAuthormummybez
Good for you hon. Enjoy your new family, stuff those who don't want to be part of it :-) xx Good luck
CommentAuthorRachie :D
If he is that close to his mum it sounds like she is jealous tbh - just ignore it - she'll need you before you need her xxx
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
aye i totally agree xxx
CommentAuthorJilly17
I would say it is up to your h2b to have words with her unless she says something directly to you. She is being ridiculous and selfish to risk her relationship with her son, you and her grandson but that is her choice. If you are concerned about her behaviour on the day (as I am with mine!) I would get h2b to have a word with her. She needs to pull her head in and keep her mouth firmly shut. You are being the much bigger person by welcoming her into your home and good on your h2b for sticking up for you! There is just something about some mothers and their sons!!!!
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
exactly my point ryhope17. my partner is scared that she will say something but I just said if she makes any nasty comments and tried to ruin things for me shes out on her backside and she wont be welcome again. I could easily just stop her coming to the wedding and being a total witch but Im biting my tongue for my partner and son. xx
CommentAuthormummybez
If you have to turf her out of the wedding, she'll be the one looking silly especially if you make a point of saying" look i've done everything for you to except me into the family but it's been thrown back in my face time and time again and now enough is enough. Just make a point of saying that if you want to be part of the family then your be welcome but if not then that's upto you, it's your choice".
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
If she makes any nasty comments at the wedding, she's likely to be lynched. i can't believe she has only seen her grandson twice, she obviously isn't very maternal! Nothing would stop me seeing my grandaughter, no matter how much I disliked her Mum.
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
thankyou lisa. i keep saying to her if she doesnt see her grandson beause of me then she can meet my partner and she can see our lil un without me being there and she just tuts xx i aint gunna keep trying
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I think you are behaving like a lady, I would have told her to f-off by now
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
haha i have done a few times but then feel bad on h2b but now she can kiss my backside for all i care
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
hehe how do you get them?
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
Lol you have to be a power user, you can pay £20 for a year/£2.50 a month and you get entered into all the competitions
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
al look into that thnks :D
CommentAuthormummybez
Lol @ u 2, i'd of prob told mine to f off too if that was the case although think my h2b would of probably beat me to it if she treated me like that xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
at least he is standing by you he sounds like a good bloke to me. hugs don't know what to suggest on top of the other girls comments but did not want to read and run
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CommentAuthorMrsBishop2Be
youve all given me great feedback thankyou. this morning she phoned me saying she wont kick of at the wedding but if she thinks i look fat she wont be able to keep her opinions quiet :O so my partner said to her if she makes me feel just a little uncomfortable he will make her leave an she will never see any of us again, and my mum said she wont hesitate on knocking the bi*** out haha go on mum!!!
CommentAuthormummybez
Lol go mum althou i'm sure she'll have a very long q behind her too lol. I would tell the mother in law that if she says you look fat that hope she doesn't mind you saying to her that "that's ok i may look fat but i can do something about that but being a complete bi*** obviously comes natural and also while i'm at it is that a shadow under your nose where your moustache needs shaving" lol x
CommentAuthorMrs b to be
If my mother in law was like that im sorry she would be coming to the wedding at all!!x
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
I'm sorry but after the comment she made, she would be banned! Who the hell does she think she is????????
I love my lickle Ava
CommentAuthorRachie :D
Lol - my mum would do that too she wouldn't half knock her block off!
Lets face it this woman is all about being the center of attention and having saying awww poor mum this that and the other.
On your day she will be the loveliest women you have ever met - people like this will not cause a problem as then people will realise what an absolute moron she actually is.
So on your Wedding day treat her like your own mum be lovely to her and smile at her no snide looks or anything - a) if she kicks off it will def all come back onto her then and b) im assuming she been beotchey about you and people will be like why is she being like this??
Trust me you are in a win win situation here xxxxx
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorJilly17
I simply cannot believe she would say that to you! What a truly horrible woman she is. She sounds as though she is controlling and cruel and tbh you are being a better woman than me even letting her come to the wedding just in case she said something. I am so pleased your h2b stuck up for you again but I have to say if she did not apologise for the patronising quip I would say no invite. She just keeps pushing that line doesnt she???
