Right ladies so as it says he is doing my head in, ive just got a new blackberry and i come down this morning and see his ipod earphones on the side, when i look in my blackberry box he has taken my ear phones. Im fuming, he didnt ask, just took them and he has broken 3 pairs since doing this job. Am i being petty??
Then yesterday the idiot leaves his work bag on the train and when he comes in and realises what he has done, its my fault, if i didnt make him work he wouldnt of lost it.... (by the way i missioned to cannon street to retrieve said bag)
day before he went to shop in the morning for a paper and some croissants, i say to him dont get anything else cos we are skint til pay day. He manages to spend £50 and now is moaning he aint got no fags and wanted to take my last 3. bearing in mind i smoke 10 to his 20.
Arghhhhhh I dont know if i want to spend the rest of my life like this! Am i being stupid?
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
Er no, you definitely aint. I would be angry aswell. My other half is rubbish with money, so I have to keep switching it from bank to bank through internet banking. He is exactly the same, no matter how many times I explain to him 'WE CAN'T AFFORD IT', it goes in one ear and out the other! Are you under any pressure or stress from anything else?
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Oh crap. I've taken my h2b's headphone to use with my Iphone as I am always losing mine. I hope he doesn't think the same about me.
CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
Jo you are funny
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I don't think the h2b will think that when he goes to the gym. He also doesn't know I have just spent £30 I haven't got in hobbycraft. Ooopsie.
He seems to be taking advantage of you. I mean why did you have to go and get his bag - he's the one that forgot it!!!
Sit him down and explain to him how you feel and say that if he wants to borrow your stuff he needs to ask first.
if you explain how you feel and what he could do to make you feel better and more positive for the wedding.
If he still doesnt pull his socks up after that ask him - do you really want to get married at all? because youre pushing me away. give him one more chance.
Good luck
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CommentAuthorUnknown
no you not... he shouldnt blame you for forgetting his bag and he should have gone to retrive it! if he spends all his money then you are doing the right thing by not giving him any cigerattes! (sp)
he should know you are saving. my h2b is really bad for saving aswell. at the end of the month he has nothing left. he isnt saving anything. i pay for things out of my wages each month so and he spends it down the pub! he has remortgaged the flat though which is why i cant complain.
i would talk to him and explain! as it wont get better if you dont xx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
do you think im being stupid then jo?
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I don't think you are being stupid at all. I just think that maybe I should have asked the h2b.........
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
you know the thing with computers is i cant tell if your being sarcastic or genuine here
if you are being sarcastic maybe i am petty but i dont just take things even h2bs, and i only got the phone yesterday, havnt even used the earphones yet.
if you are being genuine sorry
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
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remember though if you sit him down to talk he may say somethings that he finds irritate him about you too - There are two people in a relationship BUT You have to talk it through and now rather than later - you dont want to talk it through and realise youre not happy after the wedding as thats way way way more complicated.
I do things that I know for a fact that H2B doesnt like me doing and upsets him - he does the same to me too - but we are fully aware of these things because we talk.
No one is perfect and you have to accept them with their flawes. but if the negatives really outweigh the possitives then you have to think is it worth it!?
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CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
he seems to be acting his shoe size rather than his age here hun!
defo sit him down and tell him your not being his mug any longer..but you dont appreciate him borrowing your stuff (especially headphones.if they are a half decent pair they can be pricey to replace..i know cause im so bad with headphones lol) without asking you first!!!! ...explain that your not the one on the train/bus with him so your really not at fault for making him forget it!!! and let him throw his toys out the pram for a bit and sullk!!! just make sure that when he needs something off you , you put your foot down and explain why ur not letting him..until he gets the message he cant walk all over ya x
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
No I'm not being sarcastic and it is just the way you are reading it. I guess it just goes to show how easy it is to take someone you love for granted. I never even thought about what he would think as to me I just think he can borrow anything of mine when he wants so just assume that it is OK. Like you say though it is wrong to assume things and it has made me rethink the way I do things. I would never want the h2b to feel like you are right now. Guess we both need to just sit down and talk to them about it.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
yeah i agree, i think im just stressed and ive been with kev 4 years and he has always been the same, yet it only seems to be bothering me now. He isnt an easy person to talk to, he has a temper and if he hears something he doesnt like it, its world war 3. I just cant help feeling to myself, 'can i be bothered??' sounds like i dont love him but i do, more than anything in the whole world, i was looking at him sleeping last nite and thought god i love you, then i find something that annoys me and i think s.o.d it i dont want you
im so confused.......
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Yikes. Now that does worry me that you feel that way. Doesn't sound that healthy to me.......
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
ask yourself are you in love with him or are you in love with being with someone and the idea of getting married.
?
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
i know and i dont know why i feel like this. Help? lol
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
im not bothered about getting married rhiannon, we wasnt going to at all, he changed his mind last year. he just drives me up the wall sometimes and even little stupid things annoy me. I dont think it is him, its definately me, what wrong with me?
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
Oh hun only you can answer this one. Do some soul searching and work out what is really right for you and what makes you happy. One thing I would say is that you should never be afraid in a relationship. I'm not saying it can't be worked on but it is something that he needs to face up to and learn to manage. You can't live in fear of him getting mad.
Maybe some marriage counselling would help you both to work things out and you would both feel better?
The little things are nothing in relation to how you are feeling right now but they add to it. You have heard of the straw that broke the camels back..............
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
no whats that?
CommentAuthormcewan07
my oh bothers me when it comes to money almost all the time. Although he gets a good wage between child maintenence mortgage, and his and his ex bills thats still being paid off, 2/3 disappear. I work out all the money, and how much we can save to go to the wedding, and give him £50, then he goes on to spend at least £150-200 in a month, if i say anything i get shouted at to get a job. The other day their he said he could get an overtime, so i said take it we need the money , ill give you an extra £50 to your monthly money, he started moaning how should he use one of his days of working to only get £50 . My reply was fine keep it all, but their will be no wedding, that you wanted (ok i do want it but i was all set waiting a few years and having a small wedding). That seemed to keep him quiet. I think you will just need to sit down and talk about it to him, if people cant talk to their OH about problems then the relationship will never last long term
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
i think it must be something in water. my h2b is seriously doing my head so i know how you feel. sometimes they can be so single minded and do not consider their actions at all.
my h2b is off work this week and has seriously got a face on him. he went to shop this a.m. and didnt even bother asking me i needed anything - needless to say i told him so when he returned. he is now dismantling our daughters wardrobes (even though he wasnt going to originally) and i swear to god if he gets paint on any of my clothes or coats i will knock him out. im starving too but i am refusing to myself to make him anything to eat. petty i know but this is how he gets me. and miss indecisive its definately not you
xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
It means that the last bit of straw was enough to topple the camel rather than it being all the heavy load underneath. In other words problems if left unchecked mount up and if you don't work them out it will take something as stupid as forgetting to ask if he can borrow something to make you feel the way you do and go into melt down. Like you say normally things like this wouldn't bother you but the little things are starting to get to you now and it is because you need to sort out the rest of it.
Don't worry it is something that can be worked on and sorted as we all go through these things. You just need to work out how to make things better for the both of you. I still think that you are right in saying a little respect to ask wouldn't go a miss.
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
lol thanks marie, you have made me smile for the first time this morning
think im just tired, bored, stressed etc so its making me moody
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
youre welcome hun xx
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
think im gonna try and sit down and talk to him tonight, he is going to have to get used to my opinions and deal with it lol x
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
go girl!!!!
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
oh and blackberry headphones arent very good but dont tell him that!!! i use my ipod one on my BB.
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
lol, its the fact i only got it yesterday that gave me the hump, not so much he had taken it. he takes stuff all the time, eats stuff i bought for me or the kids, uses our stuff, takes money out my purse, nicks my fags. Ithink i just had the hump cos it was new lol x
CommentAuthorshellay
he does seem to be taking advantage of you, perhaps you need to sit down and have a bit of a chat, he probably doesnt even realise what he is doing :) x
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CommentAuthormartay (marie)
headphones is one thing, but going in your purse NO NO NO. if that was my h2b id have chopped his fingers off by now. but on flip side he wont even get a stamp from my purse when i tell him too, he brings the purse to me!
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
My h2b uses my BB headphones but I gave them to him when I first got the phone as I can only use in-ear ones and he likes normal buds... I had only just bought my Sennheiser in-ear ones so said he could use the BB ones and have the iPod as I have my BB now for music. Because I gave him those though, I do shout at him if he ever uses my headphones, he's borrowed them a couple of times and always changes the little rubber bits to bigger ones so they fit him, but then when I go to listen and can't get my earphones in my ears it's very annoying!
Tell him off, and ask him if he could at least tell you or ask you if he's going to take something of yours or the kids etc, men are dense and sometimes just think everything is there for them, not realising it might not be!
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CommentAuthormartay (marie)
so what have we all learnt from this post today girls..................................... men are dense, insensitive, inconsiderate, selfish etc etc. so why do we want to marry them then!!! cos deep down we LOVE EM'
xx
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
yeh you kinda get to love their "faults " after a while and it seems that they dont bother you that much..well thats how it is for me lol
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
lol marie good post.
i know i love him, he just gets on my wick. i love my kids but they get on my wick too, and im not exactly just going to give up on them so cant just give up on Kev. although he will be getting a bollo cking later and i will be hiding my earphones in future lol x
CommentAuthormartay (marie)
hey i love both h2b and daughter, but soooooooooooo cannot wait for monday 18th when he goes to work and shes back in school and then its just me and my dog oh and a clean house without every surface having stuff dumped on it. xx
all ive got to give to you are these 5 words tonight
Thank you for loving me, for being my eyes when i couldnt
see. for parting my lips when i couldnt breathe
thank you for loving me xxx
