I am looking for ideas to remember / honour my nan and grandad that have passed away and just recently my aunt who passed of cancer at the age of 34 :-(
I have thought about readings, special songs from funerals, printed candles etc but it seems a bit somber and I want something happy. Also a nice balance between keeping it as a wedding and not a combination of their funerals.
Sounds a tad grim :-( so just wondered if anyone was doing something similar or have any bright ideas that I can borrow?
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
can something not be said in a speech? You know....take a moment to remember those that would have loved to have been here.......maybe have a picture of them?
oh I do I do I dooooo!!!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
There are a few things that we have done that I don't personally thing are grim.
1. Printed their names on personalised blue ribbon and then tied them into a ribbon like the cancer research ribbon to sew into my dress for my something blue.
2. The flowers in the venue are flowers that the people we have lost loved.
3. H2b is wearing his grandad's pocket watch and wrist watch
4. we have sixpences from the years they were born.
They are all little things that remind us of them without making it emotional or making it sad. Also it means we know why things have been done but for someone that didn't know them it doesn't make them feel awkard.
CommentAuthorSteffie
I'll be having Dollymixtures on the tables to represent my mum's dad (Grandad) because these were his favourite sweets and I'll ask my dad what we should use to represent his parents and we'll ask ant's mum what to use to represent her parents xxx
CommentAuthorStave
The picture thing is a fab idea - Thanks x
There is no way that I would ever be able to speak as I am already going to be spending the day in tears :-0
We decided it was a bit OTT to overtly start eulogies to past relatives..how many do you mention?? you don't want anyone to think that their special person who has died has been left out. We decided not to mention people by name but i wore jewellery that was theirs and we just remembered them..just the 2 of us when we were together. xxx
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
We were going to have a table with photographs but thought it would make people cry, then we thought of just a board with namecards on, now we're just mentioning them in our speeches. Sadly there are members of the family who would scoff at which order they go in! Ridiculous I know but we elected to play it down to shut people up. x
CommentAuthorStave
Thats such a sweet list jo - made me get a lump in my throat.
LOL Steffie my grandad used to carry "pocket fluffed" fisher mans friends around with him and an old plastic bag as for my nan she loved a "fag" hahahahah
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
We had our celebrant aka person conducting the cremony to mention my dad who died nearly 5 years ago aged 52..was his only daughter and im the first to get married out of me and my 2 brothers....so she said "we also want to think about thsoe that are no longer with us..especially becky's dad who may not be here but will be with her in her heart or with us in our hearts today" .then my oldest bro who gave me away said a speech and had mentioned that there's one man who should have been doing what he was doing ...standing in his place saying a speech and that was my dad!! got me in tears lol
but i had a locket with a picture of him in it and i wore that as my necklace so he was "walking me down the aisle" and closer to my heart!!! I also used the bouquet and put it on his grave the next day!!!
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Awww Becca that has brought a tear to my eye and I have never met him. What a lovely thing to say and do.
CommentAuthorSijen
Awww Becca - I've just got goosebumps then hun! How lovely ;o( tearing up now!
I've thought about this as Si's mum passed away 4 years ago and his Dad is still not dealing with it very well...so really worried about how to bring his mum into the day without his dad freaking out and leaving halfway through (which he would do - without even saying goodbye!) Things are strange...
Also - I would have loved my nan to still have been here and want to remember her in some way, as well as my uncle. Jeez weddings are morbid! Lol x
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CommentAuthorStave
I am almost crying too x
CommentAuthorHayley
Not sure what we're doing for definate yet but think we're just gonna light candles during the ceremony and get victor to say it's for people who are no longer with us and ask if anybody else would like to join us.
My friend who got married a couple of years ago released doves x
CommentAuthorKazza
We are going to release two white doves in memory of my mum & Alan's uncle who both died of cancer x
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
i think im going to have a pretty candle burning all day for my dad who died 7 years ago. Also i think my h2b will be mentioning it in his little speech - he never even met my dad so he feels he wants to say something at the wedding xx
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
Iv got an engraved locket type keyring that im going to have my Dad and Brothers photos in, going to carry it with me all day so i feel they are both with me, and Dad will be with me walking down the isle, thought about doing a memory table but dont want to risk upseting people. Love the blue ribbon idea Jo, may look into something like that. xx
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
Ahhh Kazza that's sweet, sadly I've lost so many people we'd need a whole brood of doves! But they are loved and I guess they'll be in our hearts on the day so that is what matters. I think I shall shed some tears on the day, I still miss my Nanna so much and she died 20 years ago. We were very close, but then again I was close to all my family who have passed on. *sigh. Like the candle idea too Sara. Maybe we'll have a candle lit in rememberance to those we love.
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
If you want to do it let me know and I will put you in touch with the lady who did mine for me as she is wonderful and makes them to your specifications to how you are going to use them. She also did all my ribbon for my invites and other bits and bobs.
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
I'm going to have a photo of my Dad in my bouquet, as I want him there with me in some way. I just hope I don't well up at the wrong moment if I glance down at it during the ceremony!
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
i have lilies in my flowers as they were my grandads fav flower, am also hopefully having his name sown in to the underlay of my dress so he is still walking me down the aisle, i also have his old backy tin which is my old and borrowed lol, hopefully we will also be having a collection of my grandads and H2B's grandads fav songs to be playing during the wedding breakfast xxx
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CommentAuthorStave
More tears as I read each thing. Now I want to do all of them they are so good. Might do a combo of all of them.
CommentAuthorAvril
it is a lovely idea! i have bought a special frame for a photograph of my gran to go in. i want her there on the day but it will feel so much nicer for me if i can see her. also, even though our colour theme is purple, silver and white...i am including a single yellow rose in my boquet as they were her favourite flowers :-) and one of the hymns we are having was her favourite hymn so we are having it. nobody else need know.....but i will and hubby will and it would mean alot. if i could have one person there with me on the day it would be her. she was my best friend ever! she passed away just before i had a chance to tell her i was expecting my first child.....i would loved for my children to have met her :-) xxx
CommentAuthorStave
Wow everytime I come in here I am touched again. The single flower is such a fab idea. I loved my nan loads and wish she could be there, she had her leg pinned when she was 21 and I can just see her owning the dance floor with her funking chicken straight leg dance.
Reminded me of some good times!!!
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
i was speakin to h2b about this other day, i suggested have a pic of them on a table for ppl who they mattered to to realise that where thinking of them on our big day but so its not in the face,
ie: a table with a pic of h2b's mum, my nan and grandad of my mums side my grandad off my dads side and nanna of h2b's dads side with some flowers on it and a sign or somthing sayin even though your not here in person we know you will be here in spirit watching us on a our big day and celebrating up there with the stars we love and miss you xxx
but hes not keen on idea x
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CommentAuthorDi B 83
H2B grandad died of lung cancer in 2009, we are having cancer research pin badge favours, they come with a printed card, which we are putting 'In Memory of Fred' on x
CommentAuthor*Kat B*
Jo your ways of remembering are lovely!! esp like the idea of the ribbons
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
i blubbed like a baby when my brother did his speech...this was when we were sittin at the top table before our meal lol!!! if u cry you cry..no shame and i felt it was a relef to do so cause i hadnt got upset or cried in the morning getting ready
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CommentAuthorFruity_pops
we are doing the same as h2b nan died last year and his grand dad year b4 that....
we have choosen to do a candle lighting .. we got 2 candles in a pot in the christmas sale for £1 and they have a lid that as an angel figue on them that we are keeping on till lit then just moving to the side and also putting them on a shelve at home after the wedding as a mermorial thing here. we are also doin a latern lighting later on when dark and attaching a message... but ur ways are perfect to u as they what they mean to u thats matter
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CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Im hopefully going to be wearing a locket with both my grandads photo's in it. Will make it feel like they're, there with me as i walk down the aisle :)
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
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i lost my mum 9 years ago, h2b lost his dad when he was 9, and his grandad 11 yrs ago. the tables were being named after those 3 and all other grandparents. we are also having a monitor playing a montage of memories in the reception i.e. pics of me with mum, mark with grandad that type of thing. i have chosen lilies for my bouquet ; mums favourite flowers which i will lay on grave day after and hopefully wearing a piece of her jewellery, as well as having all mentioned in speech and glasses raised. the reason ive chosen our date of 8th october is the weekend closest to my grandads 91st birthday, which is on the 10th october and although he is still with us, he is extremely unwell and wont be with me on the day (in fact so poorly he doesnt he realise im getting married. i dont care how many of my guests think im/we are being maudling. we wont be able to have them there in person, but im determined they wont be forgotten! xx
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Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Thanks Kate. We have been trying to do it so that we remember without turning into wrecks as we will already be very emotional on the day. For those that also know the people gone they will know why the flowers were picked and the other bits we have done so they know what we have done to remember them without it causing them upset. Unfortunatly for us we have a long list of people that can't be with us so it wouldn't be easy to name them all.
CommentAuthorstressed to max b2b
jo how about printing a sheet up sayin thinking and remembering all those who cant be with us today, then list all the ppl and the dates, for ppl who are aware can read it if they wish too. x
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I think I'm happy now with the things that we are doing and the way they are being done as they will all be with us in some way shape or form. I love having the ribbons with their names on my dress as it means they will be with me all day. I know it sounds daft but it just makes me feel better knowing that they are all there.
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
Yeah thats how I see it, as long as I have something that reminds me of them even if no one else knows thats all that matters. Jo could you give me the contact to your lady that does the ribbon please xx
CommentAuthorEmzvilla04
im letting off balloons with their names on my grandad and ads nan and grandad ..... my daughter (only 3) says we do it so great grandads can join us by having a party in the sky and ill include them in a toast but not sure if by name just yet
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
She is on hols this week so closed her ebay shop until she gets back but I can do it then. I can send you her email addy if you want?
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
We are going to mention Kevs Gran who died 6 months ago, and on her dying bed she said to me and kev, i wont make your wedding, then turned to me and said, "make him happier than his Ex Wife made him please" :(
Also my grandad who is still alive but is riddled with parkinson and just cant get to the wedding as hes in a Nursing home, and he cant walk... I have tried to think of ALL ways to get him there but its just NOT possible!!
Its gonna be one HELL of a weepy Speech that Kev is gonna have to do!!
CommentAuthorGem1102
My wedding date is my late grandad's birthday and I will be wearing my grandma's charm bracelet. I'm stealing Jo's idea of the personalised ribbon too. xxx
CommentAuthorlizfludder2b
I lost my nan nearly 9 years ago, she was my best friend I always wear her engagemetn ring. I want to mention them in the speeches ;( Im gonna cry x
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
E-mail addy would be great Jo if you dont mind, will prob try find her on the bay next week as well!! xx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I added you as a friend as I can't post on your wall until you are so I've posted it on my wall for anyone that wants the email addy.
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
ok cool thanx
CommentAuthorlkparfitt
have been thinking of this and am thinkin of having photos of the lost luved ones displayed neatly by table plan or something, i have lost 3 grandparents whom i was close 2 and h2b has lost 2 great grandparents and a great aunt xxx
CommentAuthorEmmaLouise
Well we have decided, Luke has 3 people who have passed on and I have 10. We are going to get very small pebbles and write on or engrave their names. Luke will keep his in his pocket for the day and I will have mine in a drawstring bag attached to my bouquet. Afterwards, maybe the next day, we will release them into the sea (our venue is near the sea). That way our loved ones are with us when we walk to and have our ceremony. :)
CommentAuthorMrsBroady2B
I was wanting to let some of those chinese lanterns go at my wedding, just because I really like them. But after my nan died last year, providing that the venue will let us, I thought I would now let some go in memory of her and write a message on it. Also, when we were explaning to my daughter that she wouldn't be able to see her great-nan again, we let one of these go, and told her it was going to heaven, and that's where nanny is now. She then thought that nanny had been sent to heaven in one of these lanterns. Now eveytime she see's them, she is always saying that they are for nanny and that she hopes she enjoying them. Kids are so cute. :)
CommentAuthorMrsDadson :0)
Ah that is so sweet MrsBroady2B, I love how sweet and innocent kids minds can be!!!
CommentAuthorKimmie.Bride.to.be
I have been thinking about this aswell. Loving the idea of having a single different flower in your bouquet and a picture. We are also having lanterns and fireworks after the night doo. Lovely touch xx
CommentAuthorStave
I have seen little photo charms that you can attach to your flowers
CommentAuthormjb87
my OH's grandad was really ill with parkinsons disease before he died and my OH was really close to him so we're thinking of instead of favours making a donation to a relivant charity and just puttin a little note on the tables explaining xx
CommentAuthorStave
We are in the process of changing our date, hoping to get 29th Dec. This was my Grandad & Aunt's birthday, and it some how feels special.
